17 Weeks Low Amniotic Fluid

[Newdreams]

Hi feel really broken today just wanted to see if anyone been in similar position.

Was gifted a private gender scan by my friends once I told them of my pregnancy which was today.

But at the scan the sonographer confirmed heart beat but also confirmed very low amniotic fluid. Off the record he told me the risks of such low amniotic fluid but said I need to contact midwife asap. When I told midwife she was very concerned and has arranged for me to see fetal medicine consultant on Tuesday but my anxiety has gone through the roof. Her advice was to stay hydrated and rest until than but I'm in shock can't stop crying and fearing the worst. If anyone can share any information on this it will be much appreciated. Thank you

Gosh how horrible you have to wait until next week, that must be awful. It's good the baby's heartbeat looked ok. Is there any way you can push to be seen sooner, stress that it's affecting your mental health and really cannot wait until next week? I know they'll be busy with Christmas etc but surely they can't leave you like this in limbo :( I really feel for you x

Oh that's crap. Could they tell you if your waters had gone up or down at all?

@MinnieJackson

Oh that's crap. Could they tell you if your waters had gone up or down at all?

They said waters had reduced from my 15 week scan on 1st Dec but looked similar to measurements by the private scan.

@Bellesjp

Gosh how horrible you have to wait until next week, that must be awful. It's good the baby's heartbeat looked ok. Is there any way you can push to be seen sooner, stress that it's affecting your mental health and really cannot wait until next week? I know they'll be busy with Christmas etc but surely they can't leave you like this in limbo :( I really feel for you x

I tried they said because of the bank holidays etc that is the earliest but they said any concerns to call triage and go in. Next Wednesday literally feels like a lifetime away. Trying to smile for ds he picks up on emotion but I can't wait till he goes sleep

I’m so sorry it was all messed up like that, was going to be hard enough with going through all that :-( I hope it flies in for you, it’s a horrible time just now for you and it should be such an exciting time x

@Panda8383

I’m so sorry it was all messed up like that, was going to be hard enough with going through all that :-( I hope it flies in for you, it’s a horrible time just now for you and it should be such an exciting time x

Thank you. I am really struggling feeling overwhelmed with it all I don't know how I will deal with what's to come sometimes Google can be a scary place I try not to go on but I can't help myself I just want to close my eyes for ten mins without the gut wrenching pain of the idea of this pregnancy ending.

How are you feeling today?
Google is a really scary place, but I know what you mean when you say sometimes you just can’t help it :-( I’m so sorry you are going through this right now and I really hope it’s all good news next week, I get it will feel like next week is forever :-( it’s really shit! X

@Panda8383

How are you feeling today? Google is a really scary place, but I know what you mean when you say sometimes you just can’t help it :-( I’m so sorry you are going through this right now and I really hope it’s all good news next week, I get it will feel like next week is forever :-( it’s really shit! X

Thank you for checking in. I found myself in a weird cycle of being numb when looking after ds and breaking down. Haven't been able to sleep for longer than 30 mins since last Friday I actually feel exhausted. Dh is off work now until jan so it will be a bit better with supporting ds. I haven't been on Google yet today I feel like it's doing me more harm than good. My community midwife had called this morning for a chat after she had seen the hospital updates she was very kind told me to ring the fetal medicine centre every morning to see if any cancellations and let them know im happy to come in at short notice I did call there was nothing available. I feel mentally and physically exhausted but I can feel movements inside now and I don't know if I'm imagining it or if it real or if I'm allowing myself a false sense of security. I am just rambling here but life feels so uncertain atm and the thought of what might come on Wednesday literally makes me shake with anxiety.

Can't believe it's only Thursday just to think last Thursday I felt I had no time before Christmas day to do everything and this week I can't seem to wish the hours and days away. It's so crazy how things can change.

Glad your husband is there to help and support you, it’s hard as you’ll feel like you can’t concentrate on anything as your mind else which is only natural. Reassuring that the community midwife sounds quite helpful, fingers crossed you can get a cancellation and hopefully get some good news. Don’t be de daft, you certainly ain’t rambling but feel free to chat anytime, life is an absolute bitch and it seems to be like that for the nicest folk and the ones that don’t deserve it x

@Panda8383

Glad your husband is there to help and support you, it’s hard as you’ll feel like you can’t concentrate on anything as your mind else which is only natural. Reassuring that the community midwife sounds quite helpful, fingers crossed you can get a cancellation and hopefully get some good news. Don’t be de daft, you certainly ain’t rambling but feel free to chat anytime, life is an absolute bitch and it seems to be like that for the nicest folk and the ones that don’t deserve it x

Thank you honestly you cannot understand how much the kindness on this thread has helped just in the darkest of nights when it's just me awake I read these messages and find hope in the well wishes. I have never received such kindness from people I have never known but thank you.

Community midwife has only just come on the scene tbh there was a huge referral error at gp so only just met and came under the community midwife last Thursday but so far she seems lovely and so understanding.

Life just feels overwhelming atm there's literally no other word for it constant flitting from heartbreak to numbness and than a tiny bit of hope with each movement little one makes inside. It's so crazy how things work out and how a single second can change sooo much.

