Xmas with antivaxx sister before ELCS

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How do I go about asking her to take a test?

My sister, husband and their 6 month old daughter are coming to spend xmas day with us this year. Due to family circumstances, this is our first xmas together since we were about 8 (we're now in our 30s).

The problem is that i'm due my ELCS on approx 29th December.

I am double vexed, and as my first daughter finishes school around mid Dec, I was planning on becoming a bit of a hermit so to mitigate risk.

But my sister is anti vax. Her DH has been doubled, but she won't do it. Says she doesn't want to pass it on to her DD as she is breastfeeding. Thinks she'll cope if she gets it (we all know that's not the point but ok).

Should I get her to lat-flow before arriving? PCR? Cancel all together? Or am I being a bit of a drama llama? I haven't said anything to her yet.

OP I would think about cancelling.
I have an ELCS booked soon after you and we won't be seeing anyone at Christmas or just before it.
I don't want DH to catch covid and not be allowed in to the hospital. Obviously I don't want to catch it either or take any unnecessary risks.
Maybe you can arrange a different event with your sister. I know you said it had been many years since you spent Christmas together so what is one more in the scheme of things.
Just don't agree to anything that will make you feel uncomfortable or worried, it's not worth the stress.

@PurplePansy05 I had my ELCS date confirmed before my 20 week scan.

@Bennetgirl

I’d cancel altogether.

If you or your partner end up catching it you’ll end up alone for your c section. I’d self isolate for the week before.

It’s her choice not to have the vaccine but its your choice who you see before a major op and new baby. Studies have shown unvaccinated are more likely to pass it on.

Absolutely this. There doesn’t have to be any drama, just not worth risking anything, and having to be alone for your birth.

Can I just say, just because she doesn't want to have a vaccination that is still considered experimental and is still in phase 3 trials, doesn't make her 'antivaxx'

@jojojo82 you CAN just say, but you SHOULDN’T as it’s incorrect. You’re either just ignorant, or purposefully spreading false information. But either way your comment should be deleted as false and misleading information

I’ve just been in for an op (not a section) and the standard policy still seems to be PCR test and then isolate for 3 days before going in, vaxed or not. So depending on your final section date you might have to cancel Christmas at short notice anyway. Better to call it off now rather than leave them in the lurch on Christmas Eve.

I would cancel altogether and make sure she knew the reason why. Her selfishness has consequences. I would make sure she knew I thought she was selfish and wrong, especially as she has an innocent baby that could be affected if she gets Covid. I would rather stop breastfeeding than keep breastfeeding and risk getting Covid. Don't tiptoe around, tell her she is selfish and you won't risk your health or that of your unborn child by being with her at Christmas.