Navigating pregnancy after loss

[Cruz86]

Just setting this up so we can move all pregnancy-related stuff from the TTC after miscarriage thread.

@aesgriff @speake @Bridgey8 @Prayingformyrainbow93 @mrshodgy21 @Skl2021 @Ganesh2022 @HoneyLemon29 @bunnykins123 @theblueflowers

Please tag anyone else I have missed, this is as much as my brain can handle 😂

Thank you for your messages. It's really kind and I really appreciate the support. I've just had today's HCG levels back and they're 175

I’m so sorry @Hhdxx 🥺 xx

Hey girlies 👋
Sorry I’ve been just so busy recently I am seriously slacking on mumsnet!! I do read all of the thread and I just love our group support. How is everyone doing? Xx

So sorry @Hhdxx. Can't imagine how hard this all must have been for you.

@Hhdxx I'm so sorry. Were all here for support if you need it xx

@Cruz86 🤞🏻 You will see a heartbeat… I just know it!!! Xx

This nausea is awful, so bad tonight, I was super proud of myself, first time I’ve made the family tea in weeks but it meant I ate later than normal and it’s just sent my stomach over the edge . Normally in bed by now but in the bath trying to ease the stomach discomfort . What are people eating? I’m struggling so much. There’s nothing I fancy, eating is such a chore. Sorry I know this is very trivial but This nausea is just so consuming right now!

Do you mind me asking if anyone has had multiple losses before and what care they had afterwards? Were any tests done? Xxx

@Hhdxx yes we've had multiple losses.
I'm under the care of our local miscarriage clinic.
After our last loss (mmc) I was given a medical plan of the following;
Tests on mmc baby
Internal scan to look at uterus
Bloods
A pre-prescription should I become pregnant again of progesterone

Because we could conceive, they weren't concerned about that mechanism.

I never had my internal scan and bloods because I fell pg again before the appointments. Currently taking the progesterone and I'm booked for regular scans

Happy to discuss my experience if you have questions :) I had no idea what to expect!
Xx

Thank you @aesgriff, I really hope so. My anxiety comes out in such strange ways. I woke up at 3.30am convinced there was a burglar or a fire downstairs and had to turn my fan off to help me eventually get back to sleep. It was horrible and I had such intrusive thoughts about me and my son getting attacked 😩

I felt like this on Sunday @1stTimeTina. I'm literally having to force food in me at the moment. Although yesterday lunchtime I needed a subway and I could easily eat that 😂 Even eating fruit is tough.

Hope everyone's okay xx

@Hhdxx been thinking of you, hope you’re doing as well as you can be. I have had multiple losses and also was referred to my local recurrent miscarriage clinic (Scotland so unsure if it differs from England), I had various blood tests which unfortunately all came back normal so we were told it was unexplained secondary infertility & to keep trying and given ‘lifestyle advice’. My husband and I are both late twenties, super healthy, active, BMI within healthy ranges etc so the advice was nothing we don’t already do frustratingly. We do already have a daughter (2 yo) and we had a complicated birth that resulted in us almost lost her after delivery, luckily and I am grateful every day that she was resuscitated… the reason I mention this is because I know your tragic story and I can’t help but wonder if they are related to follow on miscarriages. My concerns of any relation were dismissed by our hospital and they wouldn’t do any internal investigations to check for scarring etc as a result of all our birth complications. Definitely something for you to push for!

We went private to Nova Fertility in Manchester and based on our history (complete miscarriages after healthy heartbeat being seen on early scans) were given a medical plan to combat my body essentially rejecting the baby. The treatment is controversial and a lot of medical professionals don’t believe in it - my local recurrent miscarriage clinic don’t think I should be on it but so far it’s working so you can’t argue with that. It’s the same immune treatment given at the ARGC clinic also by Dr Shehata & Professor Quenby at their clinics.

