10 weeks pregnant at 43 after 20 years infertility

[Tinkpod]

Hi everyone, this is my first post. I’m 43 years old and have just recently found out I’m pregnant, I’m now 10 weeks. I have struggled with infertility for over 20 years, before that I had a few miscarriages in my kate teens and early twenties, I was told that I had unexplained infertility and after such a long time would probably never conceive, I could try ivf but due to my autoimmune diseases it probably wouldn’t be successful. I’m now absolutely petrified I will lose this baby, I have no real symptoms other than I feel extremely rough and exhausted all the time and my boobs are a bit bigger and slightly more sensitive. Do any of you have a similar experience? I need all the positive hope I can get right now

Yes, really Best wishes with your pregnancy, hope all goes well for you.

Lovely post Op
Congratulations

Congratulations OP! I think at this stage the biggest chance is that you will go on to have a lovely, healthy baby. Hope all goes well.

Thankyou @Katy4321, are there any groups for women expecting in November? I’d like to join if there is, it would be nice to go through this with other women at similar stages in pregnancy x

What a cheery thread OP, congratulations to you!
Physically, I'm just like my late nan - she had a breech baby (my mom) and so did I (DS) - the consultant said something about the shape of my womb - I'm very like my nan - she had my mom at 41 and my aunt at 43 - I've been ttc no.2 for a few years now with no luck and no explanation and I'm approaching 40, so I'm wondering if I'll get lucky over the next few years.

Feeling tired for first few months is hormonal - completely normal.
Take it easy and wishing you the very best.

That is so lovely and exciting!!
My friend had her first at 43 straight after a miscarriage.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. How exciting. I totally understand the constant worry - I had this too especially in the first 3 months and to a lesser extent throughout my pregnancy. I had 3 early miscarriages before getting pregnant with my son when I was 42. I was terrified it would all go wrong but I had a good pregnancy really and am lucky to have my son who is 3.5 now. I wish you all the best for your pregnancy and hope all goes well

Congratulations 🎉❤️

Congratulations OP! I found out I was pg last November after 8 years of infertility, 6 rounds of IVF, failed transfers and a failed FET and this last round was with a donor egg too - I’m 42 and have endo/ lots of surgeries over the last few years to get to this point so totally understand your feeling of feeling scared and not really believing it!!
I’m 27+4 now and my advice would be to try and take one day at a time - each day you get through is a success. Try not to think too far ahead / try to keep busy and your scan date will come round. As others have said, so let your midwife/ consultant know your anxiety/ feelings of being scared - they’ll understand and while can’t take that away, it helps that they know this. They may be able to give you more frequent scans / appts too which might help. I’ve ended up having a scan every month - though 2 of those have been private - but they’ve been very good at managing me and the bump.
Good luck and congratulations again!

Thankyou so much @TheGlitterFairy , huge congratulations to you too, you really have been thru the mill to get your little bump! How amazing!!!

Big congrats @Tinkpod!

I'm 43 too and found out last week I am pregnant, for the third time in over a year! Unfortunately other 2 ended in early mc's and am petrified this one does too. Sounds like all is going to plan for you hunny and I wish you a H&H pregnancy!

Congratulations Op
My advice would be to take one week at a time

I really hope this one sticks for you @gizmo167 , how far along were you with your previous losses? Fingers crossed it all goes well for you this time x

Thanks @Tinkpod x With both mc's I started to spot a couple of days before the 6 week mark and lost both around same time! So far I'm 5wk2d and no spotting as yet, keeping everything crossed this one is the one that sticks!

@gizmo167 oh bless you! I will keep everything crossed for you! Here's hoping and praying you get your baby x

Well done! Not quite the same age wise but I remarried and was pregnant quickly, and had my daughter aged 42. No difficulties in birth (except my husband told me that it was easy!) and had no cuts or tears. Don't let other people worry you with horror stories.

@Tinkpod congratulations!
I had unexplained infertility (9 rounds of ivf) 3 cycles successful with lots of support) and then conceived naturally with no support and was equally worried that I couldn't do it on my own but everything worked out. My infertility was later discovered to have be caused by undiagnosed coeliac disease.

How wonderful you have so much joy ahead of you!

Congratulations OP, that’s great news

I’m also 10 weeks and have my first scan next Wednesday. As PP have said it’s really common to question everything. I’ve been quite nauseous but yesterday was a day where I felt pre-pregnancy OK. Automatically worried that something was wrong rather just enjoying a day without nausea. Approximately 80% of women experience morning sickness (can you tell I’ve been Googling a lot?) but that means approximately 1 in 5 don’t experience any morning sickness whatsoever. It’s likely you’re just the 1 in 5.

There is a November group here - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4201673-Due-November-2021-thread-2 - I’ve not posted for a few weeks but other posters are a bit more active on it. Good luck for your pregnancy.

@MissSmiley I have suspected coeliacs, but
As I've been gluten free for a few years they said they wouldn't bother testing as I would need to eat lots of gluten beforehand for the test to pick up on it, so that was a no for me, however I've always been intolerant to grain so it's a high probability I do have coeliacs. I also have Addison's disease which is extremely bad for fertility, and several other autoimmune diseases and issues. I've been on the AIP protocol diet for a few years which has helped massively, obviously it has worked or at least helped somehow as here I am, 20 years later all finally knocked up

@InTheNightWeWillWish I'm a fierce google addict at the moment too, I need to know every little detail and statistic, Thankyou for the November group thread link, everything crossed that your pregnancy goes smoothly x

Good luck OP, so happy for you. My friend was in a situation to you, she fell pregnant at 45 after giving up officially "trying" years ago. Apart from being quite shocked it was an uneventful pregnancy and her dc is 2 now.

That is such great news. Be extra careful until after 16 weeks. Wrap yourself in bubble wrap. I got pregnant at 43 very unexpectedly. It is your body having a last hurrah. You will get tired though.

Good luck and all the best for you!

Firstly,

Wow! Congratulations! What a true blessing!

Secondly, i had very few symptoms (basically none) from nine weeks and I had a healthy baby at 10 and a half. My NHS dating scan is today and i’m 12+1. I hope everything is okay!

It’s perfectly normal to not have symptoms, don’t worry!

Xx