Today is my due date and being pestered

[French2020]

I’m due today and I’ve had several messages/calls from family and friends. I appreciate they care but it’s too much and I’m going mad trying to stay busy. I have a midwife appointment on Friday so presume I will have the joy of a sweep then if nothing happens. It’s my first baby so not surprised but struggling

I would just reply ‘nothing yet, bit busy sorting the last baby bits, I’ll be in touch with any news’. Congratulations & good luck!

Mute your phone for few hours. Treat yourself to a feel good movie some nice snacks and a cuppa, curl up and relax. If can have a little power nap after. I remember how annoying it was, it was even worse was when I was in actually labour but their just excited to welcome the baby.

They are just excited but it can probably be frustrating. It killed me holding back when sibling were due!! But I just about managed for the last few. One of the first ones I called every day from about 3 days before she was due until the baby arrived, I was away at summer camp and young, that's my excuse!!

This was so annoying 🤣 I refused to tell anyone my due date with no2 because of how full of rage this made me. I actually told DH's cousin to fuck off, I don't recommend that tbh. I went to exactly 42 weeks and this woman sent me messages EVERY DAY.

Oh and DH's mum told me I should go to the hospital for a c section because my baby probably had something wrong with it and that's why it wasn't coming but she is generally a vile person.

I just didn't reply, ignore them and they'll get the message. It's poor form imo.

It’s annoying. It’s up to you to set some boundaries -reply something like ‘thanks for your kindness but I’m getting so many messages and they’re making me anxious! You’ll know as soon as they’re here. How are you? Take my mind of things :)’

Everyone very polite and never asked or completely disinterested

Also if you get pregnant again lie about he due date to anyone that genuinely doesn’t need to know I added 2 weeks to keep MIL off my case

Ah you poor thing. This is why, with all 3 children I didn’t tell a due date, and vaguely referenced the start, middle or end of a month 🤣

My recommendation is not to tell anyone when you are in labour. I didn’t for DC 1&2 but had to for DC3 and I was very cross with the messages.

I just ignored them. But I’m a grumpy bitch generally!

Oh my god this drove me mad! Work colleagues, siblings, aunties, friends. Nobody, but nobody, thought ah yes of course she’ll let us know when the baby comes, there’s no need to ask. I have NEVER messaged anyone due a baby to ask if it’s come yet, it’s the most ridiculous thing to ask. Entitled too, like you owe them the news.

@ReggaetonLente

This was so annoying 🤣 I refused to tell anyone my due date with no2 because of how full of rage this made me. I actually told DH's cousin to fuck off, I don't recommend that tbh. I went to exactly 42 weeks and this woman sent me messages EVERY DAY.

Oh and DH's mum told me I should go to the hospital for a c section because my baby probably had something wrong with it and that's why it wasn't coming but she is generally a vile person.

I just didn't reply, ignore them and they'll get the message. It's poor form imo.

Me too. I snapped at a few people when they pestered me on my due date for my first pregnancy and got lots of apologies back. They meant well, just didn't realise how frustrated be must be getting anyway, even without all the badgering.

I'm pregnant again and I've been very vague about the due date this time.

I remember answering those messages with "oh yeah, baby arrived a couple of weeks ago, been a bit busy".

It's so fucking annoying being pestered like that!!

I did not share the due date with anyone - I am just saying end of April (in reality it's 17th March). We will also not tell anyone when I will go into labour.

Yes, when you go into labour, only share on a need to know basis.

We told both our immediate familes that we'd gone into hospital. After baby was born, DH took his phone out to take a photo of our newborn and there were half a dozen calls from my Dad and another few missed calls from him on my phone too.

No idea how he thought either of us would have time for a chat while I was giving birth

Very annoying! I got this and went into labour at 40+1, so mainly dodged that annoyance. Hope baby comes soon!

I didn't mind an occasional check in but I went over with mine too so I generally warned that people who pester will find out last as I was starting to get irritable and that worked quite well without specifically targeting one or two people to tell them to f* off with the texts everytime they noticed I hadn't been online for a couple of hours so of course must be in labour, being offline for a while is normal for me and I found it weird people were watching that closely once I reached due date. I think if I have any more I will take pps advice of not saying the due date or adding 2 weeks.

@Epli

I did not share the due date with anyone - I am just saying end of April (in reality it's 17th March). We will also not tell anyone when I will go into labour.

I’m all for being vague yet truthful, but over a months’ difference?! They’ll think your baby is premature…

I think if you share your precise due date, and you're fortunate enough to have people in your life who are interested, then you just have to be prepared to receive such messages. Honestly, imagine everyone knew your due date and nobody messaged at all. That might be okay with you but we all know many people, I'm sure, who that would offend. So friends and family can't win.

Copy and paste a polite reply/ don't reply at all/ mute your phone. And good luck!

confused I’m all for being vague yet truthful, but over a months’ difference?! They’ll think your baby is premature…

Ah yes - brainfart - my due date is 17th April :D

I went 19 days "overdue" so can completely empathise.

I think eventually I replied with something along the lines of "No news yet, trying not to dwell on my due date too much - I feel like I've been pregnant since forever! I'll be in touch as soon as I've got news".

Asked husband to filter out his side of the family. My mum also acted as a filter for family by proactively telling them behind my back that I still hadn't had my baby...

I just turned off my phone.

And DS was over a fortnight late.

It is very annoying, mine arrived on due date, was getting messaged daily from a number of friends from about a week before. I ignored all of them. I'd told them i'd let them know once baby arrived, no idea why they couldn't trust that.

You still have time. On my due date I had no signs at all until the plug came away at 5pm. By 11pm DD was born after two hours of labour. My first baby. Good luck OP.

@french2020 I feel your pain, I'm also 40 week today and had influx of "any news?!" messages! First off, yay we made it! 💪

I started out responding with "nothing to report" type messages this morning and now just progressed to ignoring people (including mother in law!). I think if there's a no 2 I'll follow other posters suggestions about being a bit more vague with due date. They're all super excited but think my impatience and uncomfortableness is making me less tolerant of the polite enquiries 🤣

@pinkcattydude I might start forwarding that if I'm waiting much longer 😆