How do you deal with size comments?

[micegg]

I think I must be a little sensitive about bodyshape, etc as the one thing I am finding really hard to handle are the people who look you up and down and comment on your size. I am mostly talking about work colleagues. Example, this week (and I only work PT) I was 'jokingly' called fatty by 2 people [hmmm] and as I walked into the building before I had even taken my bloody coat off this woman (who I rarely speak too) said "OOh you are carrying big this time aren't you". I looked her in the eye and said "please dont say that to me. I dont want to be told how big I am at 8 in the morning". I know I am a tad hormonal at the moent but if one more person comments I will rip their heads off with my acid tongue. What is it with people and stupid comments when you are pregnant. Grrrrr. Thats to go along with comparing your bump size with our people and touching your stomach.

I loved my big sticky out bump but did get fed up with constant comments - of course everyone thinks they are the first to say it.. on one such occasion when someone at work wheeled out the old favourite - wow you are enormous it must be twins - ha ha yesr very good, person next to her said ignore them rosycheeks wear your bump with pride - I loved that made me glow all day

God, it's not just me putting up with this crap then?

I too have had the "Aren't you big?" and "Aren't you small?" within minutes of each other. It just reminds me that these people haven't a clue and it's a great source of comfort that they are all talking cobblers.

What drives me really bananas is when they say things like "Are you sure you've got your dates right?"

My answer is usually, "No, actually, I don't have my dates right at all. I could be due anytime between 2.30 today and July 2015. Of course I have my dates right, you dull fuck!"

Ok, I don't say that at all but just going through it in my head makes me feel better.

Oh, don't get me started...

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Insensitive comments to pg women really annnoy me. I make a point of saying only nice things to pg friends and I never say anything about big bumps.
When I was pg with my ds, a colleague said to me, 'you must be having a girl - I've never SEEN your bottom so big!!'. Bitch.

I've not had time to read the whole thread (sorry, but got to go and feed DS in a moment!) but this really touched a nerve . I'm about 34 weeks and mostly people are reasonably polite/nice (you know, the 'oh, aren't you neat/small etc' comments which are entirely acceptable even when I know I look like a beached whale! But a 'friend' has commented 3 times in the past 2 weeks "gosh, I can't believe you're only xx weeks, you look like you're about to explode/you're enormous" and its has made me really really grrr.... In fact, I finally snapped at her that it really didn't make me feel very nice when she said it and was a bit upsetting (she has 2 of her own, so should know better). Now I'm a bit when I see her, but even so.......Thanks for giving me the opportunity to offload that!!!

Oh, and don't get me started on strangers (or even random work people who I don't really know) touching my stomach...... I'm always tempted to pat them back, but never quite have the nerve...

Ignore, ignore, ignore..... this is unfortunately just the start of a long line of uninvited comments about the choices you will be making regarding birth, breastfeeding, weaning, potty training etc. etc. etc.
Or - you could turn around and reply "I may be big, but at least after the baby is born I'll be thin again" - and look meaningfully at the offenders waist, hips etc

It's comforting to know there's so many of us in the same boat! There's one person who every time she sees me says "OMG!! I can't believe you're only xxx weeks, you're so BIG! My mum has made a couple of comments like "At the scan did they check, is there one or two in there"? and at the next check up she said "What about your measurements, what have they said about them"? Also, one of my friends keeps telling me my bump is really 'pointy' - God knows what she means by that but it annoys the tits off me!!!

This is my 3rd child & I'm 25 weeks pregnant. I was a size 10 before falling pregnant (after having worked hard at losing 3 stone and dropping 3-4 dress sizes) so I don't know if it's because they assume I'm just piling back on the pounds or what, but I'm much smaller with this one than my other two, and although I've gained a bit more weight than I would have liked, I feel that my bump is quite 'tidy' and a nice rounded shape. I've got to the point I now tell them to shut the funk up, their comments are depressing me and if they haven't got something positive to say then I don't want to hear it!

Also, with the belly touching thing - it's one of my pet peves. People would never think of groping your belly if you werent' pregnant, so I don't know why they think it's ok just because you are! I've started saying "Please don't, I really don't like it".

lol, scampy!

my friend's partner thinks it's really funny to tell me I have a big arse now I'm pregnant. Because of course that is just what I want to hear. Believe me that feels worse than the giant bump comments!

