Positive of having a boy

[louloulas11]

Hi all, I wondered if anyone could help. I have 1 little girl already and am now pregnant with baby number 2. To be totally honestly I'm petrified of having a little boy. I'm the most loving person ever and know I will idolise him once he is here... but I can't stop worrying. The worry of having a boy full stop. Being a mother in law to a potential wife, the worry of him going out clubbing and not being able to pick him up as it's more embarrassing for a boy.. the worry that usually the boy ends up going with the wife's family!

I know this is going to annoy some people but I cannot help how I feel and I just wondered if anyone could help/ advise. Xxx

Your worries are completely unfounded. My social butterfly of a son is more than happy for me to roll up at 2am to pick him up.
As for being a MIL, he may be gay and you end up being the ultimate in MIL.
I’m more than happy to become a MIL since I’m much less likely to be expected to provide childcare 24/7. Also less likely to be dragged on holiday as an unpaid nanny.

Honestly OP, this fears shouldn't be worrying you so much. My DH adores his mother and often calls her, takes her out etc. Both my brothers see my parents a lot more than I do! You're not going to lose your son once he grows up. I have a son I adore. We're extremely close, he's very loving and cuddly and he's such a joy.

I've got a boy already (2) and trilled to be expecting another boy. Although every baby is different I would say my boy is easier than my friends girls. He is very loving and affectionate.

I also get on very well with mil and spend a lot of time together.

My mother has 3 girls - all moved away and ended up living close to their in-laws. My mother in law has 3 boys- all live nearby and spend lots of time together. Her retirement is v busy.
I worried a bit like you did but now realise it's silly and there's no point. Boys don't necessarily end up close to the in-laws and girls won't necessarily be close to their mothers. It's more down to the relationship with the child not the sex of the child.

I'm one of 2 girls, all but 1 of my cousins are girls, the 1 boy was far older than me, so very little interaction. When I was pg1, I desperately wanted a girl, it just felt that that's what a family was, somehow. Typically I got a boy, he's 20 now and I could not have enjoyed his childhood more, he's away at uni now but the first glimpse I get of him when he comes home is magical, his face lights up and my heart sores. You'll be a very lucky lady with a son.

Just to make things clear, I have a girl too. When I was pg with her, I wanted another boy, lol. My feelings for my children have nothing to do with their sex and everything to do with their personalities.

Boys don't get sexually harrassed as often. Boys statistically end up with better careers and a better pay check. Boys have more chance of getting a managerial role.

Oh and the "boys will leave you once they have a wife" bollocks doesn't happen unless you parent them that way. Just make sure during his childhood that you expect to keep a part in his l

I have had my son now for almost 22 weeks, the only issue I have found so far is if you are not quick with the nappy they pee in your face!

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In his life and that you expect to see each other reasonably frequently. My dh sees his mum wuite regularly. Mostly because MIL makes a point of wanting to see him every fortnight at tge very least so if we're not coming over she'll call and ask which day would suit us for her to visit us. It works quite well.

I seriously cannot deal with posts like this, don't have kids if you don't want to have a certain sex! Makes me angry, I have two and they are lovely of course, do you not have a brother, uncle, dad or someone who is male in your family? maybe a boyfriend, husband can't be all bad surely??

Oh and about being a future MIl: just keep your advice to yourself unless asked and keep acting friendly.

It doesn't read to me as if she doesn't want a boy, more that she has a bit of anxiety because she can't envision how to parent a son. I didn't care about the sex at all but I had a lot more ideas about how to parent a daughter because I have been a daughter. It's easier for some of us to have parenting ideas about a child of your own sex, that doesn't mean that you don't want to have the other sex.

My son was a much easier baby than my DD and we are still very close now he's an adult. I also have the most amazing DIL who is as close to me as my DD.

I have a little girl and then a boy with a 2 year age gap. I adore them both and there is something so special about my boy! He is funny, active, smiley and just an absolute joy. I’m sure you’ll feel the same.

I have a wild boy and I love him. He's 3 and he's the best. Yes, he's absolutely feral and will run everywhere and climb anything and always seems to have a shark or a plastic bug in his pocket to scare people with, but he also loves rainbows and unicorns and glitter and doing yoga with me.

As for your other concerns - stick your credit card on whatever app is around in 18 years and he can get himself home. I also absolute adored my late MIL, much more than my own Mum and I'd probably closer to DH's family than I am my own. I think you're letting your worries get ahead of you.

I’m the exact opposite! I have two boys and am currently pregnant with number 3. I’m terrified it will be a girl!! I mean I’m not I’m just scared of how different it will be if it’s a girl. My boys are boisterous, roughty toughty, fearless but also they love me like no one else on this earth. They would protect me eternally. Definitely Mummies boys, they are 8&3.

I have boys some in their 20s. I still pick them up, their friends up, their girlfriends up and look after their friends pets when they're on holiday. They're all still at home and they're amazing.

Well hopefully your baby's father is a good example of how a boy can turn out well!

Having a son is great!

ds 6 is the joy of my life . He has the best sense of humour ever , is loving , kind , always on the go and gives the best hugs and kisses .

Two Ds and a dd

I love having boys. So much good stuff about them

You're so lucky to be pregnant for a second time. Focus on that.

I'm closer to (male!) DPs family, I talk to them more than he does, one of his sisters is one of my best friends, I called his grandma regularly through covid so she could see the kids and we see them a lot. He was less "looked after" than his sisters, boy plus middle child wasn't great for him, if you have a boy look out for him just as much please! My boy is my peaceful one.

Well I have two older brothers who stayed loyal and local to our mum for her entire life. I, on the other hand, emigrated.

These generalisations NEED to end. There are no guarantees in life that a daughter will look after you for life. We can only hope and pray that we get good relationships with our children so that they want to stay close and choose to be in contact with you.

Op, please please don’t worry. You will adore your little boy. Out of my two, my son is more affectionate, more considerate and generally way more pleasant to be around. And THAT is all down to his personality. He’s now 14 and yesterday said to me “I will love you forever. I have always loved you and I love you more with every passing day”. My 10 year old daughter glanced up from her iPad, farted, and laughed hysterically at herself.

I’ve raised them both the same way. It is personality.