Rude comments about 3rd child

[LittlemissMama67]

Is it just me or does it always seem to go the same way?

first baby: everyone is super excited for you

second baby: everyone is excited and hopes it’s the opposite sex of what you already have

third baby: rudeness

I’m currently 18 weeks pregnant with our third (and final) baby. 70% of responses when people find out I’m pregnant is “was it planned?” What does that matter exactly 😒 or “oh dear, you’re gonna have your hands full” why can’t people just say congratulations and keep their shitty comments to themselves. I’m actually excited believe it or not and very much wanted this baby, what a crazy concept.

also the usual

you sure there’s only one in there?

scoffing at her name ( Orla ) although that came after my 7yo son blurted out the name when a known bitchy family member asked much to my dismay.

your too big for 4 months.. okay… not helpful

maybe I’m just hormonal but people can’t be right arses

1. I wasn't having a go.
2. Who are the Radfords?

The family that have 21 kids

Flipping heck 21!

I felt like having a T shirt printed when I was pg with number 4 - with things like, "Yes, I do know what causes it"
"No our TV isn't broken"
"None of your business if it was planned"
"No, I'm not mad, but your questions are driving in that direction...."

Try and enjoy it and ignore the judgement - hard though it is. I think that there are many people who will throw the environmental card at you - but I find that we are far less wasteful than many with fewer children - we have only flown on holiday once (skiing), we only have one car, we walk or drive everywhere, have very little food waste, try and buy local food, run a full dishwasher once a day, almost all of their clothes are recycled down through the family/passed on to others etc etc etc. The hypocrisy of people with one or two children who ski, go to the Carribean at Christmas etc, constantly buy new clothes and cars, and then lecture me about my environmental irresponsibility because I have four children, do irritate me!

We got a lot of this with my third. Openly rude, judgemental and intrusive comments.

There's a smaller gap between DC1 and DC2 than there is between DC3. So my husband and I both had people openly and bluntly assume DC3 was unplanned. Even if that were the case (it wasn't) why would it have been any of their business, unless I volunteered that information.

My husband got so fed up with it. One day, he replied with a "DC3 was very planned but sometimes getting pregnant, staying pregnant, or having a baby doesn't go to plan". Or words to that affect when someone said something really crass in assumption DC3 was unplanned because of the age gap. The mortified reaction from the person was worth it - and hopefully, they went away realising why you should never make uninvited rude or intrusive comments about anyone else's pregnancy ever!

Youre having a third? How lovely!