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Miscarriage - when can we try again?

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Nellie1027 · 06/01/2022 15:40

I had a miscarriage a week ago today at around 9 weeks. It lead to me being admitted to hospital due to high blood loss and a high heart rate. I had some tissue removed during a cervical exam twice. They sent me home the next day without the need for surgery and told me to take a pregnancy test 2 weeks later to confirm all the tissue had gone. I have also had some pregnancy tissue sent for analysis but I haven't heard back yet.

I know everyone copes with miscarriage differently and some like to wait to try again. My husband and I have discussed it a lot and we are both keen to try again as soon as possible.

My bleeding stopped on Monday and since then I have had a bit of brown discharge yesterday but otherwise it has been clear.

I took a pregnancy test today which has a very faint line. It says online that you can ovulate as soon as 2 weeks after miscarriage. I bought some ovulation sticks but I haven't used them yet.

When do you think it's safe for us to start trying again? I don't want to risk getting an infection, but I don't want to miss our window either. The advice online isn't clear, and I know bleeding can stop and start, but it's been 3 days now and nothing.

If anyone has any personal experiences I'd be really grateful. I feel like the thought of trying again is the only thing keeping me going at the moment.

Thanks x

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Lostintranslatio · 06/01/2022 20:03

I did no ovulate until two weeks after I got the negative pregnancy test. And if I remember right, I was told not to have intercourse in the first two weeks after the miscarriage.

surprised12 · 06/01/2022 21:02

I would say wait until your pregnancy tests are negative and then go for it. The hospital told me it's the best time to try as you'll be more fertile - not sure if that's true.
It's taken me 6 months to fall pregnant again but we weren't tracking ovulation and just letting things happen on their own.

I'm sorry for your loss - it's so hard but it will get easier.

It helped me to know that there must have been something wrong with the pregnancy and it's our body recognising that!

Hope the next little bean sticks for you Thanks

FrangipanFlower · 06/01/2022 21:06

I was told to wait until at least one cycle before trying again just to give your body a chance to reset. I’m so sorry for your loss, I’ve had several and can’t compare the pain to anything else.

BlackCat91 · 06/01/2022 21:09

We started trying for a baby a couple of months after my late miscarriage. With hindsight I should have waited until I had come to terms with my loss. Physically I was fine, but mentally I was not.

Sorry for your loss. X

penguin303 · 06/01/2022 22:36

I started immediately afterwards, once the bleeding had stopped. To my surprise I ovulated only a couple days later than usual, so CD20 when my usual is CD17 or 18 (CD1 was the day of the actual miscarriage), even though I had positive HCG test up to CD11. Wait until the pregnancy test is negative before using the ovulation sticks as they do interfere, however I found that a very faint positive test didn’t interfere much.

I have to say though, while I did conceive again that month, it ended in a chemical pregnancy. That may have just been chance, but also may be because my body wasn’t ready yet. The following month I got pregnant again and I am now 32 weeks.

Im sorry for your loss too, I found myself desperate to get pregnant again afterwards as a coping mechanism. Just make sure you are ready x

Caneloalvarez · 06/01/2022 23:31

I'm sorry for your loss. I recently had a missed miscarriage and ended up having two ERPCs to remove everything. I'm quite shocked that each time I was discharged there was no info/advice given on when to try again, just to do a pregnancy test after 3wks to make sure it's negative. I've read that it can be good to wait for one or two cycles, but also read that it's fine to start asap! I'd definitely wait till you see a definite negative test so that there's no false hope (the faint positive from the miscarriage could linger for a while and you don't want to confuse that for a new pregnancy). Best of luck!

PiesNotGuys · 06/01/2022 23:43

One of my DC’s due dates was 10 months and 2 days after a miscarriage/previous baby DOB and one of the others was 10 months and 12 days after a miscarriage/previous baby DOB.

I hope your baby can stay with you next time. Good luck OP

Jluna · 07/01/2022 00:15

@Nellie1027
I had a missed miscarriage 10th November 2021. I waited until after my first period which happened 5th December 2021. I am now pregnant again however today started bleeding and fear i will follow suit with first pregnancy so maybe wait for 2 periods before trying again.?

Im petrified im going to lose this one aswell but theoretically you can get pregnant very quickly after miscarriage as I found out....

Good luck.

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 08:53

@Jluna I'm so sorry for hear that, I really hope that your bleeding has stopped and this pregnancy continues healthily for you.

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 08:53

@PiesNotGuys thank you, that's reassuring for me to hear!

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girlmom21 · 07/01/2022 08:58

The nurse told me to wait 12 weeks. We miscarried in July and conceived in November.

