When did you announce your pregnancy to immediate family?

[Sparkles512]

Hi ladies,

Just wondering when people tend to announce their pregnancy to immediate family like our parents/siblings?

DH wants to announce it but I feel like it is too early and everyone will be like you've only just peed on the stick tell us again when your actually pregnant 😂

But ultimately we could wait until 12 weeks to tell them and something could still go wrong.

I think I will need to tell work soon anyway due to doing a manual job so we probably will have to tell parents and work before 12 weeks.

Any advice please?

Thank you!

After the 12wk scan.

I'm 6 weeks tomorrow and we just told both sets of parents. Both sets know to keep quiet.
I think it's fine to tell close family or a very close friend. I wouldn't tell anyone else until after 12 weeks.

I had a bleed at 5 weeks , so phoned my mum for comfort (thought it was another miscarriage).

another small bleed at 8 1/2 weeks, epu scan was on my dads birthday and we were told everything looked good no signs of bleeding and everything was the right size so I told my dad then.

I have a manual handling job as well, I told work at 11ish weeks as I was suffering really bad from morning sickness/all day nausea.

Also with my work they really dragged their heals with a risk assessment! Only to find out after it I'd been lifting weights that weren't recommended for weeks , they now won't let me lift above 11kg.

Rest of the family told at 12 weeks, and waited until 20 weeks to tell other people at work that weren't hr/bosses.

I told my work the day I peed on a stick. However there were some health and safety concerns that had to be addressed before i came into work.

We told our famlies when I was about 7 or 8 weeks. I would have told them sooner but my DP was against it.

A few days after I found out.
Work 5 months after

22 weeks! We lived abroad so waited until we came home on hols, both parents & ILs live not too far from each other so we asked both sets to pick up from airport unknown to the other & then we came into arrivals......bump & all! The excitement was unbelievable...

We announced our engagement one Christmas and the following it made sense to tell them I was expecting, even at just 6 weeks. If something went wrong I would have told them anyway. It had been confirmed by the GP. Next time I was a little less certain. I was 43 years old and even though I had an early scan showing a healthy fetus still waited until 12 weeks.
I'm the only one of my siblings to have kids so didn't want my parents to wait a minute longer to share in the joy.

About 5 weeks. Had no interest in keeping it secret. First pregnancy ended in miscarriage, 2nd time we told family and some friends just as early.

DC1 & 2 after 12 week private scan.
DC3 - at 19 weeks after private scan showed everything was ok. DC 1&2 were early teens and wanted them to know first, but only when we knew everything was ok with DC3. Didn't tell work until 21 weeks though (management based desk role so no h&s issues).
We're very private people though about this sort of thing and if we'd have had an early loss, we wouldn't have told anyone or wanted their support so made sense for us to wait as long as we could.
Just do whatever you feel comfortable with.

Told them after seeing things were well at the dating scan, 13wk.
I don't like telling people before the dating scan due to history of 1st trimester miscarriages.

Pregnancy one didn't tell anyone for years - mc

Pregnancy 2 told immediate family around 6 weeks then mc

Pregnancy 3 didn't tell anyone until 14 weeks and had scan, this is when we told immediate family, didn't tell anyone else until I was about 5.5 months except for I told my immediate boss in confidence. She'd had mcs too and was incredibly supportive and understanding and had literally saved my life earlier that year when I had collapsed at work with Gynae complications (ovarian torsion which she'd also had herself and recognised the signs and got me help very quickly. It was a complicated case and if she hadn't got me help as fast as she did and pointed out certain things to the paramedics that I'd said to her before I passed out I dread to think what could have happened). By 5.5 months I was just starting to show so that prompted telling people, several were very surprised how far along I was.

Everyone's different. I give the impression of being an outgoing and open person but I'm actually deeply private in real life and I didn't want people knowing and kind of watching me in case things went wrong again. It was not a smooth pregnancy for a number of reasons and I was being closely monitored which I also didn't want to get into with people. Right enough when we did tell people I was given a lot of unsolicited, well meaning but potentially dangerous advice on the issues I was having.

If I had lost dd (which I almost did at various points) I wouldn't have wanted to have to tell a lot of people and keep going over what happened.

I appreciate my circumstances were somewhat unusual.

My sister had no choice as she was vomiting pretty much constantly from BEFORE she was even at peeing on a stick stage! The first time she thought it was a bad bout of noro! The point at which she found out she was pregnant she was on a fluids drip and barely conscious in a hospital bed. The next 2 she knew straight away what it was as the nausea apparently had a definite quality to it she recognised. Again each time before even missing a period she was decorating bathroom walls. She has it horrific every time.

A neighbour I knew didn't even know herself until the birth! 3rd baby, very sim lady I'd seen her at the corner shop day before the birth and she was in skinny jeans with no hint of a bump! Few days later saw her pushing said baby in pram thought she was babysitting for someone. She'd gone into Labour in the night at first thought it was something like appendicitis, baby delivered on bathroom floor by husband following instructions from 999 operator!

So yea, everyone's different. So what's right for you.

My mum early. Probably straightaway. I can't remember exactly. The rest a little later - had a troublesome pregnancy with a threatened miscarriage up to about 18 weeks so I don't think we were sharing the news much.

Told my sister before my husband!! I was 3 weeks and 5 days and then my mum about 2 hours later (after I'd told my husband!!)

After 20 week scan

We found out that I was pregnant quite far along (10 weeks) so my partner told his family straight away and I told my sister. We waited until our 12 week scan to tell the rest of our family xx

Told my parents the day I found out at 4 weeks and husbands parents at 10 weeks on Christmas. Some people at work knew around 5/6 weeks but told work officially at 12 weeks

Told my sister pretty much as the lines appeared on the stick. Mum and dad and the in-laws were told in the days after. We didn't make a big fuss or huge announcement, it's always been a quite casual "oh btw just found out I'm pregnant". My rule of thumb has always been "who would I want/need support from if I did mc?". If they're on the list I don't worry about telling them too soon, me letting them know isn't going to make a mc more or less likely. When I did have an early mc with my first pregnancy I was glad to have told them before.

A friend's daughter didn't tell her until 16 weeks because her husband didn't want to tell one set of parents and not the other, and also wanted to tell his DM in person- obviously lockdown prevented that happening for ages. So her DD was sick as a dog but couldn't tell her mum, who she's extremely close to. I don't understand that tbh, DPIL live far away- between that and Covid, you just accept sometimes you'll have to deliver news over the phone.

Told parents, in laws and our siblings pretty much straight away.. figured we’d tell them and want their support if anything went wrong & I felt horrendous with sickness. Would do the same again. X

Thank you for all your replies!

We have decided to announce it next weekend to our parents when I will be 6 +2weeks 😊