When did you announce?

[Dreamer30]

Just as the title says, when did you all announce you were pregnant?

I know the norm is 12 weeks just to make sure everything is okay after your first scan.

I made my booking appointment today and the latest time they could give me is 12:45pm as that's the last appointment of the day for some reason.

I'll be 8w+4 at my booking appointment and I'm thinking of telling family and work at 8w so I don't have to make up some excuse to leave work because come 12w the dots would add up as to why I left lol and they advise to make appointments outwith work time as we only work until 2:30pm.

Also my work requires a lot of heavy lifting as well as being in a very hot environment so don't want to risk anything too early.

Thanks ladies :)

First baby I waited till 10 weeks to tell anyone.

Second pregnancy I told family at 6 weeks, miscarried a few days later.

This pregnancy we waited till a scan at 10 weeks before telling anyone.

I felt like I jinxed it the second time which I know is stupid. You'll get loads of differing opinions but you do what's best for you. I didn't want my boss knowing before my family.

I told one person at 6 weeks(I was camping with kids as a youth leader so I thought one of the adults should know in case something happened to me). Then my boss at 9 weeks as we had a scare, and family at around 13 weeks when everything was fine. The boss and random adult had a reason to know and kept it in confidence. But it’s up to you, everyone is different.

About 16 weeks.
Multiple miscarriages. Couldn’t face telling anyone time after time.
Felt telling people would cause bad luck.
Felt that telling people early was far too presumptuous and overly confident in assuming it would be ok.

Miscarriages take your thinking to some very dark and strange places.

People announcing pregnancy early always make me anxious and worried for them.
But it is of course your choice and your decision.

I was almost 8 weeks by Christmas and we’d had an early viability scan done privately so we told both our parents then. I told my boss between 9 and 10 weeks (mainly due to risk of covid). I knew she’d probably have to tell HR but didn’t expect her to tell anyone else. She also told the other managers in my work, who are below her. I wasn’t entirely happy with that given they had absolutely no reason to know since we were working from home most of the time anyway and any time I had to go into work she was there and not them 🙈

After several losses we told family at nearly 15 weeks once we’d had a scan and results of a nipt test.

I told work a couple of weeks later and then friends just started finding out through general talk etc. No official announcement.

Thanks lovelies. It's a tough one because everyone has different views and experiences. My boss knows most of my family, it's a small town lol so wouldn't want it to pop up that she knew before someone else.

Thank you all for your input :) I'll have a wee think on it

I told my mum when I suspected we’d had a faint bfp at 11dpo. I told my boss at 16dpo due to covid, & it being very manual.

We’d lost a baby 4 weeks previous so did feel like we were jinxing it, but I needed a covid risk assessment done.

We told the in laws and a couple of friends at about 5/6 weeks. Ones we knew we’d lean on if we lost this baby anyway. Other than that, waited until the 12 week scan.

Heavy lifting is fine so long as you lift with good form but you will need a risk assessment at work.
We didn't announce this one until after the dating scan and only to immediate family due to previous miscarriages. Told friends after a private scan at 16+4. I'm a sahm so no work to worry about but I have continued powerlifting (at reduced weight) so know the "do not lift heavy things" to be a load of rubbish.

We told parents and a couple of my close friends around 8 weeks (for support with the early weeks as was feeling awful) but telling everyone else after the 20 week scan in a few weeks time. Told work after 12 week scan.

(Had a loss last year around 11 weeks so pretty cautious)

I’m 19weeks tomorrow and Hardly anybody knows Other than mum and siblings and same for on OHs side although I’m sure people at work keep looking at me strange although the fact I had to have 4 months off work due to lockdown I’m getting away with saying the weight gain is from all the sitting and snacking I’ve been doing 😂 will be telling everyone after my 20week scan when I’ll be 21weeks and 2 days But tbh I’ve only waited this long as I only had my dating scan last week

Exactly this! Before I had a miscarriage I would have shouted it from the roof but now it feels like I’ll jinx it or it’s just another person I’ll have to tell again when it doesn’t work out. Pregnancy after loss sucks in a way because it takes all the joy out of such things 🤯

So sorry for everyone's loss' 😞 I can only imagine the heartache and that feeling of trying to stay positive afterwards in getting another bfp. I understand the worry and the risk before 12 weeks so ideally I'd wait.
I'm so torn though! With my DD 12 years ago, people found out because I mistakingly sent a text to my sister instead of partner (same initial) and she told my parents 🙈 which was 8/9 weeks from what I remember.

