When did you tell people you were pregnant?

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Hi everyone! Found out a couple days ago I’m expecting baby 2 and believe I’m around 4 weeks! With my first I didn’t find out until I was around 10 weeks and told my close friends and family basically right away. This time I’m super early in the pregnancy so although I’m very excited and dying to let everyone know I think I should wait a few weeks. I’m curious as to when everyone here felt it was the right time to share the news? I know many like to wait until around 12 weeks.

On my first I told immediate family at about six weeks and everyone else at about 10 weeks after I had a scan. On my second again immediate family more or less straight away and everyone else and work colleagues at around 12 weeks. On my third I was really really sick and totally shocked (surprise pregnancy) so I melted everyone's head with my miserableness more or less straight away. I never did a Facebook announcement or anything like that. I just told friends when I happened to be speaking to them

23 weeks with my first due to possible genetic issues picked up in the scan that may have resulted in the pregnancy ending.

16 weeks with the second, but only for close family and 1-2 friends. Work colleagues started to notice at 20ish weeks. And other than that I never did put the second one on Facebook or tell others I didn't see in my day to day life. In fact almost no one knew I was pregnant. So when my husband put up a pic of our second most people were shocked. But I would do it that way all over again. So much less pressure. No dumb comments from people, no questions about names, no asking when I'm due, etc. I went full Kylie Kardashain in hiding that pregnancy lol. It was the best most freeing thing.

16 weeks

Congratulations all
I'm almost 5 weeks, just told my close friend as we were exercising together so I have changed that a bit.
Dying to tell our parents, so don't think I'll hold out much longer.
Close friends will prob tell after the early scan I have booked, my 5yr old after the 12wk scan & everyone else as I see them after that.
I'm not into social media posts.

We told parents straight away (4 weeks, DC3) as I had previously had a mc so wanted those people to know. Also told my best friend. Everyone else will probably be told betwern 12-14 weeks, fingers crossed we get there this time x

We told my boss, as well as my DPs and siblings at 6 weeks this time and 7 weeks last time. This was only because I had HG so I had to be off work and I usually saw my immediate family about once a week so couldn't have hid the fact that I was bed bound for months. Everyone else we slowly started to tell after the 12 week scan and screening test results, so about 13 weeks. We never do 'announcements' of any sort, just tell people as we see/speak to them so some people find our much later etc and the word spreads organically anyway through our families and so on.

To add... not sure if the neighbours have noticed I'm pregnant or just think I'm getting very fat again lol.
Not mentioned that we're expecting to any of them and I'm 26wk with a sizable bump now.

Told my mum/sisters etc straight away at 3 weeks, told my work mates around then, told ILs
At 5 weeks. I work in a hospital and there's rumours spreading round for ages cos apparently I'm always running to throw up (never done that😂) Tbh I'm a very vocal person and if anything did happen I'd want the support of work and my friends plus I'm just terrible at keeping stuff to myself especially something this big

First ... told family straight away and everyone else at 12 weeks

Second... again told family straight away and everyone else 20 weeks.

Third... same as above but to everyone else when she was born.

I told my DC and parents at 14 weeks (after NIPT results) and other family/close friends/employer after my 20 week anomaly scan.

We told parents and my boss at 12 weeks

Waited until 20 week scan for the rest of family (brothers/sisters etc) and told people as and when we caught up with them after 20 weeks.

Luckily, I was working from home when I found out until April so no nausea at work that had to be explained and I found it easier to "hide" it from people and not have to tell people too early. :)

We told my mum and dad straight away but that's because I'd had 2 MCs already and they had been so supportive

The rest of the family we told after the 12 week scan and anybody else after the 20 week scan mainly because I was so anxious after the previous losses

Congratulations

Waited until 12 weeks to tell family and friends with both of mine.

Told my PA and one close colleague at work around 6 weeks both times. I needed to rearrange my diary quite a lot to help me get through the awful morning sickness and needed a colleague to be on standby to cover me at short notice if needed and to help cover my lack of drinking

I only told others at work when I really had to when rumours started circulating that I’d been eating too many pies

I had IVF. Both sets of parents and both our line managers knew about the cycle, so we told them immediately the clinic confirmed the pregnancy blood test results. Would have told them either way, as we needed their support.

