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Orgasm during pregnancy

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reassuranceforme · 11/04/2022 16:42

I'm 14 weeks today and freaking myself out abit. I may have finally caved and relieved myself earlier... now I'm worrying I'm going to start bleeding or something.
I had a small amount of spotting at around 8 weeks which I was told was old implantation blood. I also had one tiny spot of random blood last Monday and nothing else.
Had scans etc and baby seems happy.
Can I have done any harm or worse ? Worrying and feeling guilty! Starting to finally feel normal again but also extremely anxious still

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DaisyChain16 · 11/04/2022 16:43

Have you spoken to your midwife about your levels of anxiety?
What do you possibly think will happen to the baby because you've had an orgasm?!

gamerchick · 11/04/2022 16:46

No it's fine OP.

Furrbabymama87 · 11/04/2022 16:49

It's fine unless you've been told not to. I couldn't have gone without orgasms through all my pregnancies. I told myself the endorphins were good for me and the baby. I honestly think it's good for you.

YouBoggleMyMind · 11/04/2022 16:49

Sex and orgasms during pregnancy are perfectly safe unless you have specifically been told not to by a health care professional

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reassuranceforme · 11/04/2022 16:53

No I haven't been told not too. But to be honest my midwife put me down as an ivf pregnancy and all sorts so I wouldn't put it past her to just not tell me lol
I had a mmc a few months ago so am extremely anxious.

And yes thanks I am under the mental health team to deal with it.
Why is that an answer to everything on this board ?!

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Karla2020 · 11/04/2022 16:56

I can speak for myself when I was pregnant with my baby girl, I had high levels of horniness/libido, it seemed that the degree of excitement went along with the pregnancy, I had sex until a few days before the baby was born, and I can say that I had high orgasms

JaninaDuszejko · 11/04/2022 16:57

If you want to have sex when pregnant go for it. Your orgasms can be more intense and it's good to enjoy it now because there is likely to be a drought after the baby arrives.

ifyouturnonthelight · 11/04/2022 17:03

@reassuranceforme because it's not normal to worry about having an orgasm whilst pregnant that's why..

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reassuranceforme · 11/04/2022 17:03

Why are some women told to avoid sex and orgasms if they're okay. Does anyone know ?

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ifyouturnonthelight · 11/04/2022 17:05

Probably because they've had lletz procedure after abnormal cells on a smear test. Or a previously incompetent cervix

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reassuranceforme · 11/04/2022 17:06

[quote ifyouturnonthelight]@reassuranceforme because it's not normal to worry about having an orgasm whilst pregnant that's why.. [/quote]
Oh believe me I realise most my worries during this pregnancy haven't been normal, but I don't need someone reinforcing that to me. It doesn't help, it just makes me feel stupid. Reassurance helps. I thought that was what this forum was about. Being able to ask real life people questions rather than letting the worries eat away at me

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Trinacham · 11/04/2022 17:07

Pregnancy made me really crave it so I had lots.. baby is 3 months old now. Stop worrying! (I do understand though, I had bleeding at times which I never found out the cause)

SockQueen · 11/04/2022 17:09

@reassuranceforme

Why are some women told to avoid sex and orgasms if they're okay. Does anyone know ?

For some women, sex in pregnancy should be avoided - if they have had cervical surgery, if they have placenta praevia, if their waters have broken early. But in general sex and orgasms are totally safe. I found it easier to orgasm when pregnant than not - normally it's quite tricky but not once I got second trimester!

IzzyLeigh · 11/04/2022 17:09

I have had a couple episodes of spotting throughout my pregnancy (16w 2d today) and my doctor put me on pelvic rest for 2 weeks after each episode, specifically saying to avoid orgasming. The reason is that orgasms can cause mild uterine contractions. Since they aren't sure why I am spotting, this is a safeguard.
She did tell me though that I could resume activities, whether that be masturbation or sex, once I had no spotting for 2 weeks. Unfortunately for me, my spotting always returns shortly after any time I try to resume something as simple as external masturbation, so I have decided that an orgasm isn't worth the anxiety for me.
With that being said, I think in all likelihood you are fine. However, if you are concerned, it can't hurt to ask your midwife for some peace of mind.

Karla2020 · 11/04/2022 17:09

After I got my girl I went through this phase, I wanted to be closer to her, my care was for her, it lasted about 2 months, then my hard-on went back to what it was before

EsmeDavina · 11/04/2022 17:10

@reassuranceforme

I had this fear too!

I 'relieved' myself too once during pregnancy and I felt like I was crushing the baby with the uterine contractions!! It's so stupid I know but I never did it again 😂

Anyways I wouldn't worry at all. It's a totally normally thing and millions upon millions of people have regular sex and orgasms during pregnancy and are absolutely fine. I get why you're worried though. Speak to GP or midwife if you want some reassurance.

JustOneMoreStep · 11/04/2022 17:14

@reassuranceforme

Why are some women told to avoid sex and orgasms if they're okay. Does anyone know ?

In an IVF pregnancy/some fertility treatments, 'pelvic rest' is recommended at various points during the treatment, but specifically during the 'two week wait' which is at implantation (and that advice varies clinic to clinic). After implantation has happened it should be fine. Some people are more comfortable leaving it for 6weeks/8 weeks or whatever but certainly by 12 weeks baby is firmly attached and in most cases sex life can resume as normal. The only exception is if there is a problem and total rest (otherwise known as bed rest) is recommended. Its not the sort of thing that anyone would forget to tell you.

EsmeDavina · 11/04/2022 17:14

@ifyouturnonthelight I get the OPs anxiety to be honest.

I had an IVF pregnancy and was paranoid about doing anything which might harm the baby or cause miscarriage.

Others might think it's an obscene question but I get it. As I said in my response to @reassuranceforme I had an orgasm once during pregnancy and that was enough for me. I didn't feel comfortable.

elliesmummy19 · 11/04/2022 17:14

Unless you've been told not to then sex and orgasms are perfectly fine and not going to harm your baby. Enjoy!

dworky · 11/04/2022 17:15

Where have you got the idea an orgasm can in any way harm a foetus?

Moonshine160 · 11/04/2022 17:19

I get where your worry is coming from, OP. I’m 16 weeks now but had spotting throughout the pregnancy (unexplained) and I darent do anything sexual in case it makes it worse. Unless you’ve been advised against it though you should be fine!

EV117 · 11/04/2022 17:20

Other than in very special circumstances, couples just carry on with having sex during pregnancy and women orgasm just as normal. So you’ll be fine. Why do you think it will be harmful?

Hmum0fthree · 11/04/2022 17:25

Yes op sex and orgasms are perfectly fine, totally understand your anxiety a friend had a very similar experience and has just had their baby recently after having a miscarriage in their first pregnancy , its fine to ask and just try ignore the comments that trigger your anxiety

Hmum0fthree · 11/04/2022 17:25

If you type most questions in to google followed by NHS you can usually get the answer there

0infp0 · 11/04/2022 17:25

Don't need to worry op, it's one of the only things left to enjoy in pregnancy

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