Pregnancy anxiety

[PapercraftNinja]

I don’t think that’s the right phrase for it sorry!

I’m so happy and excited to be pregnant but have an awful feeling things won’t work out, it’s like the more I want it to the more likely it is that something bad will happen. I did have a mmc before I gave birth to my DD who is 3.5, so bit sure if it’s that or that I feel totally different in this pregnancy before.

I have a scan booked for next week, I am around 7-8 weeks at the moment.

I know worrying won’t do any good but I just have this horrible feeling and can’t shake it off. I don’t want to think of it as gut instinct because I can see myself with another baby and giving dd a sibling, I guess it is just anxiety?

Has anyone else felt like this and for everything to be fine? Or any coping mechanisms?

I have a midwife appointment in a couple of weeks so will talk more then but some real experiences would be really helpful

All could be perfectly fine. I do know that feeling though. Good luck

I felt like this in my last pregnancy. I had a private viability scan at 8+3 which confirmed a hb but I still couldn't shake that deep down feeling that things were not quite right. I mc that baby at 9+3, took it really hard but got bfp again 5 months later (2 cycles after starting ttc again).
Currently 16+5wk with an active little girl. I've been worried throughout this pregnancy too but not like the last. Glad I got a private scan yesterday as I feel so much happier seeing the difference from the dating scan to now. Excitement has definitely overtaken the anxiety now and only a few weeks to my anomaly scan.

That is interesting to hear, I am just so unsure of how this will go it is making me so anxious

So sorry to hear of your mc and congratulations on your little girl!!

Hey, I’m 8 weeks too after 2 mcs (no children yet!)

I found this time that I’ve just been constantly feeling that there’s nothing in there (I haven’t had a scan yet) and I think it’s a coping mechanism because I’m so scared of losing another.

I also have a gut instinct that everything’s going to go right this time, and I’m going to have a girl, but I get freaked out by this thought and worry that I’m tempting fate by getting my hopes up.

I’ve also had times where I’ve felt incredibly low, like something is definitely wrong or I’m going to have an ectopic. I’m too scared to have an early scan. I think it’s just a really anxious time and we go through a range of emotions.

For me I keep thinking well I’m not having pains and I’m not bleeding, so there’s no signs anything has gone wrong. I know there is a chance of an empty sac or mmc but the chances of that are low and there’s nothing I could do about it anyway. We’ve just got to hope for the best xxx

It’s so hard isn’t it. Thank you so much for sharing. I also feel like I don’t want to get my hopes up and keep remembering how common miscarriage is so just all over the place at the moment.

Again congratulations on your pregnancy 8 weeks is great and not far from the 12 week mark.

Also it’s good to know it’s not just me although I am sorry you are going through this

I feel like this aswell. Im having a hard time. I had a MMC last time found at 12 weeks measuring 10+2, I had failed medical management and had to go through surgical all in all i was in and out of hospital for a month. Im pregnant again and I've had 2 x private scans allready and although everything was fine and my last one i was measuring 10+5 I can't shake the feeling that it won't last. My NHS scan is on Thursday when i should be 13 weeks going off my private scans. Im pretty convinced its going to be another MMC, so much so that I've started to prepare a bag for the hospital and sumbit some work early to get it out of the way so I don't have go worry about it if it bad news or if im in hospital.

Its morbid and I feel awful. I do have good thoughts and visions of a future with a baby but I the bad negative thoughts overtake mainly. All my symptoms have disappeared which does not help at all.

I honestly don't know how women cope who go through this multiple times

Oh @KM89 that’s made me so sad I’m so sorry, I know how you feel that’s an awful experience too. I’m keeping everything crossed for you and all of us having these worries. Please tell us if it’s good news and feel free to share here if you want to talk and it isn’t.

Hi, if you have been through a miscarriage I don't think you ever shake feeling of anxiety in pregnancy. Sat here cuddling my 6 week old son while my toddler isn't napping. I lost two babies between my children.

With the last pregnancy I was convinced I was going to lose him or something would go wrong and here he is in my arms. His brother even brought covid into the house two weeks before due date and we all survived!

It so tough but you really can only take it week by week until there is a concrete bad sign (I.e bleeding).

@km89 I am so sorry you are going through this but two positive thoughts to keep you going -

Many pregnancy symptoms reduce after 10 weeks as the placenta takes over

Early scans can be upto 5 days out

Good luck my lovely. I was convinced I was losing my last pregnancy when my sickness starting reducing at 8 weeks. All was fine

It’s so sad isn’t it because I do understand these feelings aren’t going to change the course either way. Thank you @welshladywhois40 congratulations I’m just so sorry it took two losses to get there

@PapercraftNinja thank you , its nice to have others to talk to. I hope all goes well for you. Anxiety must happen to a lot of people who have been through this.

