When did you announce?

[Dreamer30]

Just as the title says, when did you all announce you were pregnant?

I know the norm is 12 weeks just to make sure everything is okay after your first scan.

I made my booking appointment today and the latest time they could give me is 12:45pm as that's the last appointment of the day for some reason.

I'll be 8w+4 at my booking appointment and I'm thinking of telling family and work at 8w so I don't have to make up some excuse to leave work because come 12w the dots would add up as to why I left lol and they advise to make appointments outwith work time as we only work until 2:30pm.

Also my work requires a lot of heavy lifting as well as being in a very hot environment so don't want to risk anything too early.

Thanks ladies :)

And I found it much easier to cope with miscarriages when no one knew I was pregnant in the first place, but I think that depends on the kind of person you are.

@dotdashdashdash

And I found it much easier to cope with miscarriages when no one knew I was pregnant in the first place, but I think that depends on the kind of person you are.

Definitely. There's no right or wrong but for me when I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy I found it much easier to tell people what had happened and talk about it than not. And I found a lot of friends then told their own stories which I found really comforting.

Had I had to tell people that I had been pregnant and now wasn't as new information rather than an update I would have found it much harder.

With my second and third I was very comfortable telling people as it came up whenever that was. So a lot of people saw me not drinking at a wedding at 9 weeks and asked and I just answered honestly that I was pregnant but it was early days so nothing could be taken for granted.

It's really what you feel comfortable with. What you need to think is that anyone you tell, you need to feel that you can explain to those people if something goes wrong.

I had an ectopic, requiring surgery last year, which I was quite public talking about after as I wanted other people to know the symptoms etc.
So when I tested positive this time, I told my parents straight away... mainly as I have horses and I needed my mum to keep an extra eye on me riding/jumping etc. But also because they are hugely supportive and would childmind for scans etc.
I didn't tell my boss until after the 12 week scan, which was easy as we work remotely. With my first, I told my boss at around 9 weeks as he was then travelling and I wouldn't see him til after the scan and I felt he should know before it became common news.

Told a couple of people as soon as I found out in my first pregnancy and I then had a missed miscarriage. Told family once I found out baby has died.

Second pregnancy with my now daughter, I told a handful of people the day I found out and no one else until after 12 week scan.

First baby no hiding it from 6 weeks really bad HG meant I was in hospital a lot on a drip,
Second pregnancy 14 weeks
Third pregnancy 16 weeks.
Mainly because I'm high risk each time & with my third baby it took 4 years ttc so I was trying to get as far as possible before announcing.

First and second pregnancies I told my close friends right away. Parents and everyone else at 12 weeks. Third pregnancy we didn't tell anyone as I miscarried at 7 weeks, I was so glad no one knew as they'd then know we were trying for another baby. Thankfully I was pregnant again the next month. The fourth pregnancy I told my close friends early, but parents etc didn't know until 20 plus weeks. We didn't want to tell people before our other children. They were only 3 and 4 so we wanted to be sure the baby was ok before they got excited about a new baby, I really didn't want to have to explain that the baby had gone. Thankfully all was ok though. I think my in laws were a little miffed we didn't tell them until around 22 weeks, I think they thought my parents had known since early on, but they really hadn't, I think it was a few days between them finding out.

DappledThings

Yes, definitely no right or wrong.

I'm very open about my miscarriages (I've had 2) but only after the fact, when I've had time to process them alone. The thought of someone knowing I was pregnant then having to be told I wasn't, their emotions etc I just couldn't bear. But I'm a very private person as stuff is going on in all aspects of my life, but very, very open after the fact.

Announce when you want :)
I know it’s tradition to wait until the 12 weeks but my thoughts are that if something did happen to baby (miscarried) then you should be able to speak to people about this, I think it’s a great healer speaking to others about it, rather than hush hush and dealing with a tragic loss to yourself.
I must admit I did keep both my pregnancy’s a secret until the 12 week mark because I was nervous about telling folk, once you announce your pregnant people can change towards you a little bit, like they see you as an invalid and let’s be honest some pregnant woman can go on about their pregnancy because it’s such a big deal to them, but for others it’s really not that big a deal.

Do what’s right for you xx