HELP URGENT Hyperemesis SEVERE! TWINS

[Dalejones]

Right my partner is not about 8 weeks pregnant with our second, she has severe hyperemesis again (had it all through the pregnancy of our first child) but this time its alot worse they did a scan and found its twins which we are over the moon about, but my partner is at her lowest point she has ever been in her life she has constant nausea every minute of every day and she throws up approx 40 times a day, she is absolutly wiped out, she can hardly talk she cant move she has been to hospital on a drip twice, the anti sickness tablets are making no difference, I had to ring my work and take a few weeks off to be there for her as it's not easy with a 3 year old running riot, we have now moved my partner down to her parents so they can look after her properly and tonight they have said she cant go on and she wants to terminate the pregnancy, I just feel like it cant be the only option, I'd do anythin to take the pain from her, need urgent advice, wot can we do?

They need to put her on a combination of drugs. I was 5 different ones until we gotten combination right.
I also felt like your wife, at the time you can’t see the light at end of the tunnel. Nausea can take longer to stop.

The nausea is awful. Food smells definitely affected mine. As did being hot. So a good cool fan helped, and cold fruit ice lollies to slowly suck helped as drinking is difficult. Rhubarb and custard sweets also helped the nausea. Something about sucking and the sharpness of them really helped when the nausea was bad. On first waking up I had to stay very still and take the pills and wait for them to kick in which would take an hour or so. Then I could take breakfast (dry cereal) and then when that was settled (half an hour) get dressed. If the nausea was bad during the day I would cool myself down and avoid moving and being near strong smells. It gets a bit better in the second trimester but I honestly threw up when giving birth as I was off the pills but as soon as I had given birth I was cured and despite losing weight whilst pregnant as I ate so little the baby was a very healthy weight and perfectly healthy. It’s a terrible condition but adjusting my work hours to start later and family helping meant it was possible for me. But I too contemplated abortion as it was really tough so I do understand. Sending you all lots of love. X

Can anyone advise on how long the sickness lasts?? We are on week 12 now and really are struggling with it, it's been relentless!

@Dalejones mine got increasingly worse up to about 17 weeks. Currently 19w2d and I am feeling ok now, some days even good! If you haven’t joined the HG support thread, I would recommend that you do. You will get SO much helpful advice which will help your wife.

I still can’t stop medication and I’m 33 weeks now. Last time it stopped the instant DD was out.
Sorry probably not what you want to hear.

12 weeks was the worst for me. I was given IV steroids and then tablet steroids up until 20 weeks as antisickness medication in hospital and at home wasnt enough. Quite a lot of hg sufferers find symptoms ease between 15-20 weeks. Hang in there. Definitely join the hyperemesis support page. You and your partner will find so much support there.

12 weeks was the worst for me - the doctors told me it peaked around then. By week 14 I could see a bit of a difference. By week 16 I could sit up. By week 18 I was back at work.

Praying this sickness passes. Try it Dale, it worked a miracle for me!

I didn't have hyperemesis but my nausea and vomiting peaked between wk 12/13z eased off towards wk 16. It really was a miserable time and there was a point I thought to myself I can fully understand why people with HG consider termination. It really can make you feel very low. Hoping she gets through the other side soon. How long did it last in her first pregnancy?

PS. I was given cyclizine for mine and it actually made it worse!

16/17 weeks for me. 20 weeks now, not on any meds and only sick first thing in the morning, and not every morning at that!

She really needs to be on steroids and anti sickness together. I've had 3 babies since 2017, my youngest being born in May this year and every pregnancy I've had hypermesis. My latest was the worse by far and like your wife I contemplated terminating because I couldn't carry on with a 3yr old and a 1yr old. I went into hospital for the 4th time in a matter of weeks and refused to leave until I was given the best stuff they could give. The majority of the time they start out with the cheap anti sickness and don't like to move onto something better or the final thing steroids. But after my demands I was given steroids and anti sickness and I'm happy to say it worked. The sickness stopped. I did still have nausea but I was able to eat in small amounts. I really hope you get something sorted with your wife soon.

