33, 34 weeks pregnant. How are we all doing?

[Zogster]

Hey everyone, interested to know how you are all getting on.
I'm 33+4, second baby. Got a five year old.
Bit worried about coping with the hummer heat plus my daughter off on school hols whilst being heavily pregnant.
I'm also getting stitch pains on left and right side, lower down. Assume this is round ligament pain? Didn't have it with my first.

Would love to r

I haven't had my pelvis checked but I do get pain around that area. I was looking into that and thought maybe I could have it. Also a bit of pain around my legs and lower tummy. As for covid I caught covid at 27 weeks pregnant. I work in a hotel with nearly 200 rooms and we are full almost every night so there was no way to avoid ppl really. If it's any consolation I didn't have it bad just a few cold symptoms, but felt completely fine and baby still seems to be good and moving around as usual. I got my second jab today so I'm just carrying on as normal. I don't finish work for another 2 weeks either.

@mlj123 one way to test it is to push hard on your pubic bone. It's not meant to hurt but if you have spd it will make you cry out! At least my experience both times. I found a chiropractor who helped align my pelvis but this late in pregnancy I'm nervy to go back. I'll wait till after he's born.

With covid it's just so hard to know how you'll find it if you do get it. Good to hear you and bump were fine xxx

@Zogster agree about family! I've found them much harder to encourage to distance. We went to a small outdoor gathering for my DHs grandads birthday yesterday and family we barely see just couldn't help themselves from prodding DD and trying to hug us which is lovely but not right now! I'm finding now that it's more the worry of going into labour when having to self isolate that's worrying mem like even if we caught it and were fine, not sure I could go through labour alone.

Those of you with other children, how are you planning on introducing them to the the new baby? My DD will be 2 a few days before DC2s due date but has global delay so doesn't understand there is a baby on the way. How do people usually introduce the new child?

@KHR1 my son is only just one at the weekend, so I’m not sure how much he will understand in 7 weeks time when baby is here (probably not much) so I’m just going to model being kind to baby and giving him as much 1-1 as I physically can so’s not to feel left out and try and involve him with helping me with baby.

@WeAllLikeVindaloo thanks! They sound like great ideas

@KHR1 one can hope

Another idea which maybe good for your little one is to go and let her choose a toy for the baby and have a present from the baby to her x

@WeAllLikeVindaloo weirdly we actually did that today! I let her pick a Teddy for baby - she's not too into teddies herself so thought it was the thing she was least likely to try and pinch 😂

We did that with our dd, she wants to wrap it and give it to him. It's different for us as she's five so fully understands. But she's been used to our sole attention for five years so whilst she's super sweet and excited I suspect she'll also feel a bit displaced. Luckily she goes back to school when he's born so that distraction might help. Also we are thinking of weekly times just with her, like mummy and daughter mornings, daddy daughter swimming on a Sunday etc. Plus sleepovers for big girls only at the grandparents etc.

With covid for my ECS the hospital have said to be careful two weeks before so we're planning to semi isolate from then. We're pretty careful anyway. I don't want to have the surgery without my husband there. So that's what I'll say to people... It will grebe a negative impact on us so kindly respect our wishes. Xx

The special times set out for your DD sound lovely @zogster

Morning all!
33week scan later today, funny because I was originally in at 30weeks for a growth scan due to low Papp-a, except now she’s measuring big 🙈

How’re we all feeling?

Lol I have papp-a too. Got my 36 week scan next week. At 32 weeks he was 50th percentile compared with my dd who was 9th!

I'm guessing the aspirin is working for both of us!

Is anyone feeling weird? I've been way more emotional this week, tired like i could drop off now, feet have swollen up a bit, feeling queasy again. Yesterday making dinner I nearly vomited in the kitchen sink. Just generally feeling a bit under the weather

@zogster had a few days of feeing quite sick in the last two weeks. Hope you manage to get some rest and feel better soon!

Is anyone else measuring big? I'm 36 weeks and baby's estimated weight at my growth scan was 7lb 4oz and tbh I'm a little worried about how big he will be at full term!

@KHR1 thank you xx

With my dd she was estimated at 7.5lbs at 37 week growth scan. She came out at 39+2 at 5lb 12oz. So I don't put much stock on the accuracy of the scans. Doctor at the time even said there is a 2lb variance either way!

Not sure if that's still the case as this was five years ago so many three scanning equipment has evolved?

They've said mine is on course for 50th percentile so 7lb something but I'm still going to pack premmie nappies and baby grows on case I have another diddy one!