Although apparently I don'y really have a big arse according to others, have put on a lot of weight but is mostly bump n boobs - I was one of the 'skinny ones' before I got pg so its all a bit weird.

Crazy how people seem to think they can say whatever they like - more annoyingly tho I have always been Queen of the Snappy Comeback so would always be able to fight my corner but that went out the window when the hormones kicked in so now I just get upset...

Nice to see this thread has got so many repsonses. Thanks for that. I am glad I am not the only one. Well, this week I have started commenting back. It's surprisingly easy when you start . A woman at work told me how large I was, to which I replied "I am sure you wouldnt have said that to me if I wasnt pregnant so I see know need for you to start now". She was embarrassed and apologised and another woman who has 2 kids came over and said how annoying it is when people comment on your size when you are pregnant. It felt quite liberating actually. This was all said in an open planned office so I am hoping a few people heard and it may make then think about what they say in future. I agree with some commments to ignore if you can. However, I remember feeling really upset by the end of my last pregnancy with the accumulated effect of all those helpful comments so TBH a staright to the point reply works better for me. I have noticed that most of the people who make these comments are fairly (ahem) round themselves so I am sure its more about their feelings about their own body than mine.

As far as bump touchers go I am going to use the same tactic. I have had a few unwanted rubs from work colleacgues and one from my neighbour which I have ignored as at least I know them and its not something that happens very often. I am yet to have a stranger do it but if they did I feel confident enough to say something similar to when size is commented. Direct and to the point without being personal.

Happy christmas to you all. Like someone said on here: Wear your bumps with pride. I actually quite like mine even with the stretch marks from DD.

Nice to see this thread has got so many repsonses. Thanks for that. I am glad I am not the only one. Well, this week I have started commenting back. It's surprisingly easy when you start . A woman at work told me how large I was, to which I replied "I am sure you wouldnt have said that to me if I wasnt pregnant so I see know need for you to start now". She was embarrassed and apologised and another woman who has 2 kids came over and said how annoying it is when people comment on your size when you are pregnant. It felt quite liberating actually. This was all said in an open planned office so I am hoping a few people heard and it may make then think about what they say in future. I agree with some commments to ignore if you can. However, I remember feeling really upset by the end of my last pregnancy with the accumulated effect of all those helpful comments so TBH a staright to the point reply works better for me. I have noticed that most of the people who make these comments are fairly (ahem) round themselves so I am sure its more about their feelings about their own body than mine.

As far as bump touchers go I am going to use the same tactic. I have had a few unwanted rubs from work colleacgues and one from my neighbour which I have ignored as at least I know them and its not something that happens very often. I am yet to have a stranger do it but if they did I feel confident enough to say something similar to when size is commented. Direct and to the point without being personal.

Happy christmas to you all. Like someone said on here: Wear your bumps with pride. I actually quite like mine even with the stretch marks from DD.

Come to this thread late, sorry. I was enormous from about 6 months pregnant and constantly had colleagues saying 'Blimey, are you sure it's not twins?' etc etc. One colleague used to sing 'I feel the earth move under my feet' every time I came near! I didn't mind too much, to be honest. I love a big, healthy bump.

I do agree, it can be upsetting to some women. I had a friend who was very sensitive about her weight before she got pregnant, and it made matters much worse once she was heavily pregnant and people were making comments about her carrying triplets blah blah blah. People don't tend to think before they speak to pregnant women in general! I remember being on the tube one evening coming home from work when I was about 7 months pregnant. I was eating a rather large baguette, and this old dear said to me 'You're eating for two, not three, remember?!;'. She meant it as a joke, but I felt like flinging the crust at her head

Went out on works do last night, absolutely dreading the comments, nearly didn't go and at the last minute decided the dress I had planned to wear made me look like a bag of anthracite. Anyway I had nothing but lovely comments all night, and the men insisted on taking me to the ladies to make sure I didn't get bumped into. Even got chatted up in a crowded pub, he had a helluva shock when I pointed my bump out to him!

I don't get people touching my bump, my friend says I have a keep away aura. Only another friend whos a Health Visitor touches it, she says shes fed up with being PC all day and can't keep her hands off it, the baby always kicks like mad so I think it like her too.