Faint line 11 dpo

[confusedandshocked94]

Advice needed:

Could this be an evap line?

I currently have a 7 month old son, and am on the coil. I took a digital test this morning which said not pregnant. However. I've take. An FRER and its come up with a faint line.

I'm really unsure what to do if this is positive. Like I said, I have a 7 month old son and I'm not at all ready for a 2nd child, especially so close.

@confusedandshocked94 did the line show up within the time frame? If so, it’s hard to imagine both tests would have evap lines.

Yes both within the time frame x

@confusedandshocked94 then I would think they’re positive. What kind of digital did you take?

@Mamabear2221 a clear blue how many weeks. Xx

@confusedandshocked94 I believe that the clear blue weeks estimator test is more sensitive than the standard clear blue digital test, but also FRERs are the most sensitive, so I would think you are pregnant and just not far enough to show on the digital. I would definitely phone your doctor ASAP to confirm! How are you feeling? I know you said you aren’t ready, so I imagine seeing those lines hit pretty hard.

It does look positive if the lines came up within the time frame.
Coils are generally really effective though and pregnancies are quite rare.
Perhaps leave it another couple of days and take another test to see if you get a darker line.

@Mamabear2221 I feel a little numb if I'm honest. I definitely want a second child, but not right now - I don't think, but I'm not sure :( . We've only just come out of the end of a regression, with a CMPA baby. And I'm starting to really enjoy parenting.

@Ohpulltheotherone I only had the coil put in 4 weeks ago after 6 months of being on the implant. I'm going to take another test on Wednesday Wednesday morning. Xx

@confusedandshocked94 I will also say that I have been seeing more and more FRERs appearing positive when they aren’t. I would agree with PP and say take another in a couple days.

@Mamabear2221 yes me too. I remember having some horrific indent lines when I was TTC'ing my son :( but these seem darker than those - but maybe my line eyes have returned.

But, I'll definitely test again in 2/3 days. Especially as I will need a scan to check for an ectopic pregnancy considering I have the coil.

Thank you for commenting both of you xxx

It's just so conflicting as we TTC'd for months, had two miscarriages during that as I was desperate for DS.

Now I feel guilty for even thinking about how hard 2 would be.

@confusedandshocked94 don’t let your mind go there until you are sure that you are pregnant! As PP said, it’s quite rare to get pregnant on the coil, so try not to stress (way easier said than done) and take another test in a couple of days.

@Mamabear2221 true! Might be stressing for no reason. I'll update in a couple days once I've taken a test.

It does look positive. I’m sorry this isn’t what you want right now. I was in a similar position as you when my little boy was 8 months old and I ended up having an abortion... good luck whatever the outcome x

@Floopyandtired my gut is saying it's positive, but I'm trying to just wait it out til Thursday to know for sure.
I really would t know what go do. The cons list is longer than the pros :(

@confusedandshocked94

Hey hun. So this happened to me this year. I found out I was pregnant when my baby was three months old. This is baby number 5. Not planned. I was petrified. So confused etc. The baby has the exact same due date as my little boy who was born last year so they will likely be born less than a year apart. As I have to have sections. Anyway if it helps I was scared and now I’m excited. Also scared but mainly excited.

Xx

@Ritamarie85 thank you! I feel nervous either way. I'm going to take a rest this morning but need to nip to boots first.

Maybe, they're just horrible indent lines xx

Taken this morning after a not pregnant reading yesterday afternoon.

I was coming to say it looks positive and now I see your digitals have confirmed.

It will be hard. You have plenty of time to make a decision. So your baby will be 16months when baby could be born. That is quite a nice gap but it will be hard work!

Hi @confusedandshocked94 I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know how you’re feeling right now. I’m not trying to sway you one way or another as this is such a deeply personal decision, but I will share my story briefly. I found out I was pregnant September 2018 in almost identical circumstances to you. We agonised for weeks over what to do but ultimately decided neither of us was ready yet for a second child, and I had an abortion. It was physically hard and a bit painful but honestly I’ve never regretted it for one second. Take time to consider whatever is right for you and do not feel ashamed. All the best x

Just doesn't feel real right now. We did everything right - the coil, condoms etc.

My partner is currently away with work, but he knows. So, it's going to be some long conversations when he's home.

@Floopyandtired thank you for sharing your story. To be honest. I'm swaying more towards an abortion than anything else. My son, has CMPA and allergies, and only now is coming out the end of that.

I'm really enjoying being his mum and i want that to last longer.

What's confusing my head is we spent so long TTC my little boy, that I'm thinking am I throwing this away because it doesn't feel like the right time? Especially after all that anguish and upset of miscarriages and chemicals before my DS.

@confusedandshocked94 for me it came down to one simple question - how would I feel if I woke up tomorrow not pregnant? When I realised all I’d feel was relief, that was my answer. Again, I’m really not trying to influence your decision in any way, but abortion is still not talked about much and it’s important to know it’s an option. I am a fairly well together 30 something year old and while I always supported abortion for others, assumed it would never happen to me. Until it did. xx

Also FWIW I’m now ready to pop any day with a very much wanted pregnancy. It happened when we were both ready, 2 years on from my abortion. So there are happy endings 😊

@confusedandshocked94 I am so so sorry you are going through this after being so careful. Life just isn’t fair sometimes. Take time to process everything. One thing that I will say is that timing is never perfect. How you choose to go about handling that is entirely your choice.

@Floopyandtired thank you! I needed to read that. I'm going to speak to my DP soon as he's home and try and figure out what we both want to do, and what would be in the best interests of us as a family.

Congrats on baby number 2!!! Xx