Unsure of Paternity 😩

[Millie2233]

Please don’t judge me, I stupidly slept with my ex when drunk and now I’m pregnant and have some doubts as to whose baby it could be. My LMP, was the 12th June and my cycle is 29 days with a 13 day luteal phase. I’m certain I ovulated on the 27th June. I had sex with my ex on the 22nd of June and with my current partner on the 25th 26th 27th and 28th. My fertility friend app shows that I was only fertile from the 23rd to the 28th but I also read somewhere that sperm could potentially survive up to 5 days, so I’m just really confused.

Yes, what are you hoping for? Tell your partner. He deserves to know and make a decision for his own life.

You're just making it worse.

Let your partner know so he can get tested.

I think it could be either as sperm can survive up to 5 days.

Paternity test is the best way forward if you want to know for sure

Does your partner know? If it’s your exes are you going to pretend?

This can't be real?

@millie2233 not one to judge but surely you could have been a bit more careful. What were u doing hanging out with your ex? Have you been responsible enough to inform your current partner. It seems u were monitoring your fertile window so why would you even get drunk. Better pray to God and as people said above carry out a paternity test. Good luck

@grapewine

Yes, what are you hoping for? Tell your partner. He deserves to know and make a decision for his own life.

You're just making it worse.

Absolutely. Tell your partner and stop being so deceitful.

Wow. People are being really harsh on this thread. I’m sorry you are going through this - you clearly didn’t mean for this to happen and it was a mistake. What’s done is done and it sounds like you have a plan going forward. I hope you get the answer you want. I didn’t know about the NIPT for paternity until your post.

Op I’m sure you’ve seen this on FF:

“ The likelihood of actually becoming pregnant, however, is dramatically increased when you have intercourse in the three days immediately leading up to and including ovulation. This makes a practical fertile window of just three days.

In a recent analysis of 119,398 charts from women charting with Fertility Friend, we found that 94% of women who became pregnant had intercourse on at least one of these three days. For conception purposes, it is thus ideal to have intercourse during a three day fertile window which includes your ovulation day and the two previous days.”

If you are right and you oved on the day you think it is highly likely to be your dp’s child. Only 6% likelihood of it being your ex’s baby. Possible but unlikely

I hope the dna test comes back the way you want it to.

No judging, but please do talk to someone you trust in rl about this situation.

Please do tell your partner if you haven't already. He may as well want to do the paternity test too.

First, I guess you are and adult so sleeping with your ex was not a mistake, it was a dicision. You need to ask why did that happen? If you were in a strong relationship you won't feel the need to hang out and definitely not to sleep with your ex.
More likely your current partner is the father, but the end of the day, the egg decides which sperm it allows to fertilise, so there is a little chance it is your ex's baby. Whatever the outcome is , you need to tell your partner. Even if it his baby, would you be able to feel guilty for the rest of your life? ( I guess you feel guilty). If he forgives you, you can start fresh and work it out, if not, you have to live with your decision and get prepared you might have to rise the baby alone.

Let’s just hope your ex doesn’t tell your DP before you do.

Good luck with the test op