I told a few colleagues during the first trimester on a need to know basis, as I was having constant spotting and bleeds, sharing both the good news and the risks. I suppose what it boiled down to for me, was telling the people whose assistance or understanding I would have needed if things had gone wrong.

Told everyone else at 20 weeks.

Told my sister at 8 weeks, then our closest family and friends at 13 weeks, and then everyone else around 16 weeks. Obviously everyone is different though! I found it really hard to keep it hidden for so long! I think if I ever have another then I’ll definitely say something sooner :)

6 weeks with my first as I'd just started a new job.

4 weeks with second pregnancy - wish I hadn't as I MC.

9 weeks with third pregnancy, was waiting until 12 week scan but sadly miscarried.

12 weeks with DD who is now 8 months. Wanted to wait until 20 weeks but we were going into the first lockdown and wanted to tell parents in person. Also I was showing SO much earlier my work guessed. I was showing from 8 to weeks

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6 weeks with my first as I'd just started a new job.

4 weeks with second pregnancy - wish I hadn't as I MC.

9 weeks with third pregnancy, was waiting until 12 week scan but sadly miscarried.

12 weeks with DD who is now 8 months. Wanted to wait until 20 weeks but we were going into the first lockdown and wanted to tell parents in person. Also I was showing SO much earlier my work guessed. I was showing from 8 to weeks

Had to tell family about the third pregnancy as needed help with childcare with me going into hospital.

10 weeks on my first baby, but only because I was admitted to hospital with Hyperemis. 8 weeks on my second as it happened to be Christmas Day so me and my OH thought it'd be a nice time to announce it. 13 weeks on my third baby. We done it after I'd had my scan.

Wow, people wait ages to tell parents! We told our immediate families (parents, siblings) the day we found out which was about 4+5! Best friends at 8 weeks. (Obviously just a via a text or when we've met, not some crazy announcement.) My manager guessed at 9 weeks. Won't say anything to anyone else til after the 12 week scan. Everyone waiting is so patient! Perhaps we are being too optimistic!

@TinToms It’s not just nerves about things going wrong that worries me, if I’m honest, but I do worry about that...

It’s that mother in law will WORRY, and potentially be very stifling. They’ll be excited and mean well but they’d be no support if anything did go wrong, they’d need the support instead.

Also I’m learning that I’m apparently really private and dreading the idea of people hugging/touching me, or questioning us. And they’ll drive us SCATTY around the due date, I’m going to try my best not to give that away!

@TakeYourFinalPosition no totally understand,
I definitely didn't mean that you should have to explain yourselves, I'm impressed! 😄

Kids, partner, mum straight away, everyone else 24weeks.

I'm too honest for my own good and can't stand lying to people. I'm 4 weeks and have told a couple of very close friends who I would turn to if anything goes wrong. I also told my boss as already feeling a bit dizzy and I have a good relationship with her.

We were just about to be referred to the fertility centre when I found out I was pregnant and had been telling friends all about the fertility testing process so hoping no one asks about it now so that I don't have to lie! My husband doesn't want to get excited until the 12 weeks scan and is a sceptic by nature whereas I'm an optimist and just want to share my excitement with someone which is another reason I've told my closest besties. I really want to tell the parents but fear they'll be more emotionally invested and upset if anything does go wrong so holding off for now.

I drink very heavily usually so the minute I had 0% beer with a friend (literally 8 days post conception) the cat was out of the bag.

I told everyone as and when I saw them and was very clear explaining it was "early days" so anything could happen / go wrong.

For me the minute I stopped drinking, even acquaintances noticed and I also felt more comfortable being honest.

Appreciate that's not the norm though so needs to be what feels right for you I just know if things hadn't worked out, I'd have liked people to talk to about it.

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Close friends who have not-every-pregnancy-leads-to-live-birth understanding, both sets of parents and siblings and all my work colleagues knew straight away as it was ivf and we needed their support regardless of outcome. Squealy overexcited people who we thought might make a fuss, after 12 weeks.