Hi Everyone! Looking for some honest advice here (in case I'm just being too harsh). I am very happily, finally pregnant, due Oct and own my home (for about 1.5 yrs now). I have a pretty good job (nothing crazy) and no substantial savings currently as everything went into buying and renovating my home. My partner lives with me but hardly ever contributes towards any bills/pays rent/doesn't pay for any food/any furniture we buy (in the last year I think he has paid me £400 rent for 2-months). I have also been buying lots of baby stuff which I started doing when we were trying to have a baby (over excited!) which he has not contributed towards whatsoever. I'm feeling really frustrated and fed-up... This month again I asked nicely and politely if he is able to pay anything towards the house/food etc this month and he said no he can't. I sat him down calmly and explained that we are having this baby together and he needs to step up and asked where his money goes (literally the only thing he has to pay for is his average car so I'm beyond confused as that obviously don't take up his whole or even a substantial part of his salary). He has a low-paid job but works full time and has many oppotunuities for overtime which he never does anymore. He told me he went into his overdraft over Christmas and is just 'minus' all the time now. I came up with an 'action plan' with him to get him back on track which seemed really positive, and tried to really motivate him. A few days later, he comes home with alcohol, and buys himself a coffee and cake. Now, I don't want to sound like a completely controlling nutter here but if you can't pay a single penny toward food or bills, surely you shouldn't be buying alcohol and coffees (especially as I'm prego so it wasn't even a treat for us both!)! I don't know, I'm really upset about it and it makes me feel used. I'm super anxious about taking my Mat leave in the near future as he'll need to help financially when I'm not being paid my full salary but I'm so worried he's just going to say he 'can't' and leave me in the s* because everything's in my name. I honestly don't know what to do now. I've tried multiple times to sit down calmly and talk things through but it seems to go in one ear and out the other. I have suggested couples councelling as I thought that may provide direction but he was strongly against this. I have even kicked him out before and told him if he's going to live here, he needs to help financially... But he just slept in his car instead of getting a place and that made me feel insanely guilty. Soo... I don't know what else to try. I keep thinking it's going to get better but if anything, it's only getting worse. Any advice whatsoever would be extremely appreciated!! Thanks so much xx