Pregnant after sterilisation !

[TaylorsSwimShorts]

Just as the title says...sterilised over 3 years ago, found out today I'm pregnant.....shocked doesn't come close to how I'm feeling! I knew it was a risk but honestly didn't think it really happened..especially after so long 🤯🤯🤯
It would be such a high risk pregnancy due to previous c sections, anybody else had this happen? Anybody else had 6 c sections..😱😱😱

I think you need an appointment with a gynae ASAP.

I’m pretty sure they normally say that up to 3 CS is ok but more problematic afterwards.
You need to have a pretty good idea of what is the situation..

I’m assuming an abortion isn’t a possibility?

You need to see a doctor ASAP because there is a high possibility of an ectopic pregnancy. This was what I was told after I was sterilised.

Abortion has been mentioned, I went for an emergency scan today when I realised, scan showed 9 weeks healthy baby with a heartbeat, implanted in the right place....I saw the consultant after and she said 6 sections isn't unheard of but not common, said it would be very high risk, and seemed (to me) to be saying abortion would be the better option...would be the 7th baby, 1 normal delivery 5 sections...oh and I'm 42 🤯

Sorry should have said, as soon as I realised today I went straight to EPAU where I had a scan, pregnancy isn't ectopic. I never wanted another baby at all..hence sterilisation , I'm just so shocked!

What do YOU want to do?

A friend had 6 CS. She's fine. Obviously the issue of scar tissue building up after each one. Just at others have said it's more risky so as long as you're under good care you should be fine. Congratulations!

This would be my worst nightmare. Thankfully it's rare and not something I think about often. I'm sterilised after 4 c sections and never thought I would abort but I can see why people choose to do so when they have made a final decision to have no more children, especially when there are health risks to consider.
You can only find out as much information as you can and do what you feel is right for you. If you don't mind me asking, did you have clips on your tubes or were they cut?

Wow, OP, you are extremely fertile!

@Countingchicks

A friend had 6 CS. She's fine. Obviously the issue of scar tissue building up after each one. Just at others have said it's more risky so as long as you're under good care you should be fine. Congratulations!

Read the room.

The OP clearly does not want another baby.

I thought sterilisation in a women meant the removal of one’s uterus and ovaries.

How is it possible to get pregnant after that?

I thought sterilisation in a women meant the removal of one’s uterus and ovaries.

How is it possible to get pregnant after that?

You're thinking of a hysterectomy

I'm not sure , my head is spinning, I'm not opposed to another baby as such, even though its not what I planned, but I definitely don't want to be pregnant or give birth! Horrible position to be in tbh, i have a bit of breathing space to decide and gather more information, I'm leaning towards denial for another 3 weeks, then getting the 12 week scan and seeing where I stand after the results, I'm not against abortion at all but I'm not sure I can make that choice... this was not how I planned spending my day!
I had the clips on tubes during last c sections...I'm fairly sure the surgeon said something about cauterising them too but that couldve been something else 🙈

I was also told that an abortion would need to be surgical due to all the scarring, so waiting a bit to get my thoughts straight and some more info on the risks doesn't make a difference procedure wise...as I understand it.
As I said I did know it was a risk, I just really didn't think it was something that really happened, hence not putting 2 and 2 together when I missed periods!

Horrid situation to be in!

This won't help you at all, but I'd give anything to be in your shoes. Sadly not an option for me, also 42, definitely cauterised when sterilised and the biggest mistake I ever made.

Whatever you choose, will be the right decision for you xx

Ah I'm sorry, I know a few people that would kill to be in my position which just makes me feel even worse for being so devastated, I think the shock will take a long time to wear off!

OP, you have enough to think about and deal with, you don't need to feel guilty or bad about other people's situations that are completely unrelated and out of your control. I hope everything works out for you whatever the outcome

I know your head must be spinning op but take time and dont rush into any decisions.
I would also love to be in your shoes have regretted having my tubes tied since day 1.
Whatever you decide good luck and dont be pressured into a choice you don't want

Other posters saying they are jealous…come on not about you.

Wow what a shock OP. Is your youngest 3 then? I guess positively you’re only just through the baby years (rather than it being 10 years ago). It’s very tricky because you must consider the impact of your health for the sake of your 6 children, they definitely need a mum. Can you try and understand the risk more?

Oh no op. I'm really feeling for you. I too got sterilised and wouldn't know what to do if I found out I was pregnant again.

Take your time to work out what you want and what you want to do.

Like you say, you have time to breath and think. If it's got to be a surgical procedure ( if that's what you choose) then you have the time for the 12 week scan. What a shock. I would just take some time solely to absorb the shock. Dont rush into a desision yet and if you can get more advice then do that too.

What would your third trimester look like? Would you need to be in hospital, have a early section, how often would you be checked and where ( hospital or gp surgery)

Basically write a massive list of questions ready to ask.

@TaylorsSwimShorts, would you be able to have some counselling around abortion and the risk associated with another pregnancy?

I get that you would rather put your head in the sand but maybe this would help you get a better undersatnding of all the risks in both cases.

Can I ask why you are saying you would rather avoid giving birth again? Were some of those pregnacies/births particularly traumatic?

Just to answer a few questions, my youngest is 3 yes, so I'm out of the nappy/bottle/ nap stage, I have an old buggy thats near death, it wouldn't be a big stretch to go back to newborn but still a kick in the teeth, 3 yr old is just about to start full time nursery too...
The suggestion of the list is really helpful, especially asking what a 3rd trimester would look like, ie on bed rest or possible early delivery, I did speak to a consultant yesterday and she said she would love to be able to tell me clearly yes you will be fine..or no, you will die...but she just couldn't say, obviously, the issue with being pregnant is the 6 others I have to parent, 1 of which has pretty severe behavioural problems, just the tiredness and how hard everything would be come feb/march/April...but the real, real fear I have is literally dying due to heammorage or my bladder being irreparably damaged, I was told during the last section my bladder is stuck to my womb with scars, and obviously as the womb would stretch so would the bladder and the consultant said it was already very thin....after last section I bled badly on the ward and had to have a crash team come in and ( i think) apply a load of pressure to my stomach till the bleeding stopped, I felt battered afterwards and it took weeks to recover, I also have big babies..9 and 10lbers and if this one was as big I guess that would be even more stretch and strain on everything....I'm still no clearer today, getting to speak to anyone is difficult, until I'm in the antenatal system, which I'm not even sure if I'll refer myself to, I've looked at some stories of 6th sections but obviously they're anecdotal and don't necessarily apply to MY potential 6th section....so..um...🙄🤷‍♀️

Added to the fact that I have 6 children plus a stepchild, a 7th child for me would mean I would need a minibus, there's no space for another child, limited money and time...the decision should be bloody obvious but I keep thinking...poor little thing has done amazing to work its way in!!!

Not sterilised OP but found out last Autumn that I was 9 weeks pregnant after husband had had a vasectomy a couple of years ago. It was quite a shock so can empathise. If you can take a few days to process the shock and think it through on all levels, emotionally, physically and practically then go from there. I had 4 dc and opted for a termination however it wasn’t an easy choice and felt as much as I would of liked another I couldn’t do it physically, or more so emotionally and the impact on my other dc was a factor too. it’s tough op.

My cousins have had 6 and 7 c-sections. It is possible depending on what conditions you have