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When did you announce your pregnancy to immediate family?

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Sparkles512 · 05/04/2021 15:35

Hi ladies,

Just wondering when people tend to announce their pregnancy to immediate family like our parents/siblings?

DH wants to announce it but I feel like it is too early and everyone will be like you've only just peed on the stick tell us again when your actually pregnant 😂

But ultimately we could wait until 12 weeks to tell them and something could still go wrong.

I think I will need to tell work soon anyway due to doing a manual job so we probably will have to tell parents and work before 12 weeks.

Any advice please?

Thank you!

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UnderHisAye · 05/04/2021 15:36

The same day I found out! My mum took me to buy pregnancy tests because DH was away.

I'd have needed them if anything had gone wrong so there was no sense keeping it a secret. They were all so excited for us from day one, it was lovely.

NW2021 · 05/04/2021 15:37

The day after peeing on the stick 😂 couldn’t keep it to ourselves & so happy we did.
Congratulations on your positive 🎉

PinkPlantCase · 05/04/2021 15:39

We had a private scan at 9 weeks to check if there was a heartbeat, we told just our parents after then. I had one friend that I told as soon as I had the BFP because we would chat about TTC and if baby hadn’t of made it I’d of wanted to talk to her about it!

Brothers/sisters/grandparents we told at around 14 weeks. I also told my manager soon after then because I was unwell but waited until closer to 20 weeks to tell my team.

EvilOnion · 05/04/2021 15:42

Congratulations :)

I never announced either of my pregnancies to anyone, it just sort of came out in conversation with people as and when. Lots of people never realised until I was showing because it never came up 🤣

Things go wrong whether people know or not so I never took timing into consideration if I'm honest.

Lazypuppy · 05/04/2021 15:43

Told my mum at 4 weeks, close family at about 6 weeks and told everyone else at 12 weeks

Warrickdaviesasplates · 05/04/2021 15:45

1st baby- 20 weeks
2nd baby- told my mum at 10 weeks because I needed her to drive me to hospital after a big bleed and threatened miscarriage. Told everyone else around 14 weeks.
3rd baby- 12 weeks.

I've had many more pregnancy's which ended in miscarriage so I'm very cautious about when to tell people.

My SIL told everyone about hers the moment she got a positive test.

There's no right answer as to when to tell them I think it just depends on if you would want their support should something happen.

becca3210 · 05/04/2021 15:46

8 weeks after a private scan to check for heart beat. Announced to both sets of parents together

Wowcherarestalkingme · 05/04/2021 15:51

1st baby at 11 weeks because it was Christmas and they would want to know why i wasn’t drinking.
2nd baby - mum at 7 weeks as I thought I was miscarrying, dad and in-laws at 12 weeks. Rest of family and friends at 22.
I had lost two babies at 16 weeks between 1 and 2 and didn’t want people to know until we were further along. Baby 2 arrived at 32 weeks so my friends felt it was the shortest pregnancy ever 🤣

altlife · 05/04/2021 15:51

We told our DS and my parents, grandmother and brother (they all live together) the same day I found out. In fact we let our DS tell them he's going to be an older brother.

Of course we told them it was very early days and we decided not to tell anyone else until first scan (next week). All being ok we may then decide to tell extended family, or just keep it to ourselves a bit longer

RustyCat · 05/04/2021 15:53

First pregnancy I told my mum and boss at 8 weeks and then had a miscarriage.

Second pregnancy kept it quiet until I had my 12 week scan, mainly so that I didn't have to go through the heartache if it was bad news or if I had a miscarriage again.

SecretCiderCellar · 05/04/2021 15:54

About 19 weeks.

Nat4392 · 05/04/2021 16:46

We told both of our parents/siblings the same day we found out. All other extended family was after the dating scan. I had to tell work immediately after finding out as my job role has to change.

Moominmiss · 05/04/2021 16:52

We didn’t tell anyone else, not even family until we’d had the results of a private nipt test through. We had the scan and test done at 13+4 and everything looked amazing, but I still didn’t want to tell anyone until I’d had the results. We got the results exactly a week later at 14+4 so told people then. I told my other children at 15 weeks as they were with their dad the weekend we fit the results.

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Sparkles512 · 05/04/2021 21:10

Thank you for all your replies!

I guess its when we feel ready at the moment DH is keen to tell parents at 6 weeks so we will see how long we can hold out!

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Figgygal · 05/04/2021 21:12

Around 14 weeks with first as needed a second scan and after 12 week scan with dc2

JeanClaudeVanDammit · 05/04/2021 21:14

13 weeks after 12 week scan and screening results. Had no need to tell them earlier (no symptoms) and DP & I enjoyed being in a little bubble of it being our secret before they. There’s really no right or wrong answer to this one.

20viona · 05/04/2021 21:14

9 weeks after a private scan and because it was Christmas Eve.

HelloDulling · 05/04/2021 21:18

1st time, told my mum at 8 weeks because I was v sick and supposed to be going in holiday with her. Everyone else at 12 weeks.

2nd baby, we told everyone at 12 weeks.

RiverMeadow · 05/04/2021 21:18

14 weeks. So glad I kept it to myself for that long.

Terminallysleepdeprived · 05/04/2021 21:19

Ideal world I wanted to wait til 20 weeks so we could confirm sex etc...however HG had other plans. And as I ended up signed off work and had my head down the loo 23.95 hours a day til they found a combo of meds that stopped me puking I had little choice but to tell my parents when I was 8 weeks...

They knew something was up. I found out at 8 weeks and by my 10 week booking in apt I had gone from 15st to 12st...

bubblebath62636 · 05/04/2021 21:20

I told my mum the moment i found out, figured I'd want her support if anything went wrong.

Told dd at 10 weeks, everyone else at 12.

LouNatics · 05/04/2021 21:23

Congratulations!

I told my closest family at various points of pregnancy. Sometimes I told at 5 weeks. With one I didn’t tell them until 29 weeks. I don’t think there is a wrong or right way. Do what makes you feel best. Sure, pregnancy goes wrong, more have gone wrong for me than right but that doesn’t always mean they are a deadly secret. You do you

SpeckledyHen · 05/04/2021 21:23

9 weeks on the way to being admitted to hospital with HG for the first time . 10 days and nights of continuous vomiting.

KurtWilde · 05/04/2021 21:24

The day I found out with all of mine.

AliasGrape · 05/04/2021 21:24

My sister I told the second the cross appeared on the test more or less.

Told DH’s mum at 8 weeks as we were about to get married and she was helping with lots of bits for that but every time she’d come round I was under a blanket on the sofa or crying (I kept having bleeds and was really scared) so I felt like I needed to explain myself.

Everyone else some time after the 12 week scan.

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