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pg symptons seem to be reducing - worried - anyone else had this?!

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tryingnottoobsess · 08/01/2008 11:07

Hi

I'm driving myself mental because my pg symptoms seem to have reduced in the last few days...

*haven't need to wee during the night since Thurs
*no 'womb stretchy' pains since Sat
*Less nauseous (still no appetite though)

I am 6+4, and am torturing myself, as my last pg ended around this point (died at 6w, m/c at 8).

Anyone got any words of reassurance - maybe successful p/gs where symptoms were up and down?

Getting to 12 weeks seems like a lifetime away - any tips for patience?!

Shouldn't really be doing this at work, but I'm very distracted - will try to check back at lunch....

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goingfor3 · 08/01/2008 11:11

It is very normal for symptoms to go up and down. Mine certainly did, I had days of feeling pregnant in the early stages and days of feeling nothing.
No tips for patience, I'm 19 weeks and still worry!

gigglewitch · 08/01/2008 11:13

I know that panic feeling very well, just hang in there. yes my 'feeling' pg went up and down, and like you i had history of mc, so analysed blardy well everything. if it is in any way possible, see if you can get a scan, blag it as a 'dating scan' if you have to, confide in gp about your worries. hopefully your gp will want to set your mind at rest. If this isn't possible, though, just keep coming on here an talking to us all. Tis addictive (you probably know that) and there is lots of support. I have had too many m/c's to admit, and have three beautiful DC.
Wishing you lots of luck.

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tryingnottoobsess · 08/01/2008 12:40

Thanks goingfor3 and gigglewitch, I was hoping there'd be someone out there who'd experienced similar - it really does help!

Yep, think I might have to hatch a plan for getting a scan.

Thanks again x

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trish12 · 08/01/2008 13:21

I can understand your concern, i myself miscarried at 8wks about 6yrs ago. And since ive been pregnant ive had exactly the same anxiety. But you neednt worry, when i was about 10 or 12 wks , my boobs suddenly stopped bieng sore and i automatically thought something was wrong, so i rang my ward and talked to a midwife, who reasurred me that this was normal. And now im 36wks and ready to give birth. My advice would be dont worry in silence, give your midwife a ring no matter how silly it may seem, it is worth it for peace of mind.Hope that helps.

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tryingnottoobsess · 08/01/2008 13:50

Thanks Trish, all the best with the birth, and thanks for your kind words.

unfortunately in the last hour I've started spotting bright red - feel like I've been here before. Doc at 4pm, hopefully she'll refer me for a scan. Bum.

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goingfor3 · 08/01/2008 17:35

tryingnottoobsess I'm so sorry to hear about the spotting. How is it now?

gigglewitch · 08/01/2008 17:45

i had spotting both in successful and m/c pgs, so it isn't always bad news. just hope you get a scan asap.
thinking of you
x

trish12 · 08/01/2008 18:18

so have i, i spotted with my first and with this pregnancy, i really hope all is ok, keeping my fingers crossed for you, good luck hun.x

trish12 · 09/01/2008 13:47

How are you? been thinking about you all day, couldnt find the room at first, then somebody sent me a link. Hope its good news.x

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tryingnottoobsess · 09/01/2008 15:17

Oh god, you're all so lovely, it's really touching. It's also reassuring to hear 1st hand that things can still be OK even with spotting.

1st available slot for a scan is tomorrow 11.30, so I'm trying (fairly unsuccessfully!)to put it out of my head until then.

Haven't bled today (well, a tiny bit of dark blood, which I think is OK-ish, sorry if TMI) so I'm crossing everything until tomorrow.

Thanks again. DH is ace, but also worried, and I haven't told any friends/fam I'm pg yet, so it feels great to get some female support.

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trish12 · 09/01/2008 17:21

Is your blood turning dark brown, or have you had any dark brown blood? if so, thats what they call old blood, and is generally left over from your last period, thats what happened to me on two occasions.

gigglewitch · 09/01/2008 21:57

really really hoping everything works out for you. it's not tmi...we've been here, remember. Just take care of yourself and rest when you can - allegedly it doesnt make a huge difference to the end result but it does make you feel like you've done what you can to be careful.
Thinking of you, fingers and toes x'd for you. Please, if you've time let, us know how you get on with the scan. Good luck

trish12 · 09/01/2008 23:41

yes, good luck tomoz with scan, will be thinking of you and be sure to let us know, we are all rooting for you.xx

PurlyQueen · 10/01/2008 00:16

It's hard not to worry in the early stages, but it's normal for your symptoms to fluctuate. During my first trimester I would feel completely fine for a few days, then freak out that something was wrong. Then I'd regret not enjoying my symptom-free days when my boobs were rock-hard again, I was dribbling all over the place and trying not to fall asleep all the time

I'm now coming up to my 29th week and the LO is kicking like a mule!

trish12 · 10/01/2008 00:24

well believe me purlyqueen, think urself lucky its just a mule for now!! ive got 4wks to go and think ive got a herd of sheep in there, lol. It dosent half hurt sometimes aswell, dunno how bubs manages to get in such positions!!

