Not sure if this belongs in AIBU...

[hinchi123]

Long story short I am 13 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I didn't tell my husband until after I had been to the 12 week scan.

Hubby is fuming, he is happy about the baby but he says he doesn't know if he can trust me any more(!)

I know some people might think it's mad but I am superstitious and you're not supposed to tell anyone are you?

He has slept on the couch since I told him and has been really off with me. I've not had a kiss or anything. Am I in the wrong?

This isn't real. Nice try though!

No way this can be real

I agree this can’t be real but if on the off chance it is you are definitely in the wrong!

Was it twins?

If this is real then I think you need some help.

@hinchi123 OP is not coming back guys - this post is blatantly bullshit

Chinny reckon

Interesting first post…….

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Yeah must be a wind up. No one could actually be that stupid

Sure Jan

I'm reckoning it's a post and run

Who even came up with this 12 week suggestion? Probably someone back in the days when women were much like children - to be seen and not heard and no one wanted to deal with uncomfortable issues surrounding women's reproductive systems. I understand not telling work/ colleagues etc if you don't want to as it's none of their business but surely you'd want the support of those close to you if something went wrong. And the 'rule' NEVER included the second person that actually created the baby. If this is real then I expect you've realised you were very wrong now though so apologise profusely and make every effort to keep dh involved. Book a private scan for him to attend

Strangely I planned to do this as I am pregnant after a loss. I lasted about 2 minutes before telling him.
My husband probably wouldn't have cared though. It's only a baby when it's born according to him

I don’t believe you could keep that from him for 12 weeks! We didn’t tell anyone outside of us two this time until we had the scan because of a previous loss so I get that element of things but I’m not dishonest enough to keep something so important from my husband

@Soexciting

Strangely I planned to do this as I am pregnant after a loss. I lasted about 2 minutes before telling him. My husband probably wouldn't have cared though. It's only a baby when it's born according to him

Harsh thought process.

Did you think he would want to terminate ?

Yes, you're absolutely wrong. Your poor husband! It's his child too. When "they" say don't tell anyone before 12wks, it means the general public not the father of your child. I really can't understand your thinking😣