Successful pregnancies after miscarriage stories

[imsosad2021]

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Hi everyone,

I had a miscarriage yesterday at 4 weeks and 5 days.

Our son is 7 months old. We were lucky to fall pregnant with him straight away.

As I turned 34 in February we know time isn't on our side, so we started ttc again two months ago.

I was so happy when I got a positive pregnancy test last Sunday, but unfortunately I started bleeding yesterday evening and a pregnancy test confirmed I wasn't pregnant anymore.

I'm devastated and heartbroken to say the least. Although it was so early on and I know so many things can go wrong at the early stage, I already thought of baby names. Stupid in hindsight, I know. My partner also was really excited.

My face is red and swollen from all the crying and I'm grieving so much. I also wonder whether I will ever be able to be pregnant again and also have a positive outcome.

So I'm just wondering if anyone could share positive stories with me about miscarriages and subsequent healthy pregnancies? It would be especially nice to hear from older mums like myself.

Thanks x

I’m very sorry about your miscarriage. The grief is natural and it’s because you cared so much.

I’m not sure if my story will help but I had three miscarriages before my daughter was born. I had tests after this but nothing could be found that was wrong and luckily the next one went well. I was in my early 30s when I had the miscarriages. I wouldn’t worry about your age - you are not an older mum in my opinion and have plenty of time to keep trying. There is no reason assume you will have a miscarriage next time and unfortunately you do just have to try and see but obviously the fact that you already have had a child recently is a very good sign. Wishing you all the best.

I had 30 early miscarriages before DS. It took ages for my specific conditions to be diagnosed and treated and when they were I fell pregnant straight away and it stuck, so don’t lose help. I was a lot older than you when I fell pregnant too.

@Odile13

Thank you. I definitely feel like an older mum sometimes. I'm very sorry about your miscarriages and I'm glad you got your daughter in the end.
Miscarriages are such a horrible experience.

@GrumpyHoonMain

I'm so, so sorry about your miscarriages. 30 are so much and that must have been devastating for you. I'm glad the doctors were able to help you and that you got your son in the end.

You're not old! I started TTC at 32 naively assuming I would have a baby in my arms at 33. It took us 3 years to get our first BFP. 2MCs later and I am now 37yo and 35wks PG - I will soon be 38. It wasn't our plan to be this age - I was hoping to be having DC2 before this! But definitely don't give up hope. The odds really only start to get a bit worse at 36/37 and even then it's still a lot more likely that you'd have a successful PG than not. Sorry you're going through this - MC is horrid. But there is definitely reason to feel positive!

Im sorry for your loss.

I had three miscarriages after having my DD. One at 6 weeks, one at 7 weeks and lost twins at 12 weeks. A month after the loss of my twins I was lucky to be pregnant again - I'm currently 33 weeks and so far all is going well. I'm 36 and no cause has been found for my early MCs - my twins were found to have a chromosome issue.

Miscarriages are heartbreaking but also sadly quite common. After I had my MCs my mother told me that she had 5 MC's between having my brother and sister. I also had a few friends tell me about loses that they hadn't spoken about before.

Sending you a big hug X x

I've not been counting chemical pregnancies (under 6wk) but had lots of those, had 5 miscarriages between 8 & 12wk. I'm on pregnancy 10 (which have passed 6wk), had 5 children from pregnancies 1, 4, 6, 7 (twins) and currently 16+3 with baby number 6. I really struggled after my latest muscarriage as I had a private scan that confirmed a hb at 8+3 but still lost it at 9+3, only one where I've lost one after seeing a hb. It was an excruciating wait to my dating scan this time but all was well, got a private scan tomorrow and can't wait to see how baby is doing. I'll be 37 when baby is due, had our eldest at 21.

You have to hold on to hope that you will get another baby, as heartbreaking as losing pregnancies is holding a newborn makes it worth the journey. Pregnancy after mc is terrifying, I worry all the time. Good luck

@Chelyanne

I'm sorry that you had so many miscarriages and early losses. That must have been quite traumatizing. I'm sure your scan tomorrow will go well and it will be exciting to see your new baby x

@Quail15

Congratulations on your pregnancy, you're already 33 weeks and must be so excited to meet your baby soon x I'm sorry about your losses. I also believe that many women don't speak about their losses and that it is more common than we think

@BlueberryPancake21

Congratulations on your pregnancy. So sorry about your miscarriages, but it's fantastic that you are 35 weeks now and will get to meet your little one soon x

I had 3 miscarriages before I was able to have my DS, and then managed to have DD with no further losses.
My first miscarriage was probably the worst one because it was so unexpected, my first pregnancy and I had no idea what could go wrong.
I did go on to have two more losses but after that I had treatment. The treatment was very basic, aspirin, progesterone and steroids, but worked.
It was devastating at the time. But the DCs are wonderful and obviously worth it all. Take care. Allow yourself to grieve however you need to.

It'll be ok OP. My pregnancy history is like this:

Age 31 - had DS
Then 4 consecutive miscarriages at 7,5,5 and 9 weeks.
Now pregnant again - 19 weeks and all going well

There is hope xx

@imsosad2021 I’m so sorry for your loss. It doesn’t matter how far along you were, the heartbreak of a loss is still traumatic.