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tryingnottoobsess · 10/01/2008 13:47

Girls, just a quick update - scan today didn't look too positive. I'm 6w 6d, with no heartbeat and measure 5mm, which she said indicates 6w. I've got to go back next week in case I got my dates wrong and I'm not as far gone as I think.

I'm pretty sure I was spot on with my dates, but am holding out a tiny hope until I see no development between scans, or start to bleed again.

Feeling a bit numb and sad.

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trish12 · 10/01/2008 17:42

Im really hoping its just to early to tell, got my fingers crossed for you!! have you had any further bleed or lost any clots? I remember when i had my glucose tolerance test, i got talking to a girl in the waiting room, and she said she was waiting for a scan as shed had one at just over 5 wks and there was no heartbeat, but on that occasion they found it, it was just too early. Im not trying to get your hopes up, but there is a chance that is the case, and some women bleed around the time they wouldve had their period. Have you had any cramping or pain?

scaryhairycat · 10/01/2008 19:29

So sorry to hear that, tryingnottoobsess. Fingers crossed till next week though, you never know - stranger things have happened. xx

sophiewd · 10/01/2008 19:36

Keeping fingers cross for you. Just hopefully some reassurance, I was a week out with DD and had no symptons beyond 7 weeks, and with this one have had no symptoms after 5 weeks.

Chattyhan · 10/01/2008 19:43

just wanted to share my positive experience with you. I had spotting at 5 wks and an internal scan which showed very little so told to go back at 7 wks. Then they saw something but no heartbeat and thought i was behind my dates then more bleeding and small clots so another scan which showed... a heartbeat and growth approx 6 days behind dates! I continued to spot on and off until 12 weeks with several more scans and then had a great pregnancy and ds2 was born 16th sept on his due date! I understand how worrying this is for you and i had had a previous missed miscarriage and was expecting the worst. I hope things work out for you and your little bean and if not i truly believe it happens because things aren't right, not that that helps the loss Thinking of you and reflecting on how things have turned out for me a year on! xx

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tryingnottoobsess · 11/01/2008 11:48

Wow Chatty, and Sophie those posts have really perked me up! I kind of knew that there was a small chance, but it's nice to hear of people beat the odds and it all worked out.

Spent last night wailing at DH and a poor unsuspecting friend who popped round - she didn't even know I was pg, but was brill, bless her!

So today I decided that I can't just spend the next week waiting to miscarry, it's too exhausting. The only way I can cope with it mentally is to believe I'm pg until the fat lady is actually singing. So I came to work (where I'm forced to function vaguely normally) and I'm feeling better than expected.

Still no red blood (a few drops of brown every day, but not panicking about it) but I'm moving around like an 80 year old trying not to 'disturb' anything, and loo visits are an ordeal in case the dreaded red is there.... roll on Weds, at least i'll know for sure either way.

Thanks to Trish and Scary too... Trish you must be nearly there now...?!

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Alex75 · 11/01/2008 13:43

Just joined Mumsnet so I could send you a message to wish you all the best for Wednesday. Please let us know how it goes. Have my fingers crossed for you.

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tryingnottoobsess · 11/01/2008 14:44

Thanks Alex, and welcome. In my experience, this place is great. Whatever is concerning you, there seems to be someone here who has been there and can tell you what to expect, and other people who are happy to give a kind word. Only disadvantage is that it is pretty frank, and I have to remember that in real life it isn't really acceptable to discuss stuff like what colour the blood was/if there were clots (see above) etc etc like it is here!

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Alex75 · 11/01/2008 16:03

No - maybe not a conversation you'd have down the pub! I came onto the website as was surfing the internet for confirmation that the strange way I'm feeling (incredibly tired, sore boobs, ridiculously emotional) means that I could be pregnant. Am scared to take a pregnancy test as I don't want to find out I'm not! Only came off the pill in mid December, having been on it for years, so can't say whether my period is late. I just can't believe it could be that easy to get pregnant and worry that all of my sypmptoms are in my mind.

Anyway, good luck again to you.

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tryingnottoobsess · 11/01/2008 16:24

I'm not really sure about how quickly your cycle sorts itself out after the pill, but I'm sure I read somewhere (zita west??) that some people are super fertile right after they stop the pill. Did you start a thread anywhere on this site about it? I'm sure there are some v knowledgable people around who could help. All the best, and I hope it's the little bean you wish for!

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