Positive of having a boy

[louloulas11]

Hi all, I wondered if anyone could help. I have 1 little girl already and am now pregnant with baby number 2. To be totally honestly I'm petrified of having a little boy. I'm the most loving person ever and know I will idolise him once he is here... but I can't stop worrying. The worry of having a boy full stop. Being a mother in law to a potential wife, the worry of him going out clubbing and not being able to pick him up as it's more embarrassing for a boy.. the worry that usually the boy ends up going with the wife's family!

I know this is going to annoy some people but I cannot help how I feel and I just wondered if anyone could help/ advise. Xxx

My mum has me and my younger brother. 4 years between us. She said my brother was more cuddly and close to her as a youngster. My dad died 2 years ago and my brother helps my mum with DIY in the home and is always around for her. He was definitely easier than me as a teen!

I had both at once. My boy is a lot easier. You will love it.

I have two boys and they are marvellous! They are so funny and loving, they make me laugh everyday!

My MIL has three sons and two DIL's and we all get on fine. I'd really try not to worry about hypothetical things that are decades away. Just enjoy your lovely boy!

I think you are rather getting ahead of yourself here! Concentrate on bringing him up properly and most of those things won't be an issue.

I've got one of each - late teens/early 20s now, but I treated them very similarly bringing them up. Difference related to their character and personality rather than sex.

Why are you worrying about things that may not even happen?

Congrats on your pregnancy. Aww don’t worry OP, probably more likely that you will have another girl. I had two boys, 21mths gap. My two are adults now, but they have been great, never given my any worries. Not interested in pubs or clubbing. Been very easy to bring up on the whole. Just take each day as it comes, you will love your baby regardless, boy or girl.

I have a toddler boy and he is so much fun. I wouldn't mind if I had another :)

There are a lot of assumptions in your posts that don't reflect my experience of having a son.

My son is kind and funny. He is the light of my life, no one can make me laugh like he does. As for 'going with the wife's family' how do you know your son will want to get married or indeed marry a woman?

In the kindest possible way you need to stop making assumptions based on stereotypes.

Forgot to add, I had an awesome MIL, much closer to her than my own mum.

I have a boy and would have another in a heartbeat.
He's a toddler now, so funny, cheeky and loving. No one can make me laugh like him.
I get along with my MIL just as well as I do my mum.

I have 3 all grown up now. Even now they are so lovely and affectionate. Long term girlfriends are the daughters I never had. I've never had to pick them up from a club but I did once get a phone call at 5.30am as DS1 was drunk and somehow ended up a few towns away via train. He wasn't embarrassed and still laughs about it now. They do whatever they can to make my life better. I was researching new washing machines as ours was coming to the end of it's life and they said we will pay for it Mum and don't go picking a cheap one, get the one you want. How lovely is that. You get out what you put in in any relationship.

I have one of each and the boy was easier from day one!

Little boys are adorable. Mine is the light of my life.

Thanks so much all. These have been lovely to read. I was have been a worrier from as young as I can remember. So overthink everything. It's even more shocking as my
Parents have me and my brother. My brother has been nothing but a joy and we have always been so close. My husband on the other hand is not close to his parents and was a sod growing up! But I can clearly see this was ALOT to do with parenting.

You are all very lucky ladies to have such wonderful sons! Xxxx

I only wanted girls. I didn't know any boys as babies, so I was shocked when my second was a boy. He was so different! He sucked like a vacuum cleaner. He was so noisy. He loved to bang things on the furniture to make a noise. He was a real handful. My girls were so quiet in comparison.

He was a sullen and uncommunicative teenager, but all the way through he loved his mum and still adores me. I'm glad I had a boy.

Look on the bright side, he might be gay And you Then can’t lose him to his wife’s family!

more seriously, I have a girl and a boy and they are both wonderful. I feel beyond lucky. I am working really hard to try and treat them both the same and prepare them for life properly.

it will all be great once you meet your little boy. You will adore him!

I have a girl and boy. I find my boy more of a whirlwind, always on the go but less manipulative and emotional. Loves cuddles and in general easier as a toddler.

I feel like MN gives a false view on MIL, I love my MIL and have a really good relationship, we can spend an hour on the phone chatting.

Don’t worry OP.

Im super close to my MIL and make sure she feels included and close to our family and her son. I put proper effort in and vice versa. I think MN gives a false view of the majority of MIL/DIL relationships.

This isn't a criticism, but my advice would be to seriously check yourself on that gender stereotyping.

So many of those things you said about boys are sweeping statements that actually don't make a lot of sense.

Boys/ men are not a homogenous group - 50% of the population are male.

You have no idea what your son is going to be like until he's here - try not to put predefined ideas onto him before he's even born.

My ds is in his 30's, married with dc.
Rings me much more than his dsis. Has the loveliest dw ever and I wouldn't be without him

Both my boys are so sweet and affectionate. They're amazing

I'm 9 weeks into having a boy, having had a girl first. So far the only positive that I didn't already have with DD is that there's no vagina to avoid getting poo into when cleaning up during nappy changes. On the other hand he occasionally does a magnificent water fountain impression during said nappy changes which I did not get with DD.

But I was a sod growing up to my mum😳, between puberty and 25. I mellowed in my later twenties! So it’s not boys only.
I had 2 DS and like posters here think I had an easier ride with them by far than I gave my mum, or most girls give their mums I know. Boys can be more affectionate than girls at younger age, my youngest was still cuddling up on sofa at bedtime with me at age 14 if mates not around! I certainly never had the massive rows with them that I had with my mum.
yes they can be more distant as get into 20’s , but in my experience the bigger driver for more “distance“ emotionally is actual distance! It is hard to have a close relationship with adult kids in 20s when they’re young, free for responsibility and working with only weekends off if you live 200 miles away. They have better things to do with their precious free time than go see their ageing parents frequently 🤣🤣🤣🙄

My boy (4) is the most affectionate little person and is so full of love. But I get your worries, I'm so close to my mum and my husband and his brothers aren't close to their mum so I do get it!

'Being a mother in law to a potential wife, the worry of him going out clubbing and not being able to pick him up as it's more embarrassing for a boy.. the worry that usually the boy ends up going with the wife's family!'

My boy has a learning disability so this sort of thing doesn't really factor into his future. He is my absolute pride and joy.

Your boy might be gay. He might decide he is a woman. He might knit you blankets and write you poems. Don't project onto him before he is born.