Third trimester and looking after a toddler? Anyone else?

[Mummytomylittlegirl]

I’m so exhausted and honestly just feel terrible.

I’m almost 31 weeks with my twins now, DH is working away for a few days. I feel so hopeless looking after DD (she’s almost 3). I can’t really take her out by myself. I can’t walk that far as I get very breathless and I’m also feeling quite edgy/ anxious in general.

It’s going to be such a struggle to get through the day, and knowing DH won’t be home to take over makes it so much worse.

Feeling like a really crap Mum.

Is anyone else in the same situation?

I know two newborns will probably be far worse, but at this stage I really want my body/ general mobility back!!

I will be soon (not twins!) . I’m nearly 28 weeks and my daughter is 2 1/2. I feel you! I’m super tired and she’s going through a ‘carry me’ phase which is hard to explain without saying ‘I can’t carry you because of the baby!!’ It’s a tough one. Can’t imagine how much harder it is carrying two!

Don’t feel bad , all we can do is our best x

Me too - not twins but 38 weeks pregnant and just so fat and uncomfortable and boiling hot!! Looking after a 3 year old is so draining and I feel so bad for not being able to keep up with what they want to do - I just want to lie on the sofa with a cold flannel.over my face!

Me! We had a pregnant with toddler support thread but I think we all were so busy and tired we forgot to post on it :o

I'm 30 weeks now and DS2 is 2.9. I've been stocking up on activities I can do with him which don't require too much movement luckily so we have a selection of toddler board games, big puzzles and things like that but I did overestimate my ability to get on and off the floor! Looking at repurposing a coffee table.

Finally seem to be making progress weaning him off breastfeeding to sleep which was my worst struggle.

36 weeks with a 21 month old (and another four aged 4-13 at school)

Fwiw i always find toddler / newborn easier than pregnant / toddler but i have never had twins!

I feel you I do! Not pregnant with twins but currently 40+1 with a just turned 3 year old boy who doesn't like sleep and wants to be entertained and played with all day! Luckily he has 2 days at nursery so I get a breather (like today!). It's really tough and I know I'm being snappy and impatient I just can't help it xx

39wks with a 22m old. (Plus 3 more older ones)

Just knackered and watching way too much YouTube.

I'll join you for a moan too! 35 weeks with 24 month old twins so opposite way round to you OP. To make things worse we've all had horrific colds, complete with chest and sinus infections for the last 3 weeks, age the twins now have diarrhoea from the antibiotics too 😭 I feel like just going to bed and not getting out again for the next 4 weeks or so.

34 weeks with a 17 month old who wants to be carried all the time and when he's not will cling to my legs and cry. It's so tough!

@SamoyedFan123

I'll join you for a moan too! 35 weeks with 24 month old twins so opposite way round to you OP. To make things worse we've all had horrific colds, complete with chest and sinus infections for the last 3 weeks, age the twins now have diarrhoea from the antibiotics too 😭 I feel like just going to bed and not getting out again for the next 4 weeks or so.

Oh my gosh that sounds so hard! You are incredibly brave having another one with your twins being 2!

DD has actually been great today but I am still so exhausted. Just the not being able to relax is really hard.

I’m not even a SAHM so she’s in nursery 3 days a week- so I shouldn’t even complain really. I’m taking mat leave early so only two more weeks and I’ll be able to chill (leaving her in nursery as she loves it).

I just can’t believe I complained so much the first time around.. this is so much harder!

Thinking of you all. How did your days go in the end? I’m currently sat with a tea watching real housewives of Beverly Hills. Feel like I’ve earned some trash tv today.

DS2 is at nursery too, it does help a lot. We are keeping him in as well. We're lucky it isn't expensive where we are (not UK) so it's really worth it. It will be good for him to have his own non baby invaded space as well!

DH is currently getting him back to sleep without milk for the first time in months, probably years. He's only ever been able to do it when he was really really tiny.

You'll manage because you have no choice.

Been there.
When I was in my 3rd trimester with our twins I had a 2, 4 & 9 year old. Hubby broke his leg when I was 26wk, was in a cast and on crutches until the day after birth. He would have been deployed had the accident not happened though. I was huge (they were 17lb combined born at 38wk), had spd and couldn't sleep for long at a time but I managed to get everything done with barely any help. It is exhausting but you will get through it and you'll feel much better physically eventually.
I'm 30wk tomorrow with our 6th, all the kids are in school full time which is great and they allow me to nap if I need to when they are home. Hubby has only been home for 2 days since the back end of April and away again for over a month now.

