Constant knicker watchers apply here

[Ambi88]

Is it just me... or anyone else on constant knicker watch 🙈 I'm only 4 weeks 4 days and so anxious and I know it doesn't get much better! Welcome to leakage for the next 8 months right?!
So iv made this thread for us anxious mamas to get each other through please join and make me feel less crazy 😜
Whispered cautious excitement 🌈

Oh my goodness this is exactly me... on edge since my BFP! Looking for spotting every 2 minutes.

I'm only 4.5 weeks and I already had really extreme nausea so I tried an Emeterm wrist device and it really worked BUT now I've given myself anxiety because I DON'T have nausea! Why do we do this to ourselves

[quote TheBirdintheCave]@AbbiL0u Good luck with the midwife today, I hope she can give you some helpful advice or book a scan for you :) How are you this morning?

Only a few hours to go til our scan now. Our car is still FUBAR so we've had to book a taxi and my poor husband has to take a web of public transport to get back to the house from work in time. He will have been there from 9.30 to 11.30... Totally pointless but nothing else we can do.

My boobs are barely sore at all today (though my nausea is about the same) and it's scaring me. The spotting is still brown but has maybe picked up a little :( I feel like the scales are tipping and not in the direction I want them to go.[/quote]
How was your scan? Hope all is ok

Bad news I’m afraid!

So the bleeding seemingly isn’t coming from my uterus though she couldn’t find a source for it at all. I’ve been prescribed progesterone pessaries to see if it helps.

There is a pregnancy sac with a yolk sac inside and ‘maybe’ the beginnings of an embryo... BUT the sac only measures 5mm.

The sonographer said I ovulated from my left hand side. This is when I got confused as I marked ovulation as the day I got pains on my RIGHT hand side. There are two outcomes here:

One

My dates are correct and the pregnancy isn’t progressing.

Two

I actually ovulated later than I thought making me 6 weeks today (O day 21 rather than NHS 14. It’s impossible for me to be any earlier than this based on the last time we had sex). This theory does get bonus points for making sense of my paltry pregnancy symptoms and explaining my extremely faint tests at what I thought was 14dpo but could actually have been 9dpo.

I have to go back in two weeks for (what I see as) a pointless scan where they will just tell me that the ‘baby’ stopped growing at 5 weeks and that I’m having a MMC. I don’t understand why she’s given me false hope? She seems to think that no embryo at 6 weeks is ok? Nothing I’ve read (as a layman) would support that notion. Should I not bother using the pessaries and let the miscarriage happen? It seems like a waste of two weeks that I could have spent getting my cycle back and preparing to try again. At 35 I really don’t have any time to waste.

Awww no @TheBirdintheCave I’m so sorry it’s bad news, but hopefully the fact she’s giving you hope means there is hope there and you’re just a little behind and things can make back up? I have everything crossed your spotting ends and puts your mind at rest until your next scan. Lots of love and hope you’re feeling okay :(

@AbbiL0u I don’t see how it could :/ I’m measuring a full week behind the earliest date I could be. It feels really cruel of her to suggest that those measurements are ok for six weeks. If I hadn’t done extensive research I might have believed her and imagine how much worse I would feel when I get told in two weeks time that there’s been no change.

@TheBirdintheCave I completely understand :( really hoping for the best for you. How are you feeling after a nights sleep?

@AbbiL0u I’m not sure. Physically confused as I still feel sick (though that could be the progesterone pessary I used yesterday) but my boobs aren’t sore at all now. To me this is a big indicator that I’m having a MMC. I don’t know what to do. I feel like the pessaries might delay things if I carry on taking them. I don’t want to suffer with bad sickness for two weeks just to be told that the embryo didn’t grow and then have to go through a medicated miscarriage anyway. Surely it’s better to get it over with now? I just don’t know who to discuss that with. I feel like the odds of this working out weren’t explained to me.

@TheBirdintheCave I completely understand, it must be really tough to know what’s going on or for the best. Do you have an 8 week appointment booked with a midwife to speak to or anything? Or could you call the EPU for clarification on what they said yesterday? I’m sorry as I know this is rubbish advice, I just really hope everything works out for you.

@AbbiL0u No the midwives were going to do the booking in after the 12 week scan and I just emailed to cancel that. I just want this pregnancy over with.

Hi @TheBirdintheCave, how are you doing? Still feeling sick? Hoping you're okay, and sending big hugs.