so you are/have been pregnant after miscarriage. How did/do you feel??

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Basically, I got pg earlier this year and all throughout my pg i was m/c obsessed! I mean i had 4 scans (one i paid for) and pestered to get a midwives appointment about 3 weks after i found out! I was a complete wreck as i think i just knew something was going to go wrong IYSWIM

Lo and behold mmc at 10 weeks on september 11th of all days

Anyway, I found out im pg again 3 weeks ago and havent even thought once that i may m/c again. Also didnt when i was pg with my 3 dc. Wether its because im due august (i only have end of july/aug babies so far) and thats kind of my comfort zone or wether i just know things are going to go swimmingly this time I dont know but Im totally chilled out this time. Midwife appointment is 3rd of jan 6 weeks after finding out just realised that!!

Sorry i've rambled but dp wont talk about it till i have a scan and i havent told anyone in rl yet so just needed to air

Would be interesting to know about other peoples experiences though

paranoid and edgy! didn't really relax until ... well I haven't. But got a lot more relaxed after I started feeling the baby move and had my 21 weeks scan.

Have you seen this thread? VERY supportive.

hi, yeah ive been on all the threads just needed to get it all off my chest

congatulations on your pregnancy and sorry to hear of your m/c

i had 2 m/c bet my 1st and 2nd child and i'm now 14 weeks preg with number 3. I still can't entirely relax and accept that everything'll be ok. The first few weeks are really hard for me and even going to the toilet is hard and I'm scared to look in case there's been bleeding.

I find it gets easier as I can tell people. The scan's a big hurdle for me and I always find that very emotional. Then the 16 week will-there-be-a-hearbeat appointment is the next BIG hurdle. It gets a lot easier once I can feel regualr movement.

Did you m/c at 16 weeks then? Mine was 10+1, although im relaxed i still want to get past that mark iyswim.

I couldn't relax at all until about week 20 or something. I had a couple of days when I had spotting as well and got really upset and panicky.
Not sure that you wouldn't be nervous about it all

no, both my mcs were early, but here they'll check for a heatbeat at 16 weeks so that seems like the next big hurdle to overcome, and then there's the 20 week scan. i just tick these things off and then can relax a bit more. such an emotional time!

its not that im not nervous im just not completely obsessing like i was before. Its strange i cant describe it. I can imagine myself with another baby in a few months but i couldnt before. iyswim

It happened to me too. For pregancy following m/c I couldn't relax at all until the scan was complete and like tassisssss, it gets easier once you can feel movement. I also think it helped me later knowing how many foetuses get rejected, usually because they haven't formed properly, they reckon it is one in three.

I believe your body is incredibly aware so if you have a good feeling about it, it is because it is going to be ok. Intuition is almost always right, after all, there was something amiss last time and something in you knew that. If you are feeling better this time it will probably be ok.
Good luck and congratulations!

I lost a son at 20 weeks in 2005, after having a perfectly normal and healthy pg with DD1. Thought the second would be a breeze, didn't cross my mind that anything bad would happen, I'd had all those worries with dd1. Then it did.

Last November I plucked up the courage to get pg again and if I'm honest I spent the entire 8 months bricking it. I also found at out first scan they were identical twins, cue more reasons to worry, but it all turned out fine and dandy and I now have 3 gorgeous girls.

Please try and relax (and believe me I know how impossible that can be!) and I hope it all goes okay for you. xx

I felt like you jingle. Basically got preg this year with dc3, but had a gut feeling that something was wrong. I couldn't/can't explain it, it was like a voice popping into my head when I was watching TV or something telling me something wasn't right... in fact I carried tampax/panty liners in my bag til 9 weeks "just in case" (have never done that before) and researched nuchal scans because I just knew something wasn't right. Strangely, I never conciously thought I would miscarry, I just felt that there was a problem with the baby and that we would have to make a decision regarding the pregnancy. Also strange wanting a nuchal because I decided against having even the 15wk blood tests with ds1&2, because I felt "good" about things.

Lo and behold at 9 weeks exactly I started bleeding, passing the sac the next day. Still absolutely knocked me for 6 though, horrible horrible time. I must admit to finding a crumb of comfort in the feelings that I had before the mc happened.

Now I'm 20 weeks today (got preg next cycle after mc) and feel completely different. Ok, still the usual niggly worries re movements and stuff, but 100% positive unlike last time, which admittedly is a weird thing to feel following a miscarriage.

Hi ILTS, as you will know I have two DDs then mc no3 in August which knocked me for six, got pregnant again in October. I refused to even think about this pregnancy, can't even think about holding a newborn again etc

Had a scan at 8 weeks and everything looked fine

however on Tuesday I had a bleed first a little bit of red but had some brown gunk since then (if one more person tells me brown blood is good I will scream, I had a week of on off brown blood before mcing proper).

EPAS have refused to scan me unless the bleeding goes red or I am in pain so I am in limbo right now, knicker checking every half hour and trying to be positive but it had brought it all back.

10+1 today can't think of having a baby at the end of this one either

sorry but in a way even if things are fine I feel cheated that having a mc has ruined this pregnancy for me if that makes sense.

