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7 weeks ultrasounds in 2 days (Tuesday) and really scared

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daddydas · 20/06/2021 19:31

Hi all,

I have my first ultrasound at 7 weeks on Tuesday and really scared that I might not see the heartbeat. I had a mmc on January and a chemical pregnancy in March. In Jan, they couldn't see the heartbeat at 8 weeks and had to take the meds to cause an abortion on week 10. I'm really scared that it will be the same this time.

DH is also feeling anxious and it's our 2nd anniversary on the 30th. Mmc was an extremely traumatizing experience for us and I'm so scared to go through it again.

Please don't mind I'm just expressing myself here as I have nowhere else to express my feelings.

Just the anxiety is killing me Sad

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AutumnVibes · 20/06/2021 19:37

I had a 7 week scan a fortnight ago and understand where you’re coming from. Last year I was pregnant from an ivf frozen transfer and at the 7 week scan there was no heartbeat and I had the most drawn out and horrible miscarriage. This year I did ivf again and luckily everything looked well at the scan. Now, nearly three weeks later I’m whipping myself up into a new scanxiety for the 12 week scan. I’m just trying to accept that a pregnancy following loss will always be more worrying than for those who have had a more straightforward path to motherhood. It helps me to think about growing a baby as a natural human process, like digestion or something, that you really don’t need to think about. Some bundles of cells are just destined to become people and some aren’t and worrying won’t alter the outcome. Just try to keep busy before the scan and not get too involved in thinking through what ifs.
Good luck, I really hope you have a good outcome this week.

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daddydas · 20/06/2021 20:11

@AutumnVibes thank you. That's what I'm trying to do, keeping busy. I know me worrying won't change the outcome but hard to control it. I just think about the aftermath of bad news, it's really hard to get into a depression. It took us a lot to get out of it. I hope everything is fine on my scan and yours as well. Praying to god.

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AutumnVibes · 20/06/2021 21:04

I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you, x

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daddydas · 21/06/2021 03:11

@AutumnVibes

I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you, x
Thank you and for you tooSmile
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ButtercupBlue · 21/06/2021 12:22

Sorry to hear about your loss.

I think most of us who have had a mmc get terrible anxiety about scans. I've had 5 miscarriages - 4 of them were discovered on a scan so I really hate scans now. I can never sleep the night before and often feel tearful and physically sick on the day itself.

I really hope everything goes well for you tomorrow.

LFH1990 · 21/06/2021 12:31

Hi @daddydas I’m in the exact same position as you, first scan at 7 weeks tomorrow afternoon and I’ve just woken up today feeling empty and with a gut feeling that it’s going to be bad news…I have no evidence to support that, no pain or bleeding, but it’s really difficult not to imagine the worst even though I have no reason for it. It’s so hard being pregnant after loss, I’m hoping it will be easier after 12 weeks (just hoping I get there!) fingers crossed everything goes well for you tomorrow.

Redpanda21 · 21/06/2021 13:09

Good luck with your scans ladies.

I’m in the same boat, mmc last year which took 2.5 months to conclude and then another 4 months without AF.

I’m now 5+5 and have scan next Monday and I’m so nervous that I will get the same news as last time. Not sure that worry will go away until after 20 weeks scan xx

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daddydas · 21/06/2021 18:55

@ButtercupBlue sorry for your loss. I hate the scans too, it gives more anxiety than anything. Just scared what will come out of it. Part of me wants to stay positive and part of me is extremely scared.

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daddydas · 21/06/2021 19:01

@LFH1990 good luck for your test. It's just nerve racking. My DH is freaking out as well. Can't do much other than praying to God. I hope we both get good news tomorrow, well the danger period is still on but 20 weeks scan would give some assurance.

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daddydas · 21/06/2021 19:06

@Redpanda21

Good luck with your scans ladies.

I’m in the same boat, mmc last year which took 2.5 months to conclude and then another 4 months without AF.

I’m now 5+5 and have scan next Monday and I’m so nervous that I will get the same news as last time. Not sure that worry will go away until after 20 weeks scan xx

@Redpanda21 good luck with your scan next week. Hope we can all get through this together. 20 weeks is a definite reassurance. Good luck to you all.
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Enwi · 22/06/2021 13:39

Has anyone had their scan yet? Hope all has gone OK.