@zogster thanks - that's definitely good to know about the variance. I know the scans aren't always accurate particularly later on as it's so hard to get measurements but I'd got in my head he could be coming out well over 9lb

5lb3 here at 33weeks! My ds was born 8lb9 @ 39+4. This ones going the same way pretty much. So in his case it was right x

If it's any consolation I don't believe small babies = easy delivery and big babies = hard delivery from my experience! My dd was 5lb12 as I said but spine to spine and stuck her chin out and got wedged on my pelvis! Ended up as emergency c section. I've know women have 8-9 lb babies vaginally with no complications.

You just never know! Each baby and mama are different. I've found the thing you worry about doesn't happen anyway and it's something left field.

Like with dd I was terrified of having an episiotomy but that never happened, the above did!

I stopped work last week and have been feeling very low. I'm worried I'm getting pnd again. It's anyone else struggling with low mood this late in the third trimester? Xx

I've been struggling a lot physically . I had the growth scan a few days ago- everything's fine, just the fundal measurements not being very accurate. Baby's head is low down though so I'm getting worried this one will come early as well. My first daughter was born at 37+3, I'm almost 35 weeks now and not even the cot or the car seat are out! I'm getting a lot of back pain, can barely bend and can't really play with my 3yo daughter very well.

To make it worse I'm getting virtually no help from MIL who I thought would offer to come in the week from time to time, but she's more than happy to restrict herself to one day in the weekend and still expects me to serve her lunch and drinks!! Don't want to sound ungrateful but she's retired so could really just bring a salad at the very least .... my parents are far away and disabled so can't help at all. Just so tired of it all!

Oh @Smurftastic I really feel for you. Poor mumma bear... This isn't what you need. MIL sounds like a nob (sorry)!!
Can you get you other half to help more or talk to MIL?
I'm the same as you, counting down the days and thinking he might come early.
With your 3 year old can you afford any nursery days or even a babysitter for a couple of hours a week? Take the pressure off you?
Having small children and being heavily pregnant is no joke... As I'm coming to realise!

@Zogster My MIL is usually absolutely lovely but she can be very clueless. I even told her last time I'm really struggling with back pain and can't stand for long (and cook!), and her only comment was 'It's funny how we all take pregnancy differently, my second one was easier than my first one.'. Well, mine isn't! For the record she had a 7yo at school during her second pregnancy, whereas I've got a lively 3yo on summer holidays .
My husband has a day off a week for the next two weeks then the last week of August booked off, so I think I'll just have to suck it up. Not sure why I was expecting MIL to want to help, I suggested her coming over several times but she never comments on it . I guess because I would have offered to help. I don't know if I'm being a bit hormonal. I'm panicking I've not got stuff ready for the baby as well, need to do it all this weekend when all I really want is a nap!

I just remembered something. When I told my husband to sort out lunch a while back she bloody ran to help so he doesn't have to strain himself spreading butter on bread !! Now I wonder why she doesn't run to my help? Not a great example to my soon to be 2 daughters!

Sorry those of you who are having a hard time. Hope you can get a rest while your DH has some days off @smurftastic.

@zogster, that's so true, guess so many factors can make a difference. My DD was 8lb 13oz at 11 days over had an episiotomy but tbh I was induced and don't think my body was at all ready so think a lot of the difficulty with the birth was probably baby being forced out rather than her size.
Sorry that you are feeling so low, are you able to speak to your midwife about it?

How's everyone doing? I wanted to update you all that my husband and in-laws were much more helpful the past weekend. I didn't get much rest as we were swapping furniture between study and bedroom, so I had to organize/wipe things, but at least we'll have space in our bedroom for baby's cot.

MIL even made us all lunch. We do seem to have a mild case of food poisoning now, which is rather funny considering how angry I was about having to make lunch for everyone , but also at the same time I'd rather not feel like this.

I was wondering if anyone else suffered from PNA? I luckily didn't have PND but my anxiety was through the roof. I'm wondering if it'll automatically be better with second child as I'm more prepared?

Hey @Smurftastic,

Sorry for the delay. I changed my phone over so had to reset password.

Good news on the additional support but not the MIL related food poisoning! Ffs, last thing you needed!

I had pnd with dd but this pregnancy its definitely more anxiety based. I get very worried about the baby all the time. I think it's perfectly normal but when the thoughts become so obtrusive or debilitating it's worth letting people know and getting help.
I'm on antidepressants/anti anxiety tablets today ensure I don't get pnd badly again.
Recently I started feeling bad again so upped the dose. Dr and midwife said these meds are low risk in pregnancy and it's more harmful to the baby to be exposed to stress hormones such as cortisol than antidepressants.
I'm thinking about the state of my mental health going into c section and dealing with a newborn and five year old.

It's different choices for everyone but I hope this helps. You aren't alone. Happy to chat more. Much love and big hugs xx

35w5d in the middle of moving and looking after a nearly 2 year old 😅 so exhausted and stressed.

@bluemoon13 I hear ya!! We are in the middle of house renovations, have a one year old, and all I want to do is nest!!!