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4th loss this year

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charlotte0808 · 13/07/2021 22:11

Tonight I stared spotting so the bleed most of us dread is inevitable and upon me shortly. This time I genuinely thought all would be well and we would finally have our baby. Also on cyclogest pessaries and aspirin which still has not worked. 5 weeks tomorrow every single time to the day that's when the bleeding starts. I have no idea where to turn or what to do next. The specialist has said all my blood work is normal but surely there must be more problems to be checked. Surely this can't just be sheer 'bad luck' or 'one of those things' I feel drained emotionally and physically just simply drained and angry. Has anyone had any similar experiences and finally had their long awaited baby? Or is there anything I can request to be checked? Any advice would be much appreciated xx

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sarah13xx · 13/07/2021 22:17

Sending so much love and a big hug ☹️ My friend is going through the same thing just now and has been told the blood test was fine. Hope you manage to get something that works soon and have your long awaited baby

Helpdesk3 · 13/07/2021 22:35

Did they test your partner - it may not be anything your doing. Get Karyotyping for you and your partner. If its happening at the same moment each time, it may be genetic rather than the standard hormonal or sticky blood.

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charlotte0808 · 13/07/2021 22:46

Thank you both. I was literally just reading up about that says on the nhs website that after 3 losses to keep the foetus for testing so if anything found me and my partner can be tested. So that what I'm going to do this time. Feel like I have to push for anything though specialist and hospital just don't seem to care especially at the moment. X

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charlotte0808 · 13/07/2021 22:47

Nothing tested in my partner yet he has been abit reluctant about doing that but he has agreed now because he actually thought this time would go well too so think he's realises there's more too it and can't just be laid back x

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charlotte0808 · 13/07/2021 22:52

@Helpdesk3 is that something that happens with that problem that the loss is the same time every time ? Xx

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BitPutOffNow123 · 13/07/2021 23:02

Have you been checked for PCOS? After 3 losses the NHS will see if theres any issues with you or your partner as far as I'm aware

My DD is my 5th pregnancy and 1st child. I'd just been referred to a specialist when I found out I was pregnant with her. I lost mine at 5 weeks ish each time. Had my DS 2 years later and he was my 9th pregnancy. Had a miscarrige in september at 5 weeks again. Had karetypes done we carry no genetic faults or anything, literally is just one of those things which is shit isnt it

Dont give up OP but maybe have a break? I had 4 losses within the space of a year. Gave it a 4 month break and DD stuck xx

BitPutOffNow123 · 13/07/2021 23:02

I have PCOs forgot to say x

Helpdesk3 · 13/07/2021 23:14

The fact you loose the preganancy exactly at point suggests to me that genetic testing should be done. I wouldn't overlook this
Definitely take the tissue to hospital and ask for chromosome analysis.

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charlotte0808 · 13/07/2021 23:17

Hi @BitPutOffNow123 sorry for your losses. Well my mother lost 3 but had to carry hers to a certain month with spina bifida and they mentioned chromosomes problems to her many years ago. So I would like to be checked is that something my specialist would refer me for? She only works on a Wednesday so I'll ring her tomorrow. I had a 3 month break that's why I was more confident this time along with the pessaries. Did you keep yours for testing? Sorry for asking xx

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Helpdesk3 · 13/07/2021 23:17

The fact you can get pregnant easily is a big plus point. Hold on to that, as you go on this journey to find answers

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charlotte0808 · 13/07/2021 23:19

Also Havnt been tested for pcos I've always ovulated and had periods very regular every month never missed a day I was due. Would that be a good sign for that? @Helpdesk3 silly question I know but can you still be classed as infertile even though I catch quite easy? That would be my worst nightmare x

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Helpdesk3 · 13/07/2021 23:25

I think the chances are really low. If you below 40 and are getting pregnant naturally, I would keep trying till you have a baby. Obviously get tested for chromosomal compatibility, infections etc...

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charlotte0808 · 13/07/2021 23:33

@Helpdesk3 thank you so much. We will keep trying and hopefully one will just stick! Don't think we could go through having anymore children once we have the one! X

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Babyghirl · 14/07/2021 07:21

@charlotte0808
So sorry to read this i have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp, if your losing at 5 weeks they say that's a chemical pregnancy doc told me most likely a problem when the egg and sperm meet, as hard as it will be try and use a silver sive when on toilet to catch anything you can and store in a container put in fridge if you can not get it to hospital straight away but if I remember they like it if not straight away no l8r than the nxt day, I have been test for everything just waiting on blood clotting bloods to come bck nw everything else was fine except low on vitamin d also got an abdominal and internal ultrasound nxt week to look at my womb maybe ask for one of them to 💚

Sunny56 · 14/07/2021 07:42

Hi. I'm currently waiting for miscarry my 4th pregnancy. I have lost my pregnancies at different times, 1st was 8 weeks with nothing to be seen in the sac, natural, 2nd started bleeding at 7 weeks with no heartbeat at 9 weeks, 3rd was a chemical so lost very early on, this was natural, 7 weeks nothing in the sac and spotting since 6 weeks. Also struggling to conceive for four years, I've had two IVF cycles. My next step will be to send whatever I can collect for testing and I would also like to test for Natural Killer cells, you can't do this on NHS, so you would have to go privately. I've had bloods taken and everything has come back normal, which is frustrating as I would rather have something wrong and then fix it than having to be told everything is fine, nothing we can do.

Sunny56 · 14/07/2021 07:44

I had testing done at Tommy's miscarriage clinic after my second loss. Now I think I will be with my local early pregnancy unit.

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charlotte0808 · 14/07/2021 10:53

@Babyghirl @Sunny56 sorry for you losses 😞 have you both had any successful pregnancies? I was awaiting for an appointment letter for my womb and ovaries checked. Got the specialist ringing me back today. If there was a problem when sperm meets egg then would that have to be ivf for me? X

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MissSmiley · 14/07/2021 11:19

I had problems because of undiagnosed coeliac disease, antibody test came back negative for 15 years, finally diagnosed from gene test and biopsies, I had 9 rounds of ivf before I found out that it was this causing my immune problems

Babyghirl · 14/07/2021 11:27

@charlotte0808
No successful pregnancy yet but now in the hands of the rmc and down for ivf but hoping it does not come to that and I fall on my own and its successful 💚

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charlotte0808 · 14/07/2021 11:37

@MissSmiley is the antibody blood test that diagnosed you? I've had that and came back normal? @Babyghirl hopefully soon it will happen for you 🤞 is the waiting list long for ivf? I'd love to go private but I'm assuming that is mega expensive. X

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MissSmiley · 14/07/2021 11:41

@charlotte0808 no it was the antibody blood test that kept coming back negative
Only got diagnosed after having a gene test and biopsies

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charlotte0808 · 14/07/2021 11:45

Ahhh right. It's all so confusing and so many factors to why it never works. I Havnt a clue where to start. It's maddening to think I always thought pregnant was pregnant, obviously not that simple xx

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charlotte0808 · 14/07/2021 12:08

The specialist just rang me and has told me to take what I can to the epu when it comes out. She's putting my name down for research in Birmingham? Where they take a biopsy of the womb and test for infection and inflammation so if there is a problem can go on medication x

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Babyghirl · 14/07/2021 12:59

@charlotte0808
Was put on it in April they said I should be finished treatment by nxt April but really hoping my body can do it on its own before then xx

Babyghirl · 14/07/2021 13:02

@charlotte0808
Try catching it in a sive as hard as it will be xx

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