Orgasm during pregnancy

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I'm 14 weeks today and freaking myself out abit. I may have finally caved and relieved myself earlier... now I'm worrying I'm going to start bleeding or something.
I had a small amount of spotting at around 8 weeks which I was told was old implantation blood. I also had one tiny spot of random blood last Monday and nothing else.
Had scans etc and baby seems happy.
Can I have done any harm or worse ? Worrying and feeling guilty! Starting to finally feel normal again but also extremely anxious still

I was fine in my last pregnancy, didn't give it a second thought. But that was 7 years ago, I haven't been able to conceive since and had to have fertility treatment including ivf, I had a mmc after ivf and then some how fell pregnancy naturally with this little one. I am now terrified of losing them too. Hence the anxiety and worrying about every little thing, I haven't had a bath since I found out only showers, yes some might think I'm bonkers but it's fear.

www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/keeping-well/sex/

@dworky

Where have you got the idea an orgasm can in any way harm a foetus?

I'm guessing because having an orgasm can feel like your womb contractions and womb contractions can make you feel like you are going to cause a problem and create implantation issues. To me, that seems like a perfectly normal anxiety after ivf and mmc.

I’m genuinely confused. Why is having an orgasm bad? Surely it’s good for you! Pregnant or not.

If anything is going to harm the pregnancy it's more likely to be your stress rather than the fact you had a bath or an orgasm. I know what it's like to worry, I've got anxiety too. But sometimes it helps when someone tells you you're being unreasonable.

I also had this thought... after 4 mc, and surgery on my uterus I wonder if it is OK? I am only 6 wk so early days for us and had a mmc at 10 weeks. Probably a silly thought but still, I understand the concern OP!

I orgasmed all the way through my pregnancy. It's perfectly fine.

I'm just always expecting the worst, it's an awful feeling and exhausting.

[quote ifyouturnonthelight]@reassuranceforme because it's not normal to worry about having an orgasm whilst pregnant that's why.. [/quote]
Of course its normal to worry about that! Its normal to worry about anything in pregnancy that relates to that area especially when its your first or you've struggled to conceive.

Op during my first pregnancy, after sex with DH i was in a panic because i had a uterine muscle spasm afterwards and this was before 20 weeks. All was fine tho!

For me, I was put on no sex/orgasms for my pregnancy as I had a bleed at 10 weeks and a scan revealed a large pocket of blood just above the uterus. Doing anything that risked dislodging that pocket of blood put me at high risk of miscarrying.

I tell you this not to worry you, but to make all the people making you feel crazy, over-anxious or stupid for worrying about orgasms in pregnancy, aware that it's a common question and cause of anxiety in pregnancy.
As it was, my little boy is 18 months and asleep in my arms right now 🙂
What I had, I believe, isn't super common, thankfully. But after miscarriages and IVF I was totally anxious and worried about anything and everything so I totally understand how you feel.

Keep talking to your midwife, friends and family (and the helpful people on here) but don't bottle things up or let it stress you too much!

Generally, unless you've been told not too by a medical professional, then sex/orgasms are completely safe 🙂

Also, huge congratulations 🥳

Unless the midwife or consultant have told you to abstain then it's fine. I've had a lot of sex dreams where I wake up in agony from an orgasm as it causes painful cramps in my uterus, so I've decided to abstain whilst awake because it's not worth the pain. :D

I’m sure I read somewhere that an orgasm in utero is like a gentle rocking for the baby, they actually like it, so crack on girl!

I had really intense orgasms during my pregnancies. No harm will come to baby and it will make you feel good. I had sex throughout my pregnancies and felt up for it more than usual. Besides after baby is born you will feel too tired for sex for a few months.

Oh I totally understand and share your anxiety, I am 3 weeks pregnant with ivf. My IVF nurse said there is no problem at all, so you're good to go. Also, there's an old wives tale that if you've got high libito in pregnancy you're going to have a girl, so science and tradition says it's all fine 😅

Reassurance only helps in the short term, long term it makes anxiety worse.

I found during my last pregnancy my labido and sex drive had a huge increase. First few weeks I was cautious as worried what impact I could have to the pregnancy (which it doesn't) but then I hit a point where I just gave in. The strangest things would quickly get me rurally turned on. I probably had more orgasums during pregnancy than the previous few years lol! and most alone without help of hubby :) So just go for it a and enjoy... :)

Since the baby is born now the OP probably hasn't given it any thought lately like.

Hey there,
I am almost 10 weeks. I already have brown discharge now and then. But after all scans and pelvic exam, Dr. says there is nothing to worry, all is normal. But, I forgot to mention doc that after intercourse and orgasm at night, I am leaking watery fluid (not mucusy) the next day. 2 days ago after retching hard, I had this fluid leak. Mom said might be semen from last night's encounter.Can anyone shed light on this issue?

We DTD when I was 8weeks and I bled a lot freaked out went to a scan and they said baby is fine. Just your cervix is more sensitive so ....be more gentle 😆
Felt so embarrassed. I was so scared we disnt DTD until I was around 15weeks and we were super gentle no issues. And pregnancy made having an Orgasim easier. So we DTD a lot until I was massive around 36weeks.