What month would you choose your baby to be born in?

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I know it’s not always possible to pick, but if you could what month would you pick and why?

Definitely impossible to pick, and we tried for a long time, but I’m currently pregnant and due the ‘ideal’ month for us, November. Primarily because DH will finally be getting some days off (own business which is manic April - October with long hours and very few days off) but also that they’ll be older in their school year. Plus they might be born bonfire night and clearly the fireworks are for them every year 😂

@ChocOrange1

March Middle of the school year. Not heavily pregnant during hot weather. Nice weather to enjoy when baby is small, having to wake up at night is harder in the winter when it's cold and dark. 3YO funding can be claimed from April so not long to wait - April babies don't get funding until September. Not too close to Christmas

This.

March also has the advantage that if they are sporty that most sports are based on calendar year so they are one of the eldest in their “sport year”.

I've got a early June and late July, they were due late July and late August but both were premature.
I've also lost babies that were due in December, August and June.
Frankly I'd hate December as we have 5 birthdays already and August is a disadvantage for school so I think October or March would be nice

As a teacher who has taught hundreds of children I can tell you that autumn babies are significantly advantaged in school. Of course there are anomalies but when you’ve only been alive for 4 years, a year makes a big difference. I often look at summer borns and think how different they would be had they been in the year below.

Spring is a lovely time. The weather is changing so you can get out and about. The child will be not the oldest or the youngest at school. My eldest is October so it was really turning cold, dark evenings. Next was September she finds school very frustrating as she’s very clever and the work is just not demanding enough. My youngest is August and he’s really struggling being the youngest at school

September - oldest in year at school and weather generally good enough to enjoy outdoor birthday events.

Oh, there are advantages to any. I had one June and one October. Summer is one of the least popular times to have a baby so the summer birth was more relaxed and they admitted me earlier in labour because they had space on the wards. Summer DC is only ever six months from presents and the weather is usually better for birthday parties outside etc. However, we've got all the faff of having to get her admitted outside her cohort so she starts school a year later, otherwise she'll be struggling to cope with school far too young, at a social and emotional disadvantage and she'll be more likely as an adult to develop depression and other mental health issues and more likely to be labelled as having ADHD or another SEN at school. Not worth it from my perspective.

We made sure our second was October born. No faffing around with year group. Weather isn't as nice for birthday and presents aren't as nicely spaced throughout the year. Birth wasn't as relaxed as had to wait longer to be admitted and the newborn waking is harder to deal with when the nights are so much longer. Five free terms of nursery after turning three compared to just three for summer borns though. Overall, I'd go for autumn every time.

March/April

September through to May. Any other months and they run the risk of being about emotionally immature for school.

June as would be old enough at school (in Scotland the youngest are those born in January and February), not in summer holidays so school friends still around for their party, nice weather for their party and it’s halfway from Christmas and they can get summer presents.

I’ve had 2 miscarriages with May due dates and currently pregnant with an October due date and after 4 years TTC I’ll take any birth month!

September/October time.

I work on children's mental health/education and there's evidence to show that they are better off being older in the year. An extra year of childcare means they are emotionally a year older and more prepared for what's ahead of them (in theory).

Saying that, I'm a July baby and my dad's the 31st of August and we have both got through life just fine!

Our first baby is due at the end of September so nature played along with us this time

We have a son born in feb , but we were just happy to fall pregnant that time round ! 2nd time we wanted an early summer baby early summer because I didn’t want to be 36/37 pregnant in heat , my 2nd baby who is a little girl with be delivered via c section on june 7th so it worked out well

I have July, Feb and October babies so far. This one is due in September.

That’s actually the one month I’d have wanted to avoid, but equally wasn’t willing to stop ttc just to avoid a specific month.

If I could have picked I’d have chosen May or June purely because I like that time of year and we don’t have many birthdays fall around that time.

September I just wasn’t keen on as first of all it’s a whole extra year of childcare to be paid for, and I wasn’t keen on my child being one of the eldest in their year at school.

My July baby is one of the youngest in their year and noticeably struggles academically more so than my October or February children. My February child is probably in the best position school wise.

I've not had enough babies to judge it yet, our 6 (when this one's born) will be over 4mths of the year.
They all have pros and cons. One of ours is very close to Christmas, he thinks it's great as a kid because he's always off school but as an adult I think it's a pain in the arse.

Spring for sure.

I've got 2x August and 1x October.

Summer is horrible to be huge and pregnant in, it's also shit being in the really nauseous phase during Christmas.

May. Although I didn't have a baby in May, but I used to wish I had. In May it is warm for the baby (and so less stress for you too) and you have the whole summer to enjoy together.

September seems great for being oldest in year for school & sports.
But if DC are really sporty January is best (I know, it's not something you can predict).

In most sports we've been involved in, everything is in school years until teens then it flips to calendar years. So just when everyone is settled into their age groups, the autumn kids who have been the oldest are suddenly the youngest competing against kids from the year above at school.

Baby is coming in July and if I had a choice I would have picked July anyway. Much easier for it to be bright and warmer in the later stages of pregnancy for me, I find it easier to look nice in a dress than layering up for winter with a bump. I'm looking forward to the weather making it easier to get out with the baby and generally be in a better mood for the first few weeks & months.

I've always wanted an October baby cause my birthday is October too! It's my favourite time of year and I loved being one of the oldest but not the oldest in my school year. My first baby is due October 9th

I have an August birthday difficult when a child (turning 18 was a nightmare) brilliant now though for holidays!

DD is March and I think its perfect actually - weather gets nicer, good distance away from Christmas, middle of the year.

DS is October and that suits him as well

July. Here in Scotland that makes you five before starting school (youngest are the end of February birthdays but many kids born after Xmas get to start school a year later anyway here).
July means you’re always off school on your birthday. Mind you I didn’t like being heavily pregnant throughout a particularly warm summer with my July born baby.

@BertieBotts allow I’m so excited to have our baby in June But I 100% agree with you I was still extremely sick at Christmas time even the food adverts on tv were making me bolk !

Its more about months I would prefer to avoid tbh - Aug because of the age at starting school thing s lots of pp have said but also Nov, Dec, Jan are all too close to Xmas lots of friends/cousins/kids in the wider family etc have birthdays around this time and the general consensus is it SUCKS - because people have no money/time to do anything. Xmas overshadows everything. They get stuck with joint gifts a lot - we have some truly cheap relatives too. One bought a pair of gloves for a 13yr old and wrapped ONE up and send it for their Mid-Nov Bithday and then the other arrived a month later for Xmas!! This wasn't a joke or ironic either but we all wondered wtf Auntie Brenda had been smoking that year! Although Its actually really funny to look back on now) they'd get birthday presents wrapped in Xmas paper they all said they felt like its an excuse for people to be thoughtless and lazy.

We were TTC for quite a while, so happy to just end up with a healthy baby, but hearing lots of people say May is reassuring me. We'd originally aimed for an October baby, when they would be older in the school year, still reasonable weather but also less likely to be an accidental August and youngest in the year. Like others I'd have avoided around Christmas out of choice or early January as birthdays round then do get lost in Christmas or post-Christmas budgeting.

I've been hot and uncomfortable enough in March I'm glad I'm not having to do it in peak summer, and having the longer days will help when I'm up every few hours for feeding. Though we have a lot of family birthdays on the same day a week after our due date, so I'm going to be keeping my legs crossed that day!

April. Birthday in the Easter hols, lovely weather to cheer you up during newborn hell. I'm due in November after a Feb baby and an April baby and not looking forward to postpartum winter!