Did you try to time your pregnancy and did it work out?

[Goostacean]

Thinking about ttc for a June baby. Even May would be acceptable. Don’t want any July-Oct birthday, ideally. I am well aware that nature can have other plans!

Did you try for a specific timing? Did it work out?

After 2 and a half years of trying I honestly couldn’t give a fuck

Although I’m due in early October so happy with that! I like the idea of a baby in colder weather rather than summer

I wanted a Sept baby because I’m a teacher but DS1 took 10mths to catch so he was May. Tried again for no.2 figuring it would take a while which it didn’t and DS2 is an August baby. To be fair to him he was almost a sept baby as he was born on 31st Aug 🤣 Youngest in his class but doing absolutely fine socially & academically despite being a diddly dot 🤣

DD & current pg both happy accidents. April & November.

What will be, will be. You can try to plan your family all you want but it finds it’s own way of working itself out in the end.

August babies aren't the end of the world @Goostacean but recurrent miscarriage genuinely feels like it. So many people on this thread who need to give their heads a wobble.

Didn’t try to conceive my son for a specific time as had had a miscarriage before him. Tried at Christmas (2020) for a Sept baby. I got pregnant immediately but miscarried at 9 weeks, MMC and then got pregnant again in April so am now coming up to 9 weeks and have seen HB. So timings didn’t work perfectly but will be thrilled if this one works out

@pineappleknickers I’ve had recurrent miscarriage (4) and yet still timed the pregnancy that resulted in my second child (6th pregnancy). I haven’t seen anyone on this thread being insensitive. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to give birth at a particular time if you can manage it.

I also haven't seen anything insensitive. The OP asked a question and it was answered. I think a woman can try to plan when she has a baby for any reason she wants 🤷‍♀️

No, took months of ttc.

I could have done this as both times I tried for a dc I conceived on the first attempt. I assumed it would take a bit longer.

We initially started trying with the aim of a September baby. Two years and much heartache later, we got one!

DS2 we assumed we'd need fertility treatment again, so started "trying" assuming it wouldn't work, so that we could go to the fertility clinic again after a year, when we thought we'd be ready for no.2. He was conceived naturally about halfway through that year when we expected nothing to happen!

@pineappleknickers

August babies aren't the end of the world *@Goostacean* but recurrent miscarriage genuinely feels like it. So many people on this thread who need to give their heads a wobble.

If this isn’t the thread for you, then don’t comment on it. I took a while to conceive but I can appreciate the thread is meant in a lighthearted way...

No. But lucky enough to conceive first time trying.

Yes, just to be clear: I completely appreciate that not everyone, in fact very few people full stop, are fortunate enough to have everything go to plan. Ultimately a healthy baby, and a happy healthy mother are the important things- and those are not month-dependant. But we can all hope for the best, and try to control our circumstances in our own small way. Apologies if anyone feels upset by the thread. Now I just need to get DH on board with my plan....!

Yes, both times. I’m a teacher and wanted September babies because it works out well for maternity leave plus they’re old in the year. It worked out both times. I do appreciate how lucky we have have been.

When we started TTC I had romantic notions that we’d conceive straight away and baby would be due around birthdays - there’s 5 weeks between me and DH, with our wedding anniversary in the middle. I had these grand romantic aspirations that obviously we’d conceive straight away, the baby would arrive on our anniversary and I’d have given the best gift ever to my husband, he’d never top that

That didn’t work out… 10 months later we were still TTC, I was not in the mood to try hard that month and timings would have conflicted with a wedding in our immediate family. We didn’t abstain but we weren’t having sex every other day like previous months… I’m now due 5 days after the wedding! So definitely didn’t go according to romantic aspirations or plans. Like others, couldn’t care less when baby is due now, just happy to be pregnant. Now I know the date (early December), I can see quite a few advantages to when I’m due but it’s not something I’d have considered before!

Yes we have been lucky both times! My plan was just to make sure we didn't have unprotected sex until it was during the time period we'd be happier conceiving in. But if it took a while, we'd have carried on trying regardless of due date.

Yes, I did this. I wanted a November baby because the weather is just warming up (I’m not in the UK) and baby would be slightly older in the school year. It meant I could have a boozy Christmas and New Years then a month of healthy living before TTC in Feb.

Yes, with DC3. I didn't want a July or August baby so didn't try in October or November. Tried again at Christmas and got my September baby. Turned out it didn't actually matter because we moved to a country where school entry is different, and he was nowhere near the oldest in his year.

We were lucky and only took 3 months to fall pregnant with a summer baby. I’m a teacher so for me, the only time I would try to avoid would be the three months of the year where my baby would be the young one in their year group at school, it’s not the end of the world if they are but I’d just rather they weren’t. I think I will try to time my next baby around summer again if I can. I was a winter baby and I was always so jealous of my brothers birthday in July, he had a garden party with a bbq every year! It’s also way easier as a parent for the first birthday party etc just to have a family bbq in the garden 😂

We originally thought this way when starting TTC but soon realised after months and months of BFN that we don't have the luxury of choosing. I've ended up with what I would class as the worst possible due date (between Christmas and New Year) but it took 16 months to get here. I really envy those who are fortunate enough to be able to conceive quickly and get the months/season that works best 😅

@2020mission

We originally thought this way when starting TTC but soon realised after months and months of BFN that we don't have the luxury of choosing. I've ended up with what I would class as the worst possible due date (between Christmas and New Year) but it took 16 months to get here. I really envy those who are fortunate enough to be able to conceive quickly and get the months/season that works best 😅

My daughter’s birthday is in that window and I was dreading it a bit but it’s actually really lovely. We’re thinking of taking her friends to the panto for her birthday next year and when she’s older having New Years Eve birthday parties. This year while she’s still small we’re going to do a mini NYE where all the kids count down to 12 midday and we have a balloon drop etc. Then a disco and party ready for them to be exhausted and put to bed so the parents can go and celebrate the real thing x

@AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken aww thanks for letting me know it worked out fine. I do love the festive season and how cheerful most people are, all the lights and decorations so hopefully we can make it a nice birthday

No weren’t planning for a date as we’d been trying nearly 2 years but funny enough conceived on Easter Sunday and due on Christmas Day 😂 told the person who was doing my scan that as long as I get my Christmas dinner I’ll be happy 😂

Yes and no.
We wanted September - November. We're still working on it. We'll just be happy to get a bfp full stop.

@Lorw

No weren’t planning for a date as we’d been trying nearly 2 years but funny enough conceived on Easter Sunday and due on Christmas Day 😂 told the person who was doing my scan that as long as I get my Christmas dinner I’ll be happy 😂

Someone I know was due in late January but still went into labour on Christmas Eve and her baby was born on Christmas Day.