Today is my due date and being pestered

[French2020]

I’m due today and I’ve had several messages/calls from family and friends. I appreciate they care but it’s too much and I’m going mad trying to stay busy. I have a midwife appointment on Friday so presume I will have the joy of a sweep then if nothing happens. It’s my first baby so not surprised but struggling

@Holskey

I think if you share your precise due date, and you're fortunate enough to have people in your life who are interested, then you just have to be prepared to receive such messages. Honestly, imagine everyone knew your due date and nobody messaged at all. That might be okay with you but we all know many people, I'm sure, who that would offend. So friends and family can't win.

Copy and paste a polite reply/ don't reply at all/ mute your phone. And good luck!

Exactly. Women go all over SM doing photo updates on bump, (weekly, in one friend's case) then wonder why people message asking how they are. Bonkers I have learnt from mumsnet to never enquire after the health of someone I care about. In my day we knew roughly when babies were due, we chatted to our closest people, fielded the odd 'haven't you had it yet' and sent out birth announcements when the baby arrived. The questions aren't just excitement about new baby. People ask how you're feeling because the care

#old grandma totters away mumbling and grumbling

Oh this drove me bloody nuts and I'm always careful not to do the same thing to anyone else
There are still holes in my wall where I threw my phone a couple of times I'm ashamed to say

To those of you saying to be grateful people are thinking of you, I get that, but the wording of the message makes a huge difference.

I got a message from my manager on my due date saying something along the lines of 'no need to respond, hope you're okay, we're thinking of you'. That message was lovely. No pressure to respond whatsoever.

The message that frustrated me and I imagine are the ones that OP is referring to are the ones that just say 'hello, is baby here yet?' or 'any news?'

My now 3 year old DS was 11 days late and it drove me insane! I'm now 36+3 with his sibling and its starting to ramp up. I tried to keep the exact date secret, but DH told everyone. My mums rung me 3 days running just to see how I am. She's going to be looking after DS when I go in, so of course we'd bloody ring her if something happened!

Argh. I was 10 days overdue and had this for all 10 of those days. My mum was the worst. My friend just starts sending me WhatsApps with baby emoticons and question marks!! 🙈 It drove me absolutely mad. At one point I remember throwing my phone across the room. For next baby I lied and said my due date was almost a mo th later than it actually was. Best of luck!!

After exh had seen me getting more and more wound up to point I just turned my phone off he then tried to put me onto the phone to his sister while I was in bloody labour
He then stormed out of the room when I refused to take the phone and soon came back when he realised he had no where to go

I was 38 weeks yesterday and have been getting these messages for over a week

I get my first was earlyish at 37 weeks but I just want to be left alone. The more people ask the less I want to tell them when baby is here

@MangoM

To those of you saying to be grateful people are thinking of you, I get that, but the wording of the message makes a huge difference.

I got a message from my manager on my due date saying something along the lines of 'no need to respond, hope you're okay, we're thinking of you'. That message was lovely. No pressure to respond whatsoever.

The message that frustrated me and I imagine are the ones that OP is referring to are the ones that just say 'hello, is baby here yet?' or 'any news?'

Absolutely. Huge difference between 'happy due date! Sending good vibes' and 'hurry up and push that baby out, we're bored of waiting'

Both messages I received with no1!

Oh and both my brother and uncle asked me when I thought the baby would arrive by as they needed to book holidays. I did remind my brother of this when he had his daughter 😂

So glad I’ve found this.
I’m 39wks been having these messages from DH family for about a week now.

I went 9 days over with my first and they really got to me - I almost felt like it was pressure!!

I’m tempted to just over share about lightening crotch, bowel movements and cervix related info to see if that puts a stop haha!

At the moment I read the messages and take hours and hours to reply to prevent myself going too sarcastic!

@MangoM this is exactly it, thank you. The wording does matter. People seem to think they have a right to know all details, when it’s not about them.