@welshladywhois40 thank you im hoping that is the case but I think im more paranoid because thats exactly what I thought had happened last time but unfortunately it wasn't. It does help to hear that others have gone onto to have healthy babies .

So glad I found this thread as this is exactly how I'm feeling today.

I'm 6+4 with an IVF pregnancy. I was feeling fairly nauseous and tired but that disappeared about four days ago and I'm feeling so worried it means I'm miscarrying but the progesteron I'm on is holding it off.

I did a pregnancy test on the morning the same day that the symptoms started to subside which was a strong positive but still feel like that doesn't mean much and I won't know until the viability scan next week. Never wanted to feel sick and tired more.

@Folklore9074 I know exactly what you mean just something to reassure you! I also have no symptoms at all, I think I keep tricking myself into feeling nauseous every now and again but nothing to go off.

Just wanted to say hope you are all doing ok x

Sorry you feel like this - it's crap. I had 2 losses before this PG and no children and I have had a gut feeling the whole time that something is going to go wrong. I'm now 36 weeks and everything seems fine. I'm still convinced something will go wrong and I don't think I'm going to shake that feeling now. I guess what I'm saying is try not to worry that you feel that way because you have some kind of instinct - it's natural to feel worried if you've experienced a loss, especially MMC in the past and that feeling has nothing to do with how your pregnancy is progressing. Do speak to your midwife - mine have been amazing and given me lots of support to get this far.

@BlueberryPancake21 hopefully all will go great, it’s just an awful feeling isn’t it! Thank you for your kind words I’m sorry you’ve been though it too x

I feel exactly the same. I'm awaiting my 12 week scan and I'm so so anxious, I've convinced myself something will be wrong. I had a MC about 18months ago and this is my first pregnancy since that.

@crobo87 it is such a confusing and hard time especially when you have already had a MC. I think there are some other good support threads on here that are people who are going through similar actually?

@KM89 thinking of you today hope all went well

Gosh if I take all the feelings from each post here, it pretty much sums up how I feel 😩

I’m currently 12+4 after 4 mc’s last year. I’ve had several early scans, and most recently a scan and NIPT test at 12+2. My nhs scan isn’t until I’ll be 14 weeks.

From the start of this pregnancy I’ve just had a good feeling about it, it’s felt different right from the off than the pregnancies I lost.
But I hate saying it as I feel like I’m just tempting fate. I’ve found myself actually on occasion talking to my partner about the future as if this baby will be here, and then I kick myself for getting too ahead of myself.

I just think surely after the losses things aren’t just going to magically be ok this time. And now I’m convinced that I’ll get bad results from the NIPT test.

We originally said if we got a good 12 week scan and good nipt results we’d tell people, but now I think maybe just wait til after the 20 week scan, just in case.

If this pregnancy is healthy and does continue, I honestly don’t see how I will ever stop worrying. I check the toilet paper every time I go, I over analyse every pain. I’ve not had many symptoms from the start other than breast pain and tiredness.

I hate that the mc’s have taken any enjoyment out of this pregnancy for me.

I’m sorry for everyone feeling the same, it can feel very lonely in real life. While my partner is super supportive and was with me through all the losses, he doesn’t quite understand why I can’t just be positive this time around.

@Moominmiss fingers crossed all will be well from the NIPT and I’m so sorry you are in the same boat in many ways. It sounds like things are progressing well so I guess we all have to just take it each scan/day/minute at a time but that is so much easier said than done. Keep focusing on that good feeling though!

@Moominmiss I feel very similar to you! I’m 9 weeks and feel instinctively good about this pregnancy, even though I haven’t had any scans yet. But when I think that I worry I’m tempting fate! We have only told my parents this time and I feel scared to tell anyone else even after 12 weeks. I’d like to wait until 20 to tell my work if I can if I get that far.

I know what you mean about previous losses, although I feel so lucky to be pregnant and I’m so happy, I also feel just numb a lot of the time like my brain is trying to protect me from further pain if this one ends up not working out. You lose the innocent excitement of the first time after you’ve had losses xx

Congratulations @Cafeaulait27 it’s great you have that good instinct.

I think that’s where I feel different and I want to get that positive feeling.

Just remember anxiety is a powerful emotion and makes you believe things are going to turn out horribly when you actually have no way to tell the future. I had a lot of cramping first trimester and was so anxious and I believed my 'gut instinct' that something wasn't right. All was fine and am now 21 weeks. I was just overthinking and obsessing which I have tendency to do. Now when I feel like that (and if necessary checked anything I need to with midwife or doctor) I remind myself its just my anxious mind catastrophising not some mystical 'sixth sense' warning me.