My medication plan is as follows & I started taking everything 48 hours after ovulation -

• clexane injection (blood thinner) once daily;
• Prednisolone (steroids) 20mg (4 tablets) per day;
• Progesterone pessaries 400mg twice per day;
• High dose folic acid 400mg once per day;
• Pregnancy multivitamin once per day;
• Calcium supplement twice per day;
• Omega 3 supplement once per day;
• ubq10 supplement once per day;
• 75mg aspirin once per day from 6 weeks - I am no longer taking this as a side effect of aspirin is bleeding & I couldn’t face that due to previous miscarriages starting that way.

Hopefully your recurrent miscarriage clinic are alot more helpful than mine were but if not I couldn’t recommend looking at private options more as they will throw everything at the problem xxx

@Hhdxx I have had 4 losses since October and I've got my first phone consultation with the recurrent miscarriage clinic next week, I'm pregnant so not sure they can do much but I only had to wait 5 weeks on the NHS for the first appointment

@Cruz86 that sounds like a really scary vivid dream! Must of been terrifying xx let us know how you get on with your scan tomorrow 🤞🏻🌈 xx

@Cruz86 Hope all goes well tomorrow - will be thinking of you.

Hope everything is ok when you go for your scan tomorrow @Cruz86 let us know how you get on. Xx

I have everything crossed for you for today @Cruz86 💕🌈

I told the GP and EPU yesterday I have a scan booked for Monday 4th April where I'll be 7 weeks but I know I ovulated a few days later so I'll be 6+4 ish really that's if I make it that far obviously 🤞🏻🌈 I've got a phone consultation with the Recurrent miscarriage consultant on Wednesday aswell, I know I'm pregnant so they can't do much now but I'm wondering if she'd prescribe me progesterone if I ask for it? I'm not sure wether it's a bit cheeky to ask for it?

Thank you all. I slept much better last night thankfully. But I'm absolutely petrified 😩 xx

Thinking of you today @Cruz86 xxx

@Cruz86 good luck today, sending lots of baby dust 🙏🏼🤍

@arianasky if you don’t ask you don’t get, I’d definitely try your luck asking for it xxx

@Cruz86 hope everything goes well today 💕 xx

@arianasky it's worth asking 🤞 how are your tests looking? Xx

I'm feeling really rough lately seems to be getting worse I just want to cry. It's really getting to me. I'm hardly able to do anything at home feel sorry for my kids all I do is sleep. Constant nasuea no energy and now I think my vertigo is back as I'm dizzy as hell. Not a good combination. Sorry just need to get it out 😭 feel like life is passing by and I can't do anything. X

And now I feel so guilty I'm complaining about symptoms when I should be happy I'm pregnant 😣

Hi everyone, been off the thread for a couple of days as my anxiety is still sky high, hope everyone is doing well?
Good luck today @Cruz86

@Skl2021 I know exactly how you feel, I'm only 5+2 but I'm completely wiped out. I fall asleep through the day and I'm asleep at night hours before I usually do. Sickness will come and go 🤢

It's still another 10 days until my next scan and I'm still overthinking the first one with just a "possible" sac visible it didn't really give me answers 🥴
Really tempted to book a private for Tuesday that takes on as early as 6 weeks. I just can't cope with the anxiety 😥

@HoneyLemon29 yes my anxiety is getting higher closer I get to my scan 😣 just keep thinking the worst. I also keep having bad dreams that I'm bleeding 😩 panic when I get up in the mornings! I would book one of u can afford it and you sound like your anxiety is taking over so it might help u a bit? Hope your feeling better soon 💞 xx

@speake that's true I think I will ask for it, thank you

@Skl2021 I'm ok thank you I'll attach pics now today I had a little panic as 12 and 13dpo FRER look similar but my easy@home today is darker so ok for now, what do you think? Do the FRER look ok?🤞🏻🙏🏻🌈 oh I'm sorry you're feeling so sick and tired 💕

@arianasky I honestly don't think frer are great for progression now! But I can see progression on both of yours! Your cheapies are well darker! So I hope that's promising news 🙌🤞 when is af due? Aww thankyou I'm just feeling very low 😣 xx