Hand hold: have a 9 week scan tomorrow after 5 early pregnancy losses

[rainbowsandmagpies]

I can't sleep. We saw a heartbeat at 6.5 weeks after some bleeding, so I'm trying to tell myself there'll be one tomorrow but I'm so nervous there won't be. I've still got symptoms, a ridiculous bump for 9 weeks and I haven't had any red bleeding for over 2 weeks so I have no reason to believe anything will be wrong other than it's never been alright.

So nervous.

I’m so sorry 😞

I am so sorry OP, I hope you are able to rest now and that you are being looked after.

That sounds like the best thing possible given the situation. I hope they can find some answers & a way forward for you xx. When are you going in?

I'm glad your DH is one of the good ones! They do exist, but quite hard to find one!! Well done x

I hope you can get some sleep tonight, put him on cuddle duty! X

I’m so sorry xx

@rainbowsandmagpies I'm so sorry 😞 look after yourself love. Take things easy for a while. ❤️

My condolences, though I appreciate this will be of little comfort. This sounds incredibly heartbreaking.

Have the doctors not established the causative factors leading to the MCs?

So sorry. Sending love

I'm so incredibly sorry this happened to you. I had medical management for my first and third miscarriage and honestly recommend it. I just went to sleep, woke up and went home. No pain, minimal bleeding. I'm not sure I'd try it any other way at this point.

Have they sent previous losses off to test? They sent my most recent off for testing (but not the first two) and it came back as Trisomy 13.. on the one hand it helps to know what was wrong (at least with this one, but potentially the others) but also makes me wary of future pregnancies. I suspect we're in the same boat of no longer easily accepting pregnancy and the happiness that is supposed to come through it. Just seems like a sad waiting game now.

I'm sorry for your loss and the timing. I lost my first 17 December last year and sure made for a crappy Christmas. I hope you and DH can find some time to just be together and grieve the loss. Sending you love and warm wishes.

@rtmhwales no they haven't been - I have always had losses before 6 weeks and have a short luteal phase so they supplemented with progesterone this time. That meant we saw a lovely heartbeat at 6ish weeks which was a precious moment. I'm grateful that this time round we'll get to know the sex, I'm always worried we've given the baby an inappropriate name although this one actually has a name that would suit either.

I'm nervous about the pain, I have quite painful periods and the nurse said it'll be worse that my normal period but I guess I'll be able to have pain relief since I'm going in as a day case and have to stay until I've passed everything.

I'm so blown away by everyone's support, thank you again. I couldn't fall asleep until about 3ish despite a restless night previously and a frankly exhausting day. Going to try for another couple of hours.

We've got all our Christmas prep to do today so that'll be a nice distraction. I love Christmas and am determined not to miss out on the festivities though I'm sure they'll feel a little muted. I'm going to have a real mulled wine and some brie to toast our precious baby.

I'll let you all know how it goes tomorrow, if only for the sake of someone looking for answers in the future. Future gals, sending you love

Sending you so much love. x

Thinking of you @rainbowsandmagpies I hope it all goes as well as it can. The bleeding will be much heavier than you expect it will be... pre-warned will hopefully mean you'll be less frightened than I was. It will all be over soon and you can wrap yourself up for Christmas and start another healing process.

It's great that they will do the testing, I never managed to get that done for any of mine. Xx

OP - I just wanted to say that I’m so sorry and I think you are doing amazingly. I hope you get some answers soon. xx

For the people reading in the future who might find themselves in this situation: I'm home from the hospital. Had the medication this morning at about 9.30 and everything got moving quite quickly which I was grateful for. The pain is quite well managed with just paracetamol but the drugs did make me feel a bit sicky so I'd recommend asking for anti sickness. I passed everything (urine, faeces, any vaginal loss) into commode pans and the nurse examined it to find the baby so it could be sent off for testing. Passing big blood clots is an odd feeling, not painful but you do need to push. It's a weird sensation.

Most importantly, I didn't see anything recognisable (I was hoping I wouldn't) and the staff were unbelievably kind. It wasn't anywhere near as horrendous as I thought it'd be.

My tips: take a tablet or laptop with some easy watching downloaded, I couldn't concentrate enough to read a book. My hot water bottle was excellent. Get up and move around when they say you can, it helps with the pain and with speeding things along. 💕

@rainbowsandmagpies you're so brave. Well done for making it through. Glad you're home safe and sound. Hope you're wrapped up on the sofa being well looked after x

I have been thinking of you @rainbowsandmagpies, you have been so strong and I hope you are able to get some answers in the new year. I’m pleased that your experience in hospital went as smoothly as it could have done.

I hope you have a relaxing Christmas with your loved ones, take care xx