Name for girly bits!!

[Honey2]

So here’s a bit of a random question…… (hope this is ok to post!)
After previously having 3 boys I’m now preg with a girl (due any day!) and we have been thinking about the more casual name you use for a girls bits! I know the ‘official’ line is to call it the proper name (vagina) but of course for the boys we normally refer to their ‘Willy’ as it’s pretty much universal…. For girls however seems to be more regionally decided. We no longer live where I grew up so I’m not sure the word I used as I child is appropriate (and I hate it). What does everyone call it with their little girls?!!!

thanks

The proper name would be vulva rather than vagina. Didn't really use those words though tbh.

I have to admit we said front bum or girly bits when dd was younger. She knows the proper names

These threads never go well. Just call it the vulva (which is actually the proper name not vagina 😂)

It’s strongly recommended these days just to use the correct terms rather than a fluffy euphemism.

Anyone squeamishly complaining about the word “vulva” - I can confirm that if you use it enough, it stops being “weird” and just becomes a normal and actually quite a cute sounding word. My DD has never called it anything else and we find it just normal, not something to titter or squeal about. Try it! It’s a good thing getting used to using terms that are just normal body parts for women.

We use 'privates', and then vulva vagina etc for specifics

As a very young girl my first dc called hers a Mary. Still used by her younger dsis 's. Guess they can use whatever they want to refer to their bits as!!
Ds 7 has a parsnip - his decision!! . Is well aware it is really a penis though.

We call it nunny here!

Foof. As a child we went by fairy, fnur, titty.

Front bum, back bum, girl bits, vulva all in use here…

And yes, for God’s sake, don’t call the whole lot the vagina… call the vagina the vagina…

We call it a willow. So willy for boy bits and willow for girl bits!

DH started to refer to it as her foo foo when DD was born and he changed her nappy. I decided I'd use that name over my dead body and used vulva, thinking she'd be able to change it to fanny, mary etc. when she's older and gets into conversations with female friends at primar yage. She's continued with using vuvla, but isn't old enough to say L reliably yet, so has a "voover" instead. Does the job for her, she can explain things clearly about that part of her body.

Penis and vulva are not dirty shameful words. Nor are testicles or vagina or breasts. They're the correct name for body parts. Just call them what they are. Don't bring up the next generation to have silly words for things and carry on a cycle of shame. I particularly hate front bum - my vulva isn't a bum and it isn't dirty. There's also valid safeguarding reasons for using accurate terminology. Sorry to be harsh.

To all of you who's dc use non proper names please don't worry about your dc and safeguarding mentioned here.. At a very young age my dd was more than able to secure a conviction for her abuser using a name she gave her own genitals..

Vulva is the area visible. Let's stop raising our children to believe that their vulva, vagina and labia are shameful and should not be acknowledged.

Also. 'Titty' someone is genuinely calling their vulva TITTY?!

I think "privates" would be fairly unambiguous if you want a euphemism that won't offend but also is widely understood.

We use privates for front and bum, dd says her brother has a peanut. Sometimes use vulva, I won't lie, it feels weird. I'm in the cutesy crowd, even though it's not ideal. I know what they mean if they say privates or bum, that's fine for us. Point to clarify if necessary.

We call it your Nelly . I'm sure you will have your ass ( anus ) handed to you by the pc brigade on here that you should call it a vulva . But that just sounded like an onion to me so we went with Nelly 😂

I don't think 'kid words' indicate shame. Few people would consider abdomens shameful but most people refer to children's "tummies" anyway. Heads get called noggins, etc.

Nevertheless I do think it's important that kids know the correct terminology for things anyway, for safety reasons. That doesn't mean alternatives can't be used around the house, too, though.

I had the same issue, willy is universal but I don't like any of the names for vagina! We've always just used 'bits'. My DC also know the proper name.

Flower. And Winky.

its ok not to want small children to be shouting "mummy my VAGINA is itchy!" in maccy Ds lol

My daughter uses the term 'lady parts'.

We tried vulva and vagina with my girls but they found them quite tricky to sound out they called it a 'shiny' which has kind of stuck

I use a casual word and the proper word interchangeably with my daughter. More often than not my daughter uses the proper word.

Nunny or vulva.

Shes 22 months old.

We used front bottom/bum to start with and I am now introducing vulva but DD (2.5) still prefers front bum. I don't want any silly words but feel like front bum is unambiguous enough for her to be understood.

Bits
When she goes to the loo she wipes her "bits and bottom".
Pretty unambiguous.

Vulva and vagina. I was shocked to see SIL recoil in disgust when my 6 year old told me a boy had kicked her and 'hurt her vulva'...sil was more disgusted by the word vulva than the assault on her niece.

We say vulva.

Front bum/bottom is very derogatory to women and a horrible term to teach a little girl to use about her own body, it’s the kind of term misogynists use in bad porn.

Bum makes poo. Vulva births babies. Quite different.

Teach her to call it a vulva, so if she’s ever assaulted she at least has the word to explain what happened. Toddlers saying ‘he grabbed my bum’ when they’re trying to explain sexual assault is so sad.