I’m 7 weeks on Thursday and have a scan tomorrow evening and am feeling very much the same as you all Sad I also had a very traumatic MMC the year before last and then a few early miscarriages since then. Fingers crossed for us all x

ButtercupBlue · 22/06/2021 14:00

[quote daddydas]@ButtercupBlue sorry for your loss. I hate the scans too, it gives more anxiety than anything. Just scared what will come out of it. Part of me wants to stay positive and part of me is extremely scared.[/quote]
Thank you.

I really hope it all went OK for you today.

ChelleV · 22/06/2021 14:49

I had an early scan due to some scary symptoms (6+3 was the day of the scan) and it was terrifying - but it all melted away to something amazing when the heartbeat was there.

I went for a private scan over the weekend because I wanted some pictures (9 weeks) and I felt the same way. I don't know if the anxiety ever goes away until they stop moving.

I'm so sorry you've been through so much. I hope that everything goes wonderfully for you this time. Keep us updated. And to you @Enwi @LFH1990

Tiredandobsessed · 22/06/2021 15:47

Hi all, I feel exactly the same! I have a 7 week scan tomorrow and I just can't settle today at all, can't figure out if I have any pregnancy symptoms or if I'm making them up. Feel like I'm going crazy! This is my first pregnancy so although I can't imagine how you all must feel after a loss this is a miracle baby to us as we were told we wouldn't have them so now I feel like it's too good to be true x

elenacampana · 22/06/2021 15:52

I hope it went ok for you today OP.

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daddydas · 22/06/2021 16:17

Hi guys, just had my test and all is ok for now thankfully. They saw a heartbeat. Now have to check for the 12th week test and hope everything is well. Praying for all of you all.

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daddydas · 22/06/2021 16:43

@Tiredandobsessed hope everything goes well for you. It's a stressful time. Best of luck for tomorrow.

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Tiredandobsessed · 22/06/2021 16:49

@daddydas So pleased for you. I hope the reassurance of today takes you through the next 5 weeks x

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daddydas · 22/06/2021 16:53

[quote Tiredandobsessed]@daddydas So pleased for you. I hope the reassurance of today takes you through the next 5 weeks x[/quote]
@Tiredandobsessed Yes, hope everything goes well till then and then till the 20 weeks scan and throughout the pregnancy. It's just so stressful, I'm happy with the test today but get scared of over excitement. Praying to god.

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ButtercupBlue · 22/06/2021 18:26

I'm so glad to hear that it went well.

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daddydas · 22/06/2021 18:32

@ButtercupBlue thank you. How did it go for you?

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daddydas · 22/06/2021 18:33

@ButtercupBlue sorry I was going to tag someone else. Thanks for your response.

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LFH1990 · 22/06/2021 20:32

@daddydas so pleased your scan went well, mine was good as well, measuring at 6+4 with a heart rate of 140bmp so I’m just going to carry on assuming that everything is ok until I have reason to believe otherwise! Good luck to everyone with their scans coming up 🤞

Absy · 22/06/2021 20:39

I’m glad it went well. I (kind of) know how you feel. I conceived via IVF and my clinic does an 8 week scan. Last time that was when we found out that the embryo was measuring 6 weeks and there was only a faint heartbeat. I had to go back two weeks later, and that’s when we found out that I was having a miscarriage. Went though IVF again and was so nervous about the 8 week scan. The technician said she would be quiet for a while and I was terrified, but everything was fine - baby’s heartbeat was strong and healthy, measuring exactly as it should. Even after she said that I couldn’t stop shaking. I fell in love with that tiny little person. I’m now waiting for the 12 week scan and getting more and more nervous as it approaches. I just have to keep reminding myself that just because it happened before it doesn’t mean it will happen again. It can be so scary

MagnoliatheMagnificent · 22/06/2021 20:49

I had a mc a few years ago. Luckily I fell pregnant again a few months later. I had an early scan as very anxious and all was well, heartbeat seen which helped. To be honest I didn’t relax completely until she was safe in my arms.
I did lots of reading at the time, I read that once you have seen a heartbeat on a scan, there is a 97% chance the baby will develop and survive. Cant remember where I found it now but it really helped me.

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