What appointments have your partners been allowed to attend?

[EllieRosesMammy]

Just wondering what appointments everyones partners have been able to attend in recent weeks?

My partner couldnt attend my early bird app (which was fine cause he didnt miss much) and I dont think hes able to attend my booking app next week.

I believe hes allowed to attend our 12 week and 20 week scan, but in the following months things are about to change anyway so I'm assuming once shops and pubs reopen partners will be allowed to attend all appointments again?

What has everyone elses doctors surgery and hospital said?

I’m in Edinburgh and my partner has been allowed to come to all my appointments. He’s only actually been to a few due to childcare though

I don't think partners generally go to booking appointments anyway because they're boring and just for paperwork.

None for me, 12 week and 20 week scan were no partners allowed. Not really fussed, booked a private at 16 weeks. Might have felt different if it was first baby.

MY DP couldn't come to 12wk scan (but that was a while ago and I think he would be allowed now), could come to 20wk scan but had to wait outside in the snow until I was called in. He hasn't been able to come to any other appointments at all. When I went in for reduced movements late at night he was allowed with me because we were in a separate triage room but he wouldn't be allowed onto the day unit as that's a shared ward. It seems to be different in different areas and things are changing all the time so you'll have to play by ear I think.

Only the 12 & 20 week scan. I was lucky that I had a glucose test and the flu jab and the whooping cough jab at my 20 week scan and because my husband was already there they let him accompany me for that which I was so relieved about because I am a fainter and hate needles!

My partner wasn't/isnt allowed to any of my appointments. He was allowed to both 12 week and 20 week scans but had to wait outside until i was called in and then had to wait outside again afterwards.
We're currently having a battle over when hes allowed in during birth as im booked in for my induction next week and hes not allowed in for that either :-(

This is the current guidelines at my hospital (photo attached)

12 week, 20 week, and EPU appointments only. I've had most of my midwife appointments by phone. At the scans there are some vaccines offered and blood tests taken but he was only allowed to attend the scan itself. Had to wait in the rain to be called.

None but there would have been no need for him to come to the community midwife appointments tbh?

My partner is not allowed to attend any appointments, I haven't had my 12 week scan yet. My hospital trust is dead set on not changing their policies one bit, so I doubt even by my 20 week scan he'll be allowed.

I’m a week overdue now

Husband has been at all scans

Never saw a midwife in person til 28weeks and I go to those alone

He is allowed into the birth for the whole time im in labour too

And yes agree with others - don’t see why he would come to my midwife appointments anyway even in normal times!

12 and 20 week scan, plus fetal medicine appointments which I was incredibly grateful for. Now having regular growth scans/appointments which he can't attend.
In labour he's not allowed in until established labour and I'm told has to leave a few hours after birth. After this he can't come back and at pick up will just meet me at the door

None apart from the 20 week scan.

12 and 20 week scan. From active labour until 1 hour after birth and no visiting currently allowed. Hoping this will change soon

My DH wasn't allowed in my 12wk scan but he was for my 20wk. I'm having 4 weekly growth scans and he's allowed to those.

He's not allowed to any other appointments though, so no midwife, booking or consultant appointments. All of these I attend on my own, but tbh there's really no point in dragging your other half to these appointments as it's literally like a routine appointment.

This is crazy to see the differences in the policies at different hospitals !

My partner can visit for 3 hours each day

I can’t believe it’s so strict in some places still! Horrible

20 week scan
Consultant appointments after 24 weeks
Pregnancy assessment centre after a bleed at 30 weeks

Couldn't do 12 week scan, any growth scans, midwife appointments (though no idea why you'd want to) and some earlier assessment unit visits due to reduced movement. Some of those may be relaxed now.

Allowed in for all of labour including inductions, I'm happy with this. Many appointments have been on the phone, & at the booking appointment they'll ask about your relationship so assume they'd prefer you to be alone

So far, he has only been able to attend the 12 week scan and he’ll be able to come to the 20 week scan as well (16+4 today). I think that’s all I’d want him to come to anyway though as I think the rest is just bloods and urine checks etc

None apart from 20 week scan. Due in a couple of weeks and he's not allowed at all on postnatal ward either- absolutely no visiting hours

I should also note I've even turned down induction in part because of the restrictions- I had a long induction last pregnancy followed by a very traumatic birth and I can't face the prospect of doing that without my partner being allowed with me. So I'm opting for an elective section instead. These restrictions really do have consequences!

Mine was allowed at dating scan but didn't go as looking after other children. He can come to anomaly scan and my consultant app at hospital next week too.
It varies wildly by trust but it usually states if you can take 1 person with you on the letters, if there is no mention I would presume you should attend alone.

Fell pregnant early July and due in a few weeks
Booking appointment was over phone so he "attended" that on loudspeaker with me
12 weeks scan and bloods- only me allowed and he almost lost his mind over it. Our previous pregnancy ended in loss through a mmc and we were both scared of same again. Not being there for this scan really damaged him (and me)
20 week scan- was allowed to attend and this went some way to easing things for him
First midwife appt was 20 weeks (due to a mix up / covid) and we live rurally so midwife came to us and he was allowed to be present
24 wks, 28 wks, 32 wks midwife appointment she also came to us and he attended 2 (was working for other)
36 wks one (today) i did alone as he's away at work

I ended up in A&E at 18 weeks with suspected waters breaking/ fear of miscarriage and that was alone and incredibly traumatising for us both

around 24 weeks i had bloods taken and a GD test (was on day unit 4 hours) again completely alone and he had to wait in car park

around 30 weeks i ended up in day assessment unit for 7 hours with hyperemesis and having tests. Again this was alone whilst he waited in car park (we live 20 miles from our hospital and they couldn't give me a timescale)

Whooping cough vaccine etc at GP obv attended alone.

This is our first successful pregnancy (after the mmc during our first pregnancy in 2019) and the attending alone has been upsetting and stressful for us both. Feeling very lucky that things are improving as we approach the birth though and just grateful to have our much wanted healthy baby on the way.

Mine wasn't allowed at our 12 week one in November but was at 20 weeks in Jan, and they said from then on he can come to all further appointments if I need him to for reassurance but they ask you to come alone if you can.

Mine could come to the 12 week scan but isn’t allowed for 20 week scan. He wasn’t allowed for midwife appointments (but I wouldn’t have taken him with me anyway)

You know it's not bad going to most things alone. My husband is military and often away during pregnancies so attended few appointments. With our 1st he was working when I had my dating scan, went on deployment not long after and didn't return to the country until 4 weeks before my due date. We've been lucky as it goes as he's been present for all our kids births, he knows loads of people who completely missed it and some didn't get home for weeks after either.
Going through miscarriages completely alone is awful, I often can't contact him due to the job and have to wait for him to get in touch so I can tell him.