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10 weeks pregnant at 43 after 20 years infertility

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Tinkpod · 28/04/2021 19:58

Hi everyone, this is my first post. I’m 43 years old and have just recently found out I’m pregnant, I’m now 10 weeks. I have struggled with infertility for over 20 years, before that I had a few miscarriages in my kate teens and early twenties, I was told that I had unexplained infertility and after such a long time would probably never conceive, I could try ivf but due to my autoimmune diseases it probably wouldn’t be successful. I’m now absolutely petrified I will lose this baby, I have no real symptoms other than I feel extremely rough and exhausted all the time and my boobs are a bit bigger and slightly more sensitive. Do any of you have a similar experience? I need all the positive hope I can get right now

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Aliceandthemarchhare · 28/04/2021 19:59

Congratulations Smile

What lovely lovely news!

Aprilshowersandhail · 28/04/2021 19:59

I had a ds at 43!!
Congratulations!!

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Tinkpod · 28/04/2021 20:00

Thank you so much, tho I’m in a permanent state of being terrified something will go wrong

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PinkCookie11 · 28/04/2021 20:00

Massive congratulations op Flowers

Wishing you all the best!!

Puntastic · 28/04/2021 20:00

Congratulations! I hope that all goes well for you.

Nightmanagerfan · 28/04/2021 20:11

Oh wow. Huge congratulations 🥳. Really hope things turn out well. Have you had your booking in appointment with the midwife yet?

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Tinkpod · 28/04/2021 20:21

Thankyou x... Ive seen the midwife, and I’m booked in for my first scan next Tuesday... scared is an understatement

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jade0881 · 28/04/2021 20:28

Congratulations op
That is great news. All the best

RedSetter24 · 28/04/2021 20:45

We had years of infertility treatment and I got pregnant at 43 with a donor egg 🥚 now we have a beautiful little one I couldn’t be more proud of every day. My pregnancy was uneventful but I was scared every day that it wouldn’t last. I thought it was because of what I’d been through, but on reflection I think being pregnant is a lot of worry. All the women on my NCT group had the same feeling too, all you want is for everything to be ok and that’s the overriding feeling. I remember when the last baby on my NCT group was born, we all celebrated and talked about the sigh of relief we all had that everyone had come out the other side ok. Worry is an unavoidable part of the journey I think. It just means your a first time mum and it’s exciting and very scary. Congratulations.xx

RedSetter24 · 28/04/2021 20:49

Oh and I had the same symptoms as you, also at the 3 month mark any symptoms I had completely went and that sent me into a panic as well. They came back off and on but I was told that was totally normal. I also didn’t really get much of a bump until after 20 weeks. I’d love to have that little bump again for a bit just to give it a stroke again.

Alonelonelylonersbadidea · 28/04/2021 20:51

Ooooh massive congratulations! My pal got suddenly pregnant after a one night stand (her husband left her because of her being infertile) at 47!

mommybear1 · 28/04/2021 20:53

Congratulations OP fantastic news wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy.

Sanchez79 · 28/04/2021 21:01

We're rooting for you OP! Flowers

I know a remarkable couple this happened to years ago. They gave up trying and accepted their infertility whilst still relatively young (and went on to foster for a few years) - then they fell pregnant at 40 and again at 43. The kids are thriving, happy teenagers now, the young chap is particularly tall and strapping. They're one of those families that just gives you the warm, fuzzy feelings.

Maggiesfarm · 28/04/2021 21:04

I can understand your fears but in a couple of weeks you will be three months pregnant which is a positive milestone. You will soon feel better too.

Congratulations, it's wonderful news.

moofolk · 28/04/2021 21:07

Congratulations ❤️

Worry is normal, but try not to.

Iworry2021 · 28/04/2021 21:07

Congratulations! 🎉🎊🤗Don't worry, it will all go well! xxx we're all rooting for you and the little baby

Icantrememebrtheartist · 28/04/2021 21:09

Huge congratulations OP! I had my first at 42.

My friend had her first at 46 after 17 years of ttc and multiple miscarriages and several rounds of ivf.

Hope you have a very boring (straightforward!) pregnancy 😊

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Tinkpod · 28/04/2021 21:13

Thankyou so much for sharing that, it’s put my mind at ease a bit x

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Tinkpod · 28/04/2021 21:24

@RedSetter24 Thankyou for sharing that... it really puts my mind at ease, I was expecting horrendous morning sickness etc but it's just not happening, the lack of usual symptoms has made me worry like mad, glad to know it's not unusual to not have all the awful symptoms

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frumpety · 28/04/2021 21:31

Congratualtions ! I didn't have any morning sickness with any of my three, some people get it and some don't, doesn't mean you are less pregnant or that there is any problem.

pabloescobarselasticband · 28/04/2021 21:31

This really made me smile and cheered me right up. Congratulations Smile

DramaAlpaca · 28/04/2021 21:37

Many congratulations!

If it helps at all, I can tell you that my friend didn't have even a sniff of a pregnancy in 20 years despite doing nothing to prevent it. Then at 43 she unexpectedly had her daughter, followed 18 months later by her son. They are strapping teenagers now Smile

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Tinkpod · 28/04/2021 21:42

@DramaAlpaca really??? That’s fantastic! I’m relieved to hear it’s happened to others and they have been successful x

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Zeev · 28/04/2021 21:45

Congratulations! I also had my kids at 41 and 43 after years and years of infertility. Everything went well and they're very healthy. Smile

Katy4321 · 28/04/2021 21:45

All the very best with your pregnancy and very much hope all goes smoothly with your scan - the waiting is excruciating. I'm same age as you and just over 11 weeks, and have worried about almost everything. I think it is very natural, do reach out to the midwives and any support available. They have helped ease my worries. I also spoke to a counsellor and she suggested trying challenges and disrupting my anxious thoughts - it is difficult but I do find it helps a bit and try to focus on positive possibilities.