Sorry for your loss xx

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 08:58

@Caneloalvarez I found the same too, they said to test again but in 2 weeks to make sure there's no pregnancy tissue left. They also said I could try straight away but that it makes it more difficult for them to date so they advised waiting (but I felt that it was more to make it easier for them!). They didn't give any advice as to when to know when I can try again, e.g how long to wait after bleeding, if I have to wait for a completely negative test etc. They were all very nice but the advice wasn't very helpful!

Anyway, like you said, I think it's best to wait until it's completely negative to avoid any confusion

Thanks for getting back to me

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Narwhalsh · 07/01/2022 09:00

I had a missed miscarriage at 13 weeks (discovered at the dating scan). Medication to bring on the miscarriage and I bled for about 6 weeks, bleeding stopped for a week then I had about 4 days bleeding again (which I assumed was just still part of the miscarriage but in hindsight could have been a period), discovered I was pregnant about 5 weeks later but must have ovulated really soon after that second bleed because we dtd once so I’m sure when that happened! Baby is 2 months old Smile

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 09:02

@penguin303 thank you for getting back to me.

I will wait until it's completely negative before we start trying again. I am nervous about chemical pregnancy's and further miscarriages but I know that could happen to me again regardless, so I am keen to just try again and pray all is ok.

Wishing you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy :)

Thanks for your advice

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 09:04

@BlackCat91 I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you are ok now x

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Honeymint · 07/01/2022 09:07

I had this a few years ago, in my case the tissue sent off came back showing it had been a molar pregnancy and I needed a more thorough D&C to remove it, which all went okay.
The only thing was we were told to not try again for 9 months.

I think it’s pretty rare for that to happen but it’s one of the reasons they send off a sample. When you get your results back they’ll let you know if you shouldn’t try again for a while but otherwise it should be okay.

My doctor last time even said women usually have a higher chance of conceiving a few months after a miscarriage! This has definitely been the case for a few of my friends/family.

I’m sorry this happened to you, I know it’s not very nice but keep your chin up!

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 09:07

@FrangipanFlower thank you, I was also told this but they worded it in a way that made me feel like it was to make it easier for them, but I do appreciate why they might be saying this.

I am so sorry to hear about your losses, I can imagine that must have been very difficult for you, it really is a horrible thing to go through :( x

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 09:08

@girlmom21 oh wow really? I don't think I could wait that long :(

I hope your pregnancy is going well now

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 09:10

@Narwhalsh I'm so sorry to hear about your MMC, that must have been hard for you having bleeding for so long afterwards. I am so happy to hear you have had a healthy and happy baby since :) thank you for responding

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girlmom21 · 07/01/2022 09:11

[quote Nellie1027]@girlmom21 oh wow really? I don't think I could wait that long :(

I hope your pregnancy is going well now [/quote]
I think it's to ensure your body can prepare for another pregnancy properly and it doesn't mistake it for the old pregnancy.

Thank you - sorry that was 2020 so baby's a healthy 4 month old now!

Hopefully you'll get the same soon Thanks

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 09:12

@Honeymint ah I'm so sorry to hear that :( 9 months is a long time so I hope that wasn't too difficult for you!

I hope I get my results back soon. I don't suppose you can remember how you received the results? No one has said whether it will be a phone call, letter, or appointment?

Thank you, I'm trying to keep busy so I'm not thinking about it all the time but it is hard. Thanks for responding

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 09:16

@girlmom21 yeah, it does make sense! It's hard because rationally I know that's the right thing, but my mind is telling me to start trying again asap!

Aww I'm so glad for you :) thank you, me too!

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Jluna · 07/01/2022 10:08

[quote Nellie1027]@Jluna I'm so sorry for hear that, I really hope that your bleeding has stopped and this pregnancy continues healthily for you. [/quote]
Had some dark clots pass this morning so really dont think this pregnancy has stuck either. No words can describe how i feel right now. Its not looking good is it.

Honeymint · 07/01/2022 13:44

@Nellie1027 it was hard at the time, but I’m pregnant again now so fingers crossed it’s all worked out alright in the end!

I got a phone call a week or so later asking me to come in for an appointment at the hospital (I forget which department). The woman there was very reassuring and explained what was up. I had the D&C a few days later.
I imagine as they’re so busy at the moment it may take a bit longer to get your results, but I’d definitely try to chase it up if you don’t hear back in a few weeks.

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Nellie1027 · 07/01/2022 15:53

@Jluna have you called your doctor or day assessment unit? I do think some people bleed and have clots during pregnancy and it doesn't necessarily mean anything bad. I hope you are ok, I really hope the outcome is good for you x

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