I think everyone knows theyll manage but just fancied a moan

So glad i've found this thread, i'm feeling it today! Jesus op i feel for you having twins! I'm only 28 weeks and starting to find it pretty tough, DD is 2.5, feel rubbish that i'm fobbing her off so much and leaving her to watch rubbish tv but also trying to think it's only a few months out her life, she'll never remember. I felt rubbish up until about 16 weeks but have been fine since, these last few days feeling really exhausted and a bit sicky again so looks like 3rd trimester isn't going to be much fun!

@Merrz sorry you’re feeling rough! I also felt great in the second trimester and then it all kind of went downhill. Do you have anything for the sickness?

Luckily DD is in nursery today and I am ‘working from home’.. currently sat in bed eating chocolate..

I agree they won’t even remember it. Yesterday DD was playing in the garden making mud pies in her pyjama bottoms, had fish fingers and waffles for lunch. With cuddles on the sofa for most of the afternoon. I managed to get her to brush her teeth so at least that’s a win. I keep telling myself she’s happy and that’s the main thing, she doesn’t need fancy days out all of the time!

Also reminding myself toddler wont remember these few weeks! Looking forward to being more mobile!

I am having a good day today and plodding my way through bits of housework. Need to get some organisation going on before new arrival!

Exactly OP, as long's they're happy it really doesn't matter.
I felt fine after the initial sickness right up until DD was born so was hoping this time would be the same but definitely feeling it more this time. No i haven't got anything for the sickness, haven't actually been sick yet, trying not to think about it and hope it'll pass!

Aww fab, enjoy your chocolate

Playing in her pyjamas in the muddy garden! That sounds like my 18 months olds ideal day!

I'm 34 weeks. Dad has broken his hand so has been off for the past 3 weeks and will for another 3 weeks. I would of coped just fine without him at home but it's been a godsend. Keep plodding on.... A newborn and a toddler will seem a doddle compared to pregnant with a newborn!

I keep hearing people say that toddler + newborn is much easier than pregnant + newborn - i really hope that's true (for two toddlers + newborn)! 🤣

@SamoyedFan123, suppose it depends on the newborn you get and the pregnancy you have!

For me i really struggle to sleep pregnant due to spd, i get more sleep with a newborn! Also we formula feed which i think often results im babies who sleep for more solid chunks of time early on

I'm 30 weeks, looking after 3 yo DS and working full time as a single parent. It has been exhausting but it's getting better!! I'm finding the warm weather plus things like eating healthy and going swimming are really helping.

First tri was a nightmare.

29 weeks here, and my son is 2 years 2 months. He's going through a "carry me" phase too. We put away the pram just before christmas, to get him walking, but I've given up and got it out again. I can't manage without it for the moment.

I've managed to get him climbing into his own car seat and high chair (so I don't have to lift him) and that's really helping.

My iron is low, too, so I'm feeling pretty knackered the last few weeks. Hot weather and ALL the socialising all of a sudden after lockdown, feels intense.

I find it mentally draining more than anything.

However we just walked to nursery (15 minute walk) And had to carry him half way because he got blisters. I'm due on Saturday! But how can I explain to a three year old that me carrying him is potentially a lot worse than his blisters. You just can't. Bless xx

@ArchbishopOfBanterbury

29 weeks here, and my son is 2 years 2 months. He's going through a "carry me" phase too. We put away the pram just before christmas, to get him walking, but I've given up and got it out again. I can't manage without it for the moment.

I've managed to get him climbing into his own car seat and high chair (so I don't have to lift him) and that's really helping.

My iron is low, too, so I'm feeling pretty knackered the last few weeks. Hot weather and ALL the socialising all of a sudden after lockdown, feels intense.

Keep the stroller! We've only just put ours away when my son was about 3years 4months. Especially for those days when they're a bit tired cranky, makes everyone's life easier xx

I could have written this post myself (apart from the twins part and other half being away). I'm 37 weeks, carrying low, very hot, uncomfortable, bit breathless, all the fun stuff. I had a really traumatic birth with my son with a 3 day labour, forceps and a blood transfusion and I'm so scared about this one so my anxiety is through the roof!

My son is 2 years 8 months and he's mad! So lively, bored at being at home, destructive, tantruming. I haven't got the energy to keep up with him. I feel like my parenting skills are nil at the moment. So much mummy guilt too.

Any support would be welcome?

35 weeks with an almost 2.5yo DS who is very active. I took him out last week and he legged it so I had to waddle after him and got really bad spd pains the next day. There is so much screen time at the moment 😫