I m/c at 12 weeks between dd1 and dd2. I bled quite a bit then cramps then no heartbeat 2 days after I got to the 12 week mark - apparently it stopped beating at 12 weeks. Very very nervous with dd2's pregnancy - bled heavier than with the dc i lost. Scanned regularly in til about 14 weeks cos of the bleeding but all went well in the end and she is now a very active and healthy 10 month old. In answer to your OP I was very nervous throughout the pregnancy and was actually a bit shocked when I did give birth to dd2. Do still think about the one we never had though.

Congratulations!!

Oh no, wish I hadn't come on this thread now.....I've been paranoid like something just isn't right this time round (I'm 12+3 atm) but I did feel better when I saw baby at 10 weeks and arm moving but do have my moments of worry still. I had mc before ds and wasn't this obsessed when pregnant with ds. Should I be worried then? I'm off for a check of baby at a local hospital tomorrow because I fell off a chair on Tuesday and midwife said she'd check us to make me feel better. Was feeling ok but dead nervous now, what if my feelings have been intuition?!!

congrats btw

No no no Looney, please don't worry. My post read like I was blase about this pregnancy but I started a thread at about 15 weeks because I wasn't having movements every day and was paranoid and convinced something was wrong. It's very easy to analyse every little thing when you're pregnant (after a mc or not). You will be fine tomorrow I'm sure - I've got 20 week scan tomorrow and despite feeling good about this pregnancy I will be bricking it tonight and at work tomorrow morning.

Good luck and congrats!

Congratulations I know exactly what you mean. The first time I was pregnant I just had a feeling that something was going to go wrong, it was just like I felt too lucky to be pg, if that make sense. Just like you I mc at 10 weeks but fell pregnant again 2 months later and although I was a litle paranoid, the whole way through the pregnancy, deep down I knew everything was going to be alright. I suppose I tried not to think about it during the first 12 weeks. The worrying never went away, and it got a lot better once the baby started moving.

Looney, hope everything goes well for you today I'm sure everything will be fine as babies are well protected in there. Once you've seen the heartbeat the risk of mc drops dramatically.
Kitty sorry that your in limbo at the moment. Hope everything goes ok for you hun.

sk cant you get a private scan? thats really bad that they wont scan you!!

I realy hope everything works out ok for you! I know what you mean though, i had scan at 8 weeks and everything was fine, then at 10 weeks i started bleeding brown blood and went for scan and it showed baby was fine so they gave me my due date and told me to come back at 20 weeks, 2 days later the blood had turned red and another scan revealed no heartbeat i was 10+1 when i had the scan and 10+1 when baby died! but the strange thing is that the morning after the 10+1 scan when baby was aparently dead i had the worst morning sickness ever, i couldnt even get up off the sofa! but then if you look at jules who is on the herparin (sp?) she has basically been bleeding none stop and little one is doing just fine so it could just be your body testing you

anyway after all this chat last night i started getting paranoid as i have no symptoms i.e morning sickness etc so went out and got a clearblue this morning, sods law that on the way home i had to pull over as i thought i was going to throw up all over my steering wheel. I didnt though and the blue line was the thickest darkest i have ever ever seen! i am 6 weeks today by my calculations!

So sorry to all of you who have suffered m/c and conngrats to all of you who have gone on to have little babies

thankyou for telling me your stories it makes me feel a bit better to know im not the only one going through this

Just quick one as just got back, heard heartbeat very briefly so was reassured there. They have done a blood group because I'm RHNeg and because I had a fall after 12 weeks, they need to check baby's blood hasn't got into mine and if so, anti d needed again. They were very good at reassuring me, just wish I wasn't so obsessed with this pregnancy!!!

Congratulations! had 2mc before first successful pg. It's so fab to hear the heartbeat every time. Got v fat during pg as followed rule -- if you don't have to stand then sit, if you don't have to sit then lie. Not much housework got done! Best of.

so glad everything is fine. Maybe inventand wear some pregnant lady stabilisers to avoid falling again?

If you patent it and it takes off and you become a multi millionaire from it, can you lend me a tenner?

i was the same, a mmc in feb last year then pregnant a couple of months later. fearful all the way through even after the 12 week point. was convinced would not have a baby after 9 months, especially as i bled through first and some of second trimester. after fear of miscarriage itwas fear of everything else that could go wrong!
and lo and behold 9 months later i had a baby and no idea what to do as i was certain it was never going to happen!
if it is meant to happen it will. thoughts are with you.

Candypandy - having had no successfull pregnancies so far and having had 2 m/c's this year I am now ttc again. Did you do anything different with preg 3,or as they say, is it all just down to luck?

after a mmc ( found out at 12 week scan) and a mc at 7 weeks i was a wreck with this pregnancy at first. i wasnt going to go for a scan at all as i thought in my head that they are just bad luck. my oh persuaded me to go and as soon as i walked into the room i broke down. i was sooooo worked up. anyway i ended up having 4 scans due to admin cockups and found that as 12 weeks passed and time went on i started to relax. i am now 32 weeks and feeling constant movement so am relaxed. my only advise would be to let yourself feel how you want ( not sure that makes sense) . dont try to mask or hide your feelings. it annoys me when people say " you have to try and forget about any previous m/c". i think you need to run with your emotions as stress is not good and letting it out helps.