I have 3 dc from my previous relationship, they were all conceived when I was in my 20’s and early 30’s. I have been with my current partner 4 years and he has no children so we decided to try for a baby.

I was 37 when we started ttc. Unfortunately I went through 4 heartbreaking miscarriages in the last 12 months. The first at 9 weeks, the other 3 all around 6 weeks.

I turned 38 during that year and honestly thought I’d left it too late and we wouldn’t be able to have a baby.

Amazingly I’m currently 11 weeks pregnant, conceived in our 16th month trying, and things are so far going well. Several early scans have shown a healthy wriggling baby.

While I’m not a full success story yet as I’m well aware things can still go wrong, this is huge progress for me personally and I feel positive this time.

There is definitely hope after a miscarriage, and at 34 you definitely aren’t too old.

Good luck x

I had dd1 (now about to turn 3) at 38, after a year of ttc. Mc around my 40th birthday at 9 weeks. Now, at 41 I have dd2 who is 8 months old.

There is hope but I know how you feel. I still get upset about my loss. I'm sorry for yours. Take your time to grieve and look after yourself.

@imsosad2021 I'm so sorry, I too fell pregnant last year and miscarried at 6 weeks in July last year. Previously I had two easily conceived straightforward pregnancies. I had a period after that in August and got pregnant in September and 28 weeks tomorrow. I'm 34 so same age as you. Take time to look after yourself. It will happen again, remember there's nothing you did wrong or could have done to prevent it. Sending you love and strength.❤️❤️❤️

@Mishmased

I'm sorry for your loss and congratulations on your pregnancy. We will also ttc again once my body allows me to. Thank you for your kind words

@theseriousmoonlight

Thank you. I'm sorry you had to go through this, but it's so wonderful that you have two dd now.

@Moominmiss

I'm sorry for your losses and congratulations on your pregnancy. Time will fly and before you know your baby will be there x

@GreenSlide

Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry you had to experience this, but it's wonderful you're pregnant again xx

@kittlesticks

I'm sorry for your losses ,but happy for you that you managed to get pregnant in the end.

Did your GP give you this treatment or did you have to go to a fertility clinic?

We had DS1 when I was 33. MC second pregnancy at 36. DS2 born at 37. You have plenty of time. Grieve if you need to, be kind to yourself, replenish your strength. MC took it out of me (strep throat, flu etc). Plan something lovely. It will happen.

First I'm so sorry you've lost your baby. My heart goes out to you.

I had a miscarriage then 9 years later a live birth of my DD ( though 4 weeks premature and a difficult pregnancy) when I was ( just ) 41. I went into Labour on my birthday and she was born 3 days later. Then sadly I went on to have a miscarriage caused by an amniocentesis test a year later. Then we stopped. I'm lucky as I have 2 step children who lived with us half the time.

I found each pregnant hard but was always hopeful and I adore my DD. I hope you go on to have a successful pregnancy. I know so many women who have.

@Sooverthemill Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I'm sorry for your losses but so glad that you got your beautiful daughter in the end. xx

@33goingon64 It's sad how many women have to go through this, I'm sorry that you had, too. How wonderful that you had a successful pregnancy after your miscarriage. I'm trying to be kind to myself. I was crying again today ,but slept for over 3 hours this afternoon, which did me a world of good xx

@imsosad2021 it's ok to cry. It gets easier in time.xxx

@imsosad2021 sleep is good. Crying is necessary. I still cry for my babies. I really hope you get to experience the joy as well

Sorry for your loss.

I had a missed miscarriage in 2019. I was devastated, heartbroken and very depressed. I fell pregnant again 8 months later with my dd, who's 6 months old in a few days and is sound asleep in her cot, next to me.

I'm not going to lie, pregnancy after miscarriage can be very difficult. You are suddenly very aware that two lines on a test does not always equal a baby and I think if you've never experienced baby loss, there's no reason to think anything other than a baby will be in your arms 9 months later. It can be an anxious time, but once you hit each milestone in pregnancy, 12 week scan, 20 week scan, midwife appointments every 4 weeks, feeling kicks, you relax just a little bit.

I gave birth to my dd 27 months after my first month ttc and I just think that she was there all along waiting for the right time. Your baby is too .

I’m not sure you are ‘old’ yet so don’t worry!
Missed miscarriage at 36, utterly devastated and thought that was my last chance. 6 months later I was pregnant with twins and my lovely 7 year old girls wouldn’t be here if that miscarriage hadn’t happened. Good luck, you will be fine. X

@imsosad2021 do you know about the miscarriage association? they really helped me x

Hi OP.
The story goes that I had the three losses and then had the nhs tests that you would expect after 3 recurrent losses. These tests show up problems like clotting disorders. I had no issues there.
They advised to try again and gave me a folic prescription but by that point I had been through 3 surgeries because all of my pregnancies had to be removed by operation and I was at the end of my rope basically.
I went to a private miscarriage clinic in london and they diagnosed an immune system problem. That's where I got steroids prescribed. After those tests I got pregnant with DS about 10 months later and luckily managed to keep the pregnancy and he was born 3 years ago.
I will never know whether the drugs I took truly helped but at the time I just felt it was the right decision.
Feel free to PM if you need more info.