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18 weeks, am I losing the baby?

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Skymum82 · 23/04/2021 10:28

Omg i have been in so much pain, I'm hoping it's trapped wind but it toe curling pain.
Yesterday all day I have a ache pain under my bump put it down to round ligament pain, also my daughter had a op the day before the bags were heavy and I had to lift her and have her on my lap having a meltdown (she has autism). Obvious hubby couldn't come.
So I put it down to possible muscle strain.
Last night the pain was pretty bad and every so often woke up to "contractions" or labour pain. But bump is going hard.

This morning had about 15 of these pains and 15-20 I did pass wind a lot of these for times which made me feel a little better. Sorry tmi.

Then went back to bed hoping that would
Help, it did and the pain was hardly there (although through all this have had pain on my right side). Had a bath and shower, trying to drink plenty. Bump still hurts feels hard all the time. Like a muscle is straining constantly and every so long free get shorting pain. I can't do any thing. My youngest has just had a op and I can't help her.
This is my 4th baby never have I had this. I am going to call the hospital.
I had a urine check only Saturday so doubt it's a uti.

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crispychicken12 · 23/04/2021 15:11

I had an internal scan at 19 weeks, it's safe. They will check your cervix and swab to see if you've lost any waters.

They used a Doppler on me and couldn't get a heartbeat and performed a scan, they should do this with you. I would insist on a scan

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Skymum82 · 23/04/2021 15:14

Yes they did a swab but was a internal rather than a scan it hurt 🤦🏼‍♀️. All looked close

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crispychicken12 · 23/04/2021 15:17

@Skymum82 it's good that everything looks closed. Hope all goes ok

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Skymum82 · 23/04/2021 15:24

She really pushed baby around too. Feel more beat up 🤦🏼‍♀️

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Girlmama3 · 23/04/2021 15:28

That's ridiculous, they need to scan you to see what's going. I'd refuse anything else until that's done. I hope it's all OK x

JustSleepAlready · 23/04/2021 15:43

I just dont understand why they won’t do a scan. Can’t you ask them to do a scan to help put your mind at ease? Surely reducing your stress right now is most important?? Flowers and hugs for you right now.

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Skymum82 · 23/04/2021 15:43

I have just come home they clearly were not going to do any more. I feel more nervous now and wish I hadn't gone.
My cervix is now sore and I'm worried about baby she really proded trying to get a heart rate. I just feel sick

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Skymum82 · 23/04/2021 15:47

@Horehound I don't understand the sarcastic faces because I couldn't go straight away and leave my children with no one. Then when the picking on me can finish because I have gone in you stop commenting. Like you only did it for a bit of drama or to be a better person than me Hmm

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Horehound · 23/04/2021 15:50

Hi op I'm actually just back home catching up. I was at my grandparents sorting out their broadband...
Yeh I gave a Hmm look after you said about doing a number 2.

Sounds like your baby is ok and you've not had bleeding have you? Take it easy :) all the best.

JustSleepAlready · 23/04/2021 15:54

Good you’re back home. Can only
Assume if they were concerned they would keep you in. Try to get some rest ( laughable I know). Anything to relax if you can when dh come home to take over.

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Skymum82 · 23/04/2021 15:57

Dh is home, he had the kids. I just feel no better and more sore but have strong pain killers 🤦🏼‍♀️

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EarringsandLipstick · 23/04/2021 16:37

God that sounds so worrying for you. I'm trying to imagine they've good reasons not to scan you.
I guess see how you go & go back if things don't improve.

What's the story with the painkillers? Did they offer a reason why you were in pain?

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Skymum82 · 23/04/2021 16:41

Just said it's prob muscle, being my forth. Gave dihyrcodeine (something like this).

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Skymum82 · 23/04/2021 17:23

I have booked a private scan for Tuesday!

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EarringsandLipstick · 23/04/2021 20:16

Good idea OP. Take care of yourself this weekend 💐

ElderMillennial · 23/04/2021 20:27

OP maybe the reason they didn't think they needed to scan you was because they did hear a heart beat but just not clearly as it can be difficult at 18 weeks. You said they found baby so maybe that's what they meant.

I think the sarcastic faces were because you kept posting on here when people were telling you to call the hospital even if you couldn't go immediately.

Good luck with the scan.

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Skymum82 · 23/04/2021 20:58

Yes which I got but I knew it would make no difference as our triage is first some first seen not first called 🤦🏼‍♀️.
I also knew my hubby was 10 mins away I just wanted to talk to someone about my worried while I waited. For support and felt a little under attack.
Tbh I doubt I will be going back again if In pain.
I feel more anxious now after having the internal (it's very sore too). Agree with the heart but can't they see your cervix with a scan?

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Skymum82 · 23/04/2021 20:58

@EarringsandLipstick

Good idea OP. Take care of yourself this weekend 💐
Thank you x
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timeisnotaline · 24/04/2021 04:36

No heart rate found? Bloody hell. I’d email them to say I’m still concerned. I presented on Saturday, in serious pain, 18 weeks, and ultrasound found no heart rate, all staff did was an internal check but no scan. Without a heart rate I don’t understand why staff were confident sending me home with painkillers? Painkillers won’t make me feel better if there is something wrong with my baby.

I’d send that, seeing it in writing may make them realise how it would look in a negligence investigation. And phone again Monday.

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Skymum82 · 24/04/2021 05:29

They couldn't get a heart rate every so often you could hear babies she studied for ages and was trying to push baby around which wasn't nice 🤦🏼‍♀️. Like twice in the distance we come across it for a second. She just said it's because it's small. Will have a scan Tuesday and hope all is ok

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custardbear · 24/04/2021 05:59

Good luck I'm sure it'll pass - try and rest and get your DH to sort the kids this weekend

MyOtherProfile · 24/04/2021 06:06

I can't understand why they didn't do a scan. Are you in the UK? If so maybe contact PALS? The scan would have reassured you instantly (hopefully!). What a tough day. Thinking of you.

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Skymum82 · 24/04/2021 06:32

Honestly I swear it's me.
I have been to triage twice now in 4 pregnancies. Last time was because my third baby didn't move. They couldn't get her to move either (good heart rate). But the hour they were tracking no movement. So said they would scan after waiting 3 hours they said go home and come back tomorrow if no movement as they had no one to scan. (Luckily she came that night!).
Stupid thing is last year my cousin kept bleeding in her pregnancy last year, they scanned her each time in triage. (Never found a reason). She actually had severe abnormal cervical cells abs since birth has had kids to treatments. If they had done a internal on her they would of found why she was bleeding but she got scans.
Will feel better once I feel baby. I just feel worse of like something will go wrong because of what happened.

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stressbandit · 24/04/2021 09:33

@Skymum82 I had the pain it was round ligament pain then I had sciatica really bad all the way through until I gave birth, I was nearly on crutches at the end!

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Skymum82 · 24/04/2021 09:50

@stressbandit thank you. I'm actually feeling better today the pain (I think it was prob musclular but obviously all that matters to me is the health of the baby).
I have had spd in all of mine abs it's got worse so I am anxious with this one as have had bad pain around my hips, strangely it's worse when I try and sleep and making sleep difficult.
Did they give you any meds!

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