I’m sorry you’re going through such a tough time. I did want to say that sonographers can be wrong and really aren’t qualified to give a diagnosis. I got told my daughter had downs and heart failure by a sonographer due to a layer of fluid around the chest cavity, they said she had fetal hydrops and gave me leaflets on termination. It triggered an instant and urgent fetal med referral, who basically found nothing to be wrong. So please don’t despair. What hospital in Birmingham are you at OP? Ive dealt with fetal med At Sandwell west bham (city hospital) and heart of England trust (good hope, heartlands, Solihull), so happy to answer any questions. It sucks that this is all over x mas and it means you’ll struggle to get a sooner appointment to the one offered. Can you call the fetal med midwife and say the anxiety is really affecting you? I was initially at good hope with my daughter and my scan mishap made me so anxious, Mike Wildes (head of fetal med at heartlands) came in and gave me an appointment at 8am to squeeze me in? If you do have the means and then wait is driving you crazy, you can see if MUMS in Solihull have space? It’s about £200 and they have private fetal med consultants, a few are the ones who work in heartlands and one works in Kings college london. If you call they might be able to squeeze you in?

@Kanfuzed123

I’m sorry you’re going through such a tough time. I did want to say that sonographers can be wrong and really aren’t qualified to give a diagnosis. I got told my daughter had downs and heart failure by a sonographer due to a layer of fluid around the chest cavity, they said she had fetal hydrops and gave me leaflets on termination. It triggered an instant and urgent fetal med referral, who basically found nothing to be wrong. So please don’t despair. What hospital in Birmingham are you at OP? Ive dealt with fetal med At Sandwell west bham (city hospital) and heart of England trust (good hope, heartlands, Solihull), so happy to answer any questions. It sucks that this is all over x mas and it means you’ll struggle to get a sooner appointment to the one offered. Can you call the fetal med midwife and say the anxiety is really affecting you? I was initially at good hope with my daughter and my scan mishap made me so anxious, Mike Wildes (head of fetal med at heartlands) came in and gave me an appointment at 8am to squeeze me in? If you do have the means and then wait is driving you crazy, you can see if MUMS in Solihull have space? It’s about £200 and they have private fetal med consultants, a few are the ones who work in heartlands and one works in Kings college london. If you call they might be able to squeeze you in?

Hi Thank you for your reply I am so sorry for what you went through. I should have said the dr that scanned me agreed there was very low levels of fluid around baby but again she didn't want to diagnose anything and left to fetal meds. I was with birmingham women's at the beginning of pregnancy but after all the trauma of my first pregnancy it was triggering panic attacks just walking into hospital so have now transferred to Heartlands Hospital. Thank you for the information about mums I actually used them at the start of pregnancy for pregnancy blood test to confirm pregnancy didn't even occur to me that there would be fetal meds consultants there I will have a look online and give them a ring and see what they advise. Thank you so much.

I hope everything thing went ok with your appointment OP X I am so sorry to hear about this and understand it must be so worrying!

How did things go OP? X

Sorry haven't replied it's been a dark day. I had the scan there was no fluid at all which made scan near impossible but consultant has said she believes the baby has not developed any kidneys or bladder. They have recommended a termination however have said they will support my decision to wait for the natural end. They have arranged to see me next week to get a second opinion and see what I have decided to. Atm I can't think straight how do I end the little beating heart how as mum do I do that? The decision alone is killing me.

I am so very sorry to hear your news. Nothing I can say to help but just wanted to say I'm thinking about you and sending you lots of love.

@ILoveCake12

I am so very sorry to hear your news. Nothing I can say to help but just wanted to say I'm thinking about you and sending you lots of love.

Thank you

@Newdreams I'm so very sorry to hear your sad news 😞 it's so awful, I have been through a termination for medical reasons this year so know what you're going through. It's the worst 'decision' you could ever have to make. Just remember that whatever you choose to do you are doing with love for your little one, we have to go through that pain so they don't have to experience it. Thinking of you and here if you want to chat x

So very sorry OP, thinking of you and hope you can be kind to yourself

I am so so sorry OP 😢 agree with previous poster, as a mum you just want to make it as pain free as possible, out of love. Whatever decision you'll make will be the right one ♥️

[quote Bellesjp]@Newdreams I'm so very sorry to hear your sad news 😞 it's so awful, I have been through a termination for medical reasons this year so know what you're going through. It's the worst 'decision' you could ever have to make. Just remember that whatever you choose to do you are doing with love for your little one, we have to go through that pain so they don't have to experience it. Thinking of you and here if you want to chat x[/quote]
Thank you for sharing I just sitting in bed realised I didn't even ask how it would all work? I can't think straight I'm so tired but can't sleep I feel broken. I'm sorry for what u went through too.

I don't even know how to begin processing this. Even typing this message I can feel movements inside I know im not making sense I'm sorry just can't find peace in anything my heart is hurting but my head don't stop I'm so tired I need to be OK for my ds as well but I can't I feel like I failed at something that's so natural to others I don't mean to offend anyone I just don't know how to deal with this.

@Newdreams I'm so sorry you are going through this. You have not failed at all so please do not think that, your little one is so loved and all they will know is love and no pain. You don't need to rush into any decisions, try and get a little sleep if you can, I know it's impossible in the circumstances, I found sleep videos on YouTube helped me to get a few hours when I've had similar bad news. If I can help in anyway please ask or my pm's are open, I can share my experience if you would like, been thinking about you this evening x

I'm so sorry OP. Everything will feel senseless, cruel and overwhelming. Everything you feel is valid but you have absolutely not failed nor done anything wrong. My baby was stillborn last year and the emotions are so complex. The fear you will be feeling is so hard. Take it day by day, hour by hour as you need to. Very best wishes.