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When did you tell people you were pregnant?

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PheebsJ · 11/05/2021 10:39

Hi everyone! Found out a couple days ago I’m expecting baby 2 and believe I’m around 4 weeks! With my first I didn’t find out until I was around 10 weeks and told my close friends and family basically right away. This time I’m super early in the pregnancy so although I’m very excited and dying to let everyone know I think I should wait a few weeks. I’m curious as to when everyone here felt it was the right time to share the news? I know many like to wait until around 12 weeks.

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AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 11/05/2021 10:43

With my first I told people at 8 weeks because we had to rearrange our wedding and let people know.
With second I waited until 12 weeks.
I’m 18 weeks pregnant with third and only tell people if I see them or we get chatting on some form of messenger so only a few people know.

WorkWorkAngelica · 11/05/2021 10:43

I'm 18weeks and haven't told anyone expect our parents, our children and my boss and that was all only within the last few weeks.

I've enjoyed it being my little secret in a way, plus I've hardly seen anyone in real life so it hasn't felt very natural to just randomly text/phone people. I have my 20 week scan in a few weeks and might text a few people if that is all well. I've actually enjoyed lockdown for this reason, just being able to keep it more private until I get my head around the idea.

It's different for everyone, a really personal decision (until you start to show!)

Garman · 11/05/2021 10:45

Usually from 18 weeks on, waiting until after 20 weeks with dc3 now but as someone else said only as we see them/need to tell them.

CornishGem1975 · 11/05/2021 10:50

I was about 14 weeks when I told people.

AnonGlitterBomb · 11/05/2021 10:51

Both times we told family and friends gradually between 10 and 15 weeks and we told everyone else at 21 weeks

Upupupintheair · 11/05/2021 10:52

9-10 weeks for parents and close family (we had a private early scan)

13 weeks (or the day of the 12 week scan) for close friends.

Now I’m only nearly 15 weeks, but we won’t be doing any announcements on social media and will be telling other friends as and when we see them...

Mylittlesandwich · 11/05/2021 10:52

I told my mum straight away, I'd had a miscarriage previously and knew I'd need her support if it happened again. DH told his parents too.

12 weeks I told my work and some close friends. I would tell other people if I saw them but didn't see that many people so most people found out when DS was born.

KFleming · 11/05/2021 10:53

With my first we told some people quite early as I was very sick. I was signed off work from 5 weeks so my manager had to know, and we told my ILs at about 6 weeks because we live near them and see them reasonably often.
If I hadn’t been so ill, we’d have waited.

2020mission · 11/05/2021 10:55

I was wondering when is right to share the news too. I'm terrified of miscarriage and don't want anyone to know we are TTC if we do have another early loss and have to start trying again. I'm 7 weeks tomorrow and it's still just my husband and me that know. We haven't even told parents. Luckily I'm working from home so can hide my nausea from work at the moment.

SleepingStandingUp · 11/05/2021 10:55

We announced the first one really early as it affected a trip which was high publicised. The second we told family after the 7 week scan and then more widely after the 12

MsSquiz · 11/05/2021 10:57

I told my SIL/best friend on the day I got my BFP (she knew when I was due on so would've known that I hadn't told her I wasn't...) which was 2 days before I was due on

PIL & other SIL we told around 7 weeks

My side of the family (cousin, aunt and uncle - my closest family members) around 10 weeks

Everyone else around 12 weeks

Moominmiss · 11/05/2021 10:59

After we’d had our nipt test results at nearly 15 weeks.

We’d had 4 previous losses so we’re reluctant to say anything to anyone any earlier. But it was nice having it just between us for a while.

TakeYourFinalPosition · 11/05/2021 10:59

I'm debating this, too.... For the same reasons as you, @2020mission. I was 8 weeks yesterday.

DH wants to tell his parents in two weeks on his birthday, I'll be 10 weeks. I can't decide if that feels too early for me... They'll be very excited, but perhaps a little stifling! I'll need to tell my closest friends beforehand if we do, as I don't think his mum would be able to keep it a secret, if I'm honest, and I'd worry that someone would congratulate us on Facebook...

I'm still debating it in my head. So far nobody knows and I've known for 4.5 weeks, the longer that goes on, the weirder it feels to consider telling people

georgarina · 11/05/2021 11:06

3 months and after my first scan. Work, family, everyone. It's been weird with friends and other people because of not seeing them regularly, so it hasn't been as natural telling people - but now I'm 6 months and have told most people.

Chelyanne · 11/05/2021 11:19

After all looked well on the dating scan (13wk) we told immediate family. Waited until after a gender scan at 16wk to tell close friends and the kids told anyone who would listen at school lol (very excited). Didn't mention on social media until after the anomaly scan but no big announcement type thing or sharing of scan pics.
Told most after dating scan with our others. Did tell my mum slightly earlier with our 1st as was unplanned and unsure what to do, also told my parents about our twins after an early scan at 7wk as needed childcare for apps.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 11/05/2021 11:23

Close friends and family, basically as soon as we found out with all of them. Work, after the 12 week scan.

Checkingout811 · 11/05/2021 11:35

I told my parents and sister around 6/7 weeks. We’re very close. Other family found out around 13 weeks after our scan.

Cinnamama · 11/05/2021 11:44

Parents/ in-laws told immediately at 5 weeks, everyone else after 12 week scan, work more like week 18 just because of finding right time to talk to manager while remote working.

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PheebsJ · 11/05/2021 11:59

Thanks for the input everyone, definitely helped me think more about when to tell everyone, will probably wait until when I have my 12 week scan to tell close family and friends then maybe a little after that to tell others.

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shivawn · 11/05/2021 12:02

Only started telling people at 16 weeks, including parents and family.

Moorelewis · 11/05/2021 12:27

10- 12 weeks for immediate family ( both sets of parents and siblings) and 20 weeks for everyone else.

baldafrique · 11/05/2021 12:29

We told parents around 9 weeks after a private scan but telling everyone else next week after hopefully a 20 week scan that still looks good

ExcitingTimes2021 · 11/05/2021 12:29

I had to tell work at around 6 weeks as I was either nauseous or vomiting constantly and they where starting to worry about me! 😂
Told immediate family at 10 weeks after a private scan and I couldn’t hold it in any more.
Told close friends after my 12 week scan and everyone else after the 20 week scan. Pretty drawn out way of doing it but it worked for me. X

baldafrique · 11/05/2021 12:30

Definitely wont be doing any kind of social media announcement

C3PO31 · 11/05/2021 12:40

I told work straight away, I work in a high risk role with potentially aggressive patients. Family got told after a private scan at 10 weeks and I haven’t really told anyone else 😂.
31 weeks now and haven’t publically announced it as such, probably won’t bother to either! I’m enjoying the peace and quiet haha!

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