Unsure of Paternity 😩

[Millie2233]

Please don’t judge me, I stupidly slept with my ex when drunk and now I’m pregnant and have some doubts as to whose baby it could be. My LMP, was the 12th June and my cycle is 29 days with a 13 day luteal phase. I’m certain I ovulated on the 27th June. I had sex with my ex on the 22nd of June and with my current partner on the 25th 26th 27th and 28th. My fertility friend app shows that I was only fertile from the 23rd to the 28th but I also read somewhere that sperm could potentially survive up to 5 days, so I’m just really confused.

Could be either.

You'll have to wait until you've the baby and do a paternity test. That's the only way you'll be 100% sure.

your poor partner

With only 3 days in between potential fathers it’s almost impossible to tell. Yes it’s most likely to be your current partner if your ovulation date is correct but really there’s no way of knowing for sure without a DNA test

With such a small window I'm afraid your not likely to tell until baby is born, ex sperm is already in place before the fertile window. But ovulation could have happened as late as 6 days later which could mean its more likely to be your current partners.
There is no definitive answer till a test can be carried out

@FaceLikeAScallyOnion

your poor partner

My thought exactly

Could easily be either. You seem to know a lot about your cycle and had a lot of intercourse over your fertile period so I'm guessing you have been trying to conceive with current partner?

Does your dp know that you have had unprotected sex with another man? Guess not. Hopefully you won’t give him a STI.

You know a lot about your cycle OP - I have no clue about mine. Are you actively TTC with your partner?

You won’t be able to find out, it’ll be a big surprise for one of them when you can get a DNA test on the baby.

I swear we had an pretty much identical thread a few weeks ago.

You won't know until a paternity test can be done. Your poor partner. Let's hope you didn't pass on a STI on top of this.

@grapewine yeah, at least one

You won’t know until you have a paternity test. If you have been trying with your partner for a while, seems a coincidence you fall pregnant the month you slept with an ex.

Have you told your partner?

@FaceLikeAScallyOnion

your poor partner

Not really the point of the thread though, is it?

If you are CERTAIN you ovulated on 27th then it would be your current partners, or at least more likely
What makes you think you ovulated on the 27th?

No one can be CERTAIN when they ovulate, can they?

Nobody on here can possibly answer your question - you obviously need to do a DNA test, which would require your partner’s assistance and I suspect he’d want to know why this was needed.

Ovulation tests? Temperature checking? Pain? Those where my thoughts

I had a dd after only dtd on day 23 of a 28 day cycle..
No mathematics will give you a proper answer op.
No judgement from me...

Yeah but I think those things are meant to be a guide, not 100%, and it would be very strange to be keeping tabs on ovulation while messing around in the sack with someone other than your partner.

I wasn’t planning on having sex with my ex, it was drunk mistake, and I have been keeping tabs on my cycle so based on temp and ovulation tests I have ovulated on the 27th

Based on temping/ovulation tests, I always have very regular cycles.

@Nonmaquillee

Nobody on here can possibly answer your question - you obviously need to do a DNA test, which would require your partner’s assistance and I suspect he’d want to know why this was needed.

I am planning to do a non-invasive prenatal paternity test in 2 weeks or so, as I am currently most likely 5weeks and the test can be carried out from 7 weeks. My ex and I agreed to go halves on the costs and use his sample.

But it's just more deceit. Even if your partner was willing to forgive a drunken one night stand, you are now doing a Test with your ex, presumably sober, to compound the betrayal further.

What's the hope? It's your partners and he never knows about any of this?

Baby is your ex partners? Then what? Oh sorry partner I'm pregnant with ex but double checked before leaving you?

As hard as it is it should be your partner you are talking to and being honest with.