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I can’t believe this I want to scream !

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Babyjune21 · 18/05/2021 03:33

I have posted before I haven't had a straight forward pregnancy’s but who has !, I’m trying not to feel sorry for myself but I’m just done now , I’m just over 36 weeks pregnant since 12 weeks i have told mid wife’s high risk doctors about a pain in my stomach they though it was just scar tissue inside from previous c section I have came in every week 2/3 times away for movement scans since 24 weeks because baby wasn’t moving below a certain point , really up till this point hospital have been great and I took there word for it on the scar tissue until last week , right above my scar outside on my stomach I got like a sack forming , I showed midwife who was doing my movement monitor that day and she said it was nothing to worry about , fast forward to today I had a movement monitor a sizing scan and high risk doctor appointment the midwife who done the movement monitor saw the pouch and asked why I hadn’t got it checked by a doctor I told her last midwife said it was fine ... so high risk doctor had a look and is worried she though it was my bowel poking threw my stomach , they send me for I really sore scan thankfully it’s not my bowel but they have found a large pouch of liquid formed right B-side my bladder they are concerned that it’s a large blood vessel or even that my scar inside is compromised I am getting kept in and got an mri in the morning they have said this is safer for baby that a ct scan but if they can’t get what they need from mri they will do ct scan too they have got me on steroids because there’s a huge chance baby’s coming out this week , I feel scared and alone if you have seen any of my previous posts you will know I suffer highly from ptsd after my mum dying in my arms in this very hospital while I was 32 weeks pregnant with my first , the mid wife’s have been great and caring I have my own mental health midwife and I struggle to explain how I’m feeling to anyone medical in person I’m just laying here shaking covering my mouth trying not to let out the biggest cry

Sorry for going on I’m just lost

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CorianderBee · 18/05/2021 03:36

Oh OP, I'm sorry. I have no advice but know that the docs are taking you seriously and keeping you in to make sure you and baby are safe. You're in the best place you could possibly be to ensure you are OK and healthy.

All the best, hope you get to meet your new baby soon x

ElmtreeMama · 18/05/2021 05:40

Will be thinking of you today, please let us know how it goes Flowers

AhaShakeHeartbreak12 · 18/05/2021 06:05

Sounds terrible OP Thanks

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Babyjune21 · 18/05/2021 06:08

I can’t thank yous enough for your kind msg I will update later in the day when I know more , I haven’t slept a wink I’m hoping they can get in touch with my mental health team
Today but honestly yous are all so kind taken your time out to send me thoughts xx

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HoollyWugger · 18/05/2021 06:16

Another handhold/gentle hug for you, OP. I'll be thinking of you today x

2018SoFarSoGreat · 18/05/2021 06:21

@Babyjune21 I know how hard this is for you, but you are in good hands. In the right place and baby and you are being taken care of now. Yes, it's scary but they have a good plan so go with it.

I'll hold your hand for now, and keep you in my thoughts for tomorrow.

BetterThanKleenex · 18/05/2021 07:15

Oh bless you lovely. This is such a difficult situation but you really are in the best place. The people looking after you sound like they're doing a great job, you can trust them. When they know more about what's going on they'll advise you on what steps will be taken next, and your mental health team will support you through it.

Cry all you need, you're going through a lot and you're allowed to express your emotions however you want.

We'll be here if you need to chat, do update us when you're able to. You're in my thoughts xx

Marmite27 · 18/05/2021 07:20

It’s a difficult situation, and I feel for you.

For some reassurance my DC2 was a section at 35 weeks. I’d had steroid injections the day before and she didn’t need any assistance with her breathing at all. She was in neonatal, but that was because she needed a blood transfusion.

RandomMess · 18/05/2021 07:42

Huge hugs, it's especially awful when they wouldn't listen to you and get brushing concerns off Thanks

Wishing you a conclusive MRI scan and that it's nothing serious.

Your feelings of fear and trauma are completely understandable.

IggyAce · 18/05/2021 08:13

Sending you a hug. You are definitely in the right place. To put your mind at rest I had my dd at 36+6 weeks no steroids and she was perfectly fine no intervention needed, she’s now a very tall & healthy 15 year old.
Please let the staff know how you’re feeling they will want to help.

Onehotmess · 18/05/2021 08:55

Do you have specific coping strategies for your PTSD? If so- deploy them! Yes all pregnancies come with their own issues but you have a significant reason to be anxious. Let yourself have those feelings- know they are temporary. What can you control in this situation is how you react. Stay calm (easy to say i know) try distractions or grounding techniques & most importantly- ask for help! Speak to a nurse or doctor tell them how you are feeling. Much love to you xxx

feistymumma · 18/05/2021 09:41

That really sucks OP, I am so sorry you are going through this. Sending hugs

Normando91 · 18/05/2021 09:56

Thinking of you OP. Hope they identify what it is as soon as possible and give you whatever you need. All the best with the safe arrival of your baby 💐

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Babyjune21 · 18/05/2021 10:37

Hi everyone thank you again for even more kind loving msg they have really gave me hope ! And gave me a feeling of not being so alone

Sadly they think there a Tare in my womb from old c section scar so baby will be born tomorrow I will be getting more steroids today and still need to go for mri to see what’s formed beside bladder as well

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Vebrithien · 18/05/2021 10:51

I am so sorry to hear how this has turned out, in that your pregnancy hasn't gone how you hoped it would/the worry about the unknown.

