Pregnant again after missed miscarriage and feel like i am going crazy

[Lcy]

Hi
As some of you may know i found out i had a mmc at 11 weeks in August. I am now 7 weeks pregnant and feel like i am going crazy, I have already had two red bleeds at 4 weeks and 5 weeks and brown discharge for 2 week after that (it has stopped for 6 days now). I was scanned at 6 weeks and everything was ok (heartbeat etc) and now EPU wont scan me until 12 weeks.

However this is exactly the same pattern that happened last time - brown discharge for 2 weeks, all ok on scan at 6 weeks, discharge stopped, but then the baby died. I dont have any morning sickness and my boobs are not as sore as last time.

I have spent all of Christmas pretending everything is ok because my family dont know (and then crying in bed every night). Everyone has gone home now and i feel like i am at breaking point. I just feel that it has all gone wrong again and dont know how i will cope if it has.

Is anyone else going through this at the moment or gone through this in the past?

Thanks Lcy

Thanks Lcy. Good Luck on Saturday

Devon with my miscarriage I had a scan the day I started bleeding. There was a perfect little bean (although it measured a week behind) with a very strong heartbeat. Tech said all looked good just keep an eye on the bleeding. 10 days later it all came out. We just never know. Each day is critical for a bean in the womb. One bad connection or defect and it's over. A picture is just a picture sometimes.

Yeah your right, never thought of it like that. thanks. My mind is all over the place at the moment. Hope all goes well for you. Thanks for your advice.

Hi Devon - after my miscarriage i bought Lesley Regans miscarriage book - i would def recommend it - provides latest research but also emotional support info. Hope you are ok x

Lcy - I'm now ten and a bit weeks after a mc at six weeks a few months ago. My EPAU said they wouldn't scan me again till I was 20 weeks. I went direct to the obstetric consultant and asked to be seen. He's seeing me and scanning me in a few weeks. Don't listen to the EPAU because actually it's not their decision if you can get to the consultant. He or she will ensure you have more regular checks.

Also, I don't know if this will help you, but I bought a handheld doppler second hand on ebay and now I am ten weeks I can listen in to the heartbeat whenever I get worried and am immediately reassured. I know it'll be a while before you get to this stage but might be worthwhile for later on perhaps? Mine was about £30 secondhand.

Thanks WMMC - i am having the scan tommorow and having been crying all morning If i have had a mc again i am going to speak to my midwife about a plan for next time i am pregnant. The EPU have been no support and have actually made both mc's harder because of the lack of emotional support. I know the consultant attached to the unit is fantastic so i will speak to my midwife and ask if i can be seen by her instead of the random SHO's who know less than me. Thanks for the advice x

Hi Lcy good luck for your scan tomorrow - know exactly what you are going through having had 2 prev. m/c and the stress involved in the waiting period.

I had a bad time at the EPU in both cases as the m/w there were VERY unsupportive and offered no support so know how you must feel.

For future scans if you can afford it try and go privately - worth every penny and peace of mind!! (well for me anyway).

All the best for tomorrow my thoughts are with you hope it all turns out positive!

Thanks x

Thanks for your advice LCY. I really feel for you. I do hope everything goes ok for tomorrow. I will be thinking of you. Take care and try to be strong.

Hello all - i have good news!

I went for my private scan today and we saw a little baby with a strong heart beat measuring exactly right for dates (8 wks and 3 days). We could even see where the legs and arms were begining to grow. The lady who did the scan was fantastic and spent ages explaining everything to us. We went in there expecting to see another missed miscarriage so you can imagine how much i cried when i saw a healthy bean.I have another private reassurance scan booked for 10 weeks - best money i have ever spent.

Thanks for calming me down over the last few days x

That's great news Lcy. Hope the rest of the pg is healthy and uneventful (in a nice way) for you.

Oh LCY thats fantastic news. Ive come back to this thread especially to find out how you got on. Well done. So glad for you.

Thanks x

oh Lcy I'm so glad you've had good news thinking of you

Thanks aquababe - how are you doing? As you can see i am a nervouse wreck!

nervouse

Hi Lcy- I am so pleased for you - fantastic news. I'm sure you'll have heard the stats about the risks of things going wrong being markedly reduced if a heartbeat is seen after 8 weeks (sorry can't remember exact figures) so here's to a happy but boring next seven months for you.

I too have good news from my scan yesterday. Baby measuring exactly right for dates (10 weeks)and wriggling around all over the place! We could even make out a little face. We were and are absolutely over the moon although I too was also crying with happiness/relief. Then the date for my 12 week scan arrived this morning. It's on 17th Jan - so I have less than two weeks to wait- although the midwife was very positive yesterday and told me to relax!

Thoughts and prayers to all others who've posted who are in similar situations, are ttc or have had mc. Devon1 I really do hope it works out for you this year.

Hi Lcy, I'm so pleased for you that you got good news with your scan!!!! Hopefully you will be able to relax a bit now! (yeah right!)

I'm failing at not thinking about not being pregnant.

Hi lcy, i'm really sorry I didn't see this thread. if i'd had know how bad you were feeling i'd have called You are just very good at keeping it all together but you know you don't have to keep it all together for me.

hope you can relax and enjoy your day tomorrow. thinking of you all the time. i will be putting together a box of dd's stuff for you that you will get to use! xxx

Thanks Motherprayers for your message. Glad to hear your exciting news too. Well done.

Thanks Motherprayers - your post on Sunday made a real difference to my state of mind! I am so glad to hear about your scan - congratulations x

Hi Bumper - i couldnt really talk about it just had to hold it together for the scan. Thanks for stuff

Aquababe - if you are TTC again i wish you lots of luck. You have had a rotten time and im thinking of you.

Noname - thanks, hmm relax whats that

Devon1 - you have had a horrid time too. Please look after yourself and post on mumsnet if you need some support after your mc.

lcy! i also missed this thread. i so understand how rough it can be. at xmas, i was just exhausted from the past 13 or 14 weeks because its been very stressful with pains and little bleeds etc.

so glad that things are looking good and i think the next reassurance scan is a great idea.

fingers crossed and hope time passes quickly for this trimester and that we can both start to enjoy our pregnancies at some point.

xxx

Thanks TJuice - so pleased all is progressing well with your pregnancy. I slept for 3 hours when i got home from the scan and now feel much more normal! xx

lcy I have too missed this thread, I wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. I have had two missed mcs and one complete mc. But I now have two lovely boys, although I bleed every couple of weeks right to the end of thier pregs. I know it is a very stressful time but just try and be kind to yourself. Im so glad both you and mothersprayers have good news.
Thinking of all of you going through this horrible time