I'm thinking now I may only tell my parents and then my boss. It's more the risk of carrying heavy things a bit of a distance rather than lifting, as well as using toxic chemicals etc that catch my throat as it is while wearing PPE.

I've also read from others saying they're glad they told a close few early in the event of loss as they had someone to confide in etc.

Thank you for all of your opinions ladies. I'll more than likely be undecided until the day before 🙈 I have a feeling the 2ww isn't a patch on the 12ww lol

Hi op. Firstly congrats.
I'm pregs with my 3rd baby. Me and my OH have only told our parents and our daughter god parents... my 2 daughters don't know I'm pregnant nor does friends and other family members. I'll keep hush hush till 12 weeks xx

I never "announced" as such in any public way. I told my parents and DH's over the phone pretty much as soon as we knew and anyone else as and when it came up.

I told my immediate boss at 6 weeks both times due to risks associated with my job.

DC1 I told close family and our best friends at 12 weeks and my colleagues at 25weeks.

DC2 I told friends and family at around 18 weeks and colleagues at 21 weeks.

First time I didn't wait until after the screening results and wish I had, so waited longer second time.

We told our parents ect when we found out i was pregnant and then my 12 week scan was on christmas eve, they measured me at 11+4 we both felt confidant enough to then make an announcement on christmas day to everybody else

@jade0881 @DappledThings @dotdashdashdash thanks ladies. I should have worded things better, sorry. I don't mean announce as in to the world. I'll probably just tell my parent's first and then my boss. Then wait until 12 weeks for other family and hold off for the rest of my colleagues etc. Unless I'm doing mad dashes to the toilet soon to be sick and can't hide it 😅

We told parents pretty much within a few days of finding out at 6 weeks, and our closest friends. People that we would lean on if the worst were to happen and I pretty much told my line manager right away as was feeling rough and struggling to have to attend long meetings due to the sickness. She's kept it to herself though until I decide I'm ready to officially tell HR. (Which will be after the 12 week scan)

I totally get why people keep it to themselves in those early weeks. The idea of having to tell lots of people 8f something goes wrong.. but it's also been good for me to have a few close friends to talk to when I freaking out about it all (which is quite often) or I'm struggling with it when I'm feeling awful. DH is great and supportive but he's freaking out too so sometimes someone outside of our little bubble is great to help ground me again lol.

First and second pregnancies told my managers at 5/6 weeks because I woke with toxic chemicals in the lab for risk assessments etc.
Current pregnancy told manager at 16 weeks as although I no longer work in the lab, I had to go and audit them and as a woman of you refuse to enter everyone takes it for granted you're pregnant. So has to tell my manager instead of him finding out from someone else.

I have a few friends that had bad news at 20 week scans so I decided to wait until around 23 weeks to tell friends. I told family after my 12 week scan as I had found out I had miscarried (twice) at 12 week scans previously. I wanted to be sure everything was okay.

First baby told my mum n dad at 6wks not long after I found out. Sister just after that and in laws. Work and everyone else just after my scan.

Second time around immediate family around same time and work at 9/10 weeks because I didn't want to have to tell me boss who was coming back after her second miscarriage which wld have bn just after my scan.

I don't think it matters too much when others announce their pregnancies as everyone's circumstances are different.

Given that your job involves conditions that could potentially be risky, I would err on the side of caution and tell your boss so that they're aware and can make the suitable adjustments for you.

I personally would wait until 12 weeks except with very close family and friends - having had two miscarriages, I now appreciate why people do this. It's not just a taboo, it's because (a) statistically almost all miscarriages happen before 12 weeks and (b) if you have a miscarriage, probably the last thing you want to deal with is having to tell every man and their dog that you've had one, including colleagues. I was so happy I'd only told my parents and PILs - I did then tell a couple of friends after they happened so I could talk about it, but was glad I hadn't told everyone.

If you really need to tell work, then just tell your boss and ask them to keep it confidential for now. So what if people guess? And there are lots of medical appointments that aren't flexible and have to be in working hours, not just scans.

We told both sets of parents at 6 or so weeks, and I had to tell my manager at 8 weeks because I was soooo sick and I was away from my desk as much as I was at it so I didn’t want her to think I was skiving 😂
Then we’ve told siblings, nieces/nephews, grandparents etc over the past few days, I’m now 13 weeks.
I expect I’ll put something on Facebook over the course of the next couple of weeks, for wider family and friends.