You know the plan now. Short though the timeframe is, you know that you are staying in hospital, you are having a C section tomorrow, baby will be benefiting from the steroid injections (pain in the bum though they are!)

Likewise, this problem has been found before it became critical/dangerous to you.

Sending you a gentle hug/handhold.

My DS was born at 34 weeks, having had the two steroid injections, and he never needed any help at all with his breathing.

Do you have any guided meditation/mindfulness that you can plug yourself into, for a little bit?

Or, if it helps to pass a few minutes, do you want to talk about what it's like where you are? What sort of room/ward are you on? Can you see the comings and goings of the ward, or it is peaceful? Are there enough pillows constant under supply in my maternity ward? How are you finding the food and drink? The coffee at hospital always gives me indigestion, and the vegetarian food was often pasta with a potato side!

Take care

RandomMess · 18/05/2021 13:33

Thank goodness it has been picked up and nothing has gone wrong in the meantime.

I've had a few MRI and found them ok tbh.

More hugs Thanks

2018SoFarSoGreat · 18/05/2021 16:49

You've got this, @Babyjune21. Only one more day til you meet your baby - that's the gift here! MRI will be fine; not the most fun but some people sleep through them. Whatever they see, you are in the right place to get dealt with.

Best of luck. We're all here holding your hands and waiting for baby update. Flowers

mommybear1 · 18/05/2021 19:17

Good luck OP thinking of you Thanks

AhaShakeHeartbreak12 · 18/05/2021 19:19

@Babyjune21 hi OP, can I ask what the pain was like?

I've had pains in my scar and intense burning sensations, they said it was scar tissue. I'm just curious as I was dismissed every time I've brought it up.

Also good luck for tomorrow, I hope you're okay Thanks

raspberryjamlove · 18/05/2021 19:41

Hi op hope you're doing ok. Good luck with everything what a stressful time for you x

sarah13xx · 18/05/2021 19:50

Hope it all goes well tomorrow. Forget everything else and just think how excited you are to see that little baby! You are in the best possible hands and they will have done it so many times before. I will be thinking about you tomorrow, can’t wait to hear that everything has gone well and your little one has arrived safely ❤️

Sceptre86 · 18/05/2021 19:57

All my love and luck for tomorrow, will keep you in my prayers. I had my first dd at a similar gestation and she was perfectly healthy just small. Hope everything goes well for you x

rainbowfairydust · 18/05/2021 20:11

Hope you get some sleep tonight, you will be enjoying the magical newborn snuggles tomorrow, I hope it all goes well and you get all the support you need, take it 1 day at a time, good luck and enjoy meeting your baby tomorrow 😍

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Babyjune21 · 19/05/2021 05:34

Hi every lovely person ! Today is d day I can’t believe it’s here , what a hard 24 hours Iv had thankfully they decided against mri as they think pocket of fluids was left over from last time and can be sorted on arrival , but we will go with c section today had all the high risk doctors round yesterday going into detail of what will happen I got a bit much but they are all so understanding and a great team , had a bad night I became diabetic because of pregnancy and I didn’t understand how much the steroids would effect my sugars , Iv manged the full pregnancy’s with perfect bloods due to diet change but the steroid jags threw them way off and about 12 last night they had to try get an Iv in to get me constant insulin going into my vains but of course could they get a blood vain no chance I was ill every time the tried , but lucky one of the lovely doctors came and got it Iv been woken every hour for finger pricks (25 in totally since Monday ) can’t feel my fingers anymore ! Sorry I’m ranting again ! Please keep me in your thoughts and my baby today I will keep yous updated !

@AhaShakeHeartbreak12 ps the pain isn’t actually on my outside scar it’s deep with in side me (that’s why they are concerned it’s the scar on my womb the buldge that’s happened they aren’t sure why but I’m glad it did because I have been saying since 12 week something was wrong inside , please trust your own body you know best , when someone presses on my stomach like a scan tech they nearly have to scrap me off the celling sadly high risk doctor said there’s no real text that can 100% say you’ve not got the start of the tare and they weren’t willing to risk it for another 3 weeks she said if I was 32 weeks I would of been kept in as long as they felt the could before sending me for c section x

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RandomMess · 19/05/2021 06:59

You're both in my thoughts Thanks