I am utterly sick of patients being given rubbish treatments and being left to suffer when better treatments are available.

This is a terrible example of cost-cutting damaging people and often it does not save money either.

Slightly dfferent but my G will no long prescribe my ADHD meds because they are not "safe" without CMHT review.

The CMHT is srruggling to deal with people who really need help.

I have had these meds for 14 years and have never needed a review before.

When I call the GP they cannot give me a telephone appointment for another month.

After sending a strongly worded email they have temporarily agreed to give me weekly prescriptions.

Makes no sense at all and also creates foutr times the work.

We need the NHs but we need it to work for us, not against us.

Both my successful pregnancies I was still being sick in labour. I hope it eases for your wife soon. I was having IM promethazine at one point, but honestly the only relief I ever felt was during my hospital admissions when I was on IV fluids.

I was offered a termination several times and have no idea how I got through 40 weeks. Love to your wife.

I had HG badly until 22ish weeks and then it calmed down significantly although I was still sick and nauseous on and off.

When I was admitted, they started me on Ondansetron and it made a difference but waiting it out was the only thing I could really do. It's not easy and it's not easy to watch either, my H struggled too.

Thoughts are with you both, it is horrific and it takes far more trips to doctors and admissions to hospital than it should to get the treatment you need.

I was offered a termination several times and have no idea how I got through 40 weeks
I find this shocking that termination was offered (unless I have misunderstood your post).

All women should be able to have a termination if they want one but it seems wrong for a woman to be offered one repeatedly.

It is almost like it was an "easier" option for them.

@Dalejones
How are you doing at the moment?

You post a lot about your wife and I hope she starts to feel better now she is getting further along.

Are you OK?

Hello. Twin mum here.

I genuinely went to the doctor's and told him (having experienced a first pregnancy with a single child, and morning sickness) that I believed I was dying. As I could not fathom any way it was possible to feel this bad unless my life was about to end.

He guessed twins/triplets there and then (week 8) and it was twins. I stopped feeling horrific around week 14.

Can I just say, to your wife, that I know how she feels. And I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. But having been through it, and now having my twins, I would do it all again. And I truly thought I was dying. Please give her my best wishes, and let her know that the privilege of raising these two little people, is something few get to experience, and I can not believe my luck. They are beyond fantastic.

@StarCat2020, I don't think they meant to pressure me at all. But honestly I went through hell. I lost massive amounts of weight and my blood tests were horrendous. I spent lots of my pregnancies in hospital several nights a week just to have fluids. They had to get anaesthetists to put lines in as I was so dehydrated.

My pregnancies were via fertility treatment as well. I eventually got in a routine where I had set days to go in for fluids rather than waiting for emergency admissions, so would do something like Sunday, Tuesday and Friday overnight!

The last time a termination was offered was just before the cutoff date. Though they did say at that time they would extent it if I asked due to how unwell I was.

Things improved drastically with the planned admission for fluids, I was still just as sick, but didn't end up desperately I'll.

I just wanted to pop on here with an update and to thank you all for your support! We went on to have 2 beautiful healthy babies that are now 6 months old! A year from when I made this post at a time that we consider our lowest point, the sickness carried on until December (around the 20 week mark) then eased off just in time for my brothers wedding! Here is a pic of beautiful Leo and Ember! Forever thankful!.. and to anyone who finds this post in the future who is looking for help and is suffering the way that we were here is living proof that there is light at the end of the tunnel and things will get better! God bless everyone! X

Oh my gosh I have a huge lump in my throat from your update OP, huge bloody congratulations, what a gorgeous gorgeous pair of babies!!

so glad your wife came out the other side

Love the name ember too btw

Omg this made me well up! Im so glad you updated this thread- you’re wife deserves a medal! They are beautiful!

Oh this is the best update ever! What beautiful babies

I didn't spot the year when reading the earlier posts and I was feeling for you both every step of the day. I am so relieved to see she got through it.

Oh wow congratulations!! Thanks for the update