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When did I most likely get pregnant?

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WhatToDoHmmm · 18/02/2021 13:18

Please no judgment.

My ex and I had sex on the 23rd and 24th of January.

I also had sex with someone else on the 4th of Feb (4 days before I was due on my period).

I didn't come on.

So I have taken 4 pregnancy tests since the day I was due on my period. The last negative test I got was on Saturday the 13th of February (about 3 weeks after sex with my ex).

Tody the 18th of Feb, I had a positive pregnancy test (2 weeks after sex with the other guy)

Predicted ovulation would have been when I had sex with my ex, however in the past we've had unprotected/broken condoms when I've been ovulating and nothing.

The negative pregnancy tests have thrown me off to whether it's my ex's or not. If it was my exes wouldn't I have had a positive result in the Saturday?

I know I'm a careless idiot and there's not much that can tell me who the dad is right now.

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lucymagoo · 18/02/2021 13:21

How long are your cycles usually? Are you fairly regular?
I would have thought 4 days before your period is due would be an odd time to get pregnant, but the tests do throw it off a little. Would be very hard to tell until your dating scan.

eloiseislost · 18/02/2021 13:29

If 3 weeks after sex with your ex you still tested negative, then it's unlikely you got pregnant from him. It could be that you ovulated late, around the time you had sex with the other guy and 2 weeks later, when your period would've been due given the late ovulation, you got a positive. This is the most likely explanation from what you've said, but the dating scan will clear things up for you. I hope you get the answer you want!

nicciw87 · 18/02/2021 13:29

Dating scan will give you a clearer indication as some people have low hcg in the beginning anyway but if you just go by your pregnancy tests sounds like the 2nd guy I fell pregnant with my 3rd 4 days before my period didn't get a positive test til I was a week late and he was 3 days before his due date so dates for me were spot on even scans first one put my back 10days compared to me lmp which put me getting pregnant 4 days before my period

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WhatToDoHmmm · 18/02/2021 13:32

My cycle is usually around 26 days. I'm always a day early but I'm not sure I do ovulate as 'expected'. It's just odd that I haven't got pregnant with my ex in over 6 months of us not being very safe and on a few occasions when I'm predicted to ovulate.

Now a negative test 3 weeks after and almost a week late for my period I'm sure it would have shown up.

Which makes me think now having a positive it's the other guys but like you said a bit odd to conceive just before my period

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Lockandtees · 18/02/2021 13:35

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somethingonthecarpet · 18/02/2021 13:38

I think it will be your ex's. Assuming you ovulated around the time you had sex with him, it takes a week (approximately) after that - the egg meets the sperm and the fertilised egg then moves down - for it to actually implant in the womb lining. Then you had sex with the second guy, but the egg had already been fertilised by your ex, and probably implanted already. A week or so later, your period is late. It takes a week or two after implantation - so crucially about 3 weeks after sex - for a positive pregancy test to result. After implantation, the body starts producing HCG, and it is this HCG which a pregnancy test reads.

Interestingly, HCG stops being produced when you're about 3 months pregnant, which is why some people, when they are more than 3 months gone and have only just realised that they might be pregnant, often get negative tests at this point. They then assume they've just got a bit of wind and end up giving birth in total astonishment!

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WhatToDoHmmm · 18/02/2021 13:45

I'm not guna make excuses for my behaviour. I know what I've done is wrong and now I have to live with that. All I can do is learn from it. I do appreciate your honesty

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WhatToDoHmmm · 18/02/2021 14:36

@somethingonthecarpet thank you, yes that makes most sense to me. I'm always regular so maybe 3 weeks after intercourse was too early.

The week before my period I usually get signs I'm coming on but none this months.

When I was pregnant before with my son the test showed positive the day after my period was due, I think that's what has thrown me off. The fact it didn't show so early this time.

I've decided to order a clear blue digital in hope it will give me more clarity.

Thank you everyone for your thoughts.

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SnooperTrooper12345 · 18/02/2021 14:40

I'd guess the ex as well as I'd say 4 days before your period is a lot less likely to fall pregnant.
Obviously not impossible though.

Bing765 · 18/02/2021 14:47

I would guess the new guy and that you ovulated late. Its odd that the test would show negative 3 weeks after falling pregnant which is why I think your ex is unlikely to be the father. Have you done a clear blue weeks indicator? They're not always accurate but if it says 1-2 weeks or 2-3 weeks then it might be an indication it's the new guy. If it says 3+ weeks then your ex. A dating scan may assist but a DNA test may be needed.

Moominmiss · 18/02/2021 14:52

I’d think new guy. For it not to show up on a test until 3 weeks after sex seems quite long.

You had sex with the new guy 4 days before your period was due, but if you actually ovulated later then your period wouldn’t have actually been due when you were expecting it as everything would have been pushed back.

Once implanted it only takes a day or so to start releasing hcg. So 3 weeks from sex, even assuming the sleek survived for 5 days, then took 12 days to implant, and then a couple of days for it to start releasing hcg is only 19 days or so. And that’s assuming the longest possible dates for everything happening.

A dna test would give you clarification. You can get one done whilst still pregnant although I believe they aren’t cheap.

Moominmiss · 18/02/2021 14:53

sperm not sleek lol

Hidingunderthetable · 18/02/2021 14:55

You either reallly enjoy posting about this or there are a hell of a lot of women being very careless with unprotected sex around the time they ovulate- especially after never getting caught on in a relationship 🙄🙄

Bluntness100 · 18/02/2021 14:58

Well you know no one can tell you who the father is. It could be either man, it doesn’t matter if it is “more likely to be one or the other” . You will simoly need to have a dna test on the baby. Please don’t mislead either into believing it’s them.

Ronnii · 18/02/2021 15:04

Maybe also depends on the test used? I had the cheap little sticks showing negative for days after I had a strong positive on a clear blue

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WhatToDoHmmm · 18/02/2021 17:16

The clear blue says 2-3 weeks. I had intercourse with new guy 2 weeks ago tonight but my ex 3 weeks and 4/5 days ago. I haven't had sex in between those dates.

I was just interested in other people's opinion. Thank you all again.

The main thing for me to think about right now is that I'm healthy.

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WhatToDoHmmm · 18/02/2021 17:17

So if it was my exes being over 3 weeks weeks ago almost 4 weeks ago it would be 3+ weeks, I'm guessing. Anyway only one way to know for sure with a dna

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SendMeHome · 18/02/2021 17:20

I think it’s more likely to be the second mans. It’d be unusual to ovulate four days before your period was due, but your cycles aren’t regular and it’s not unheard of.

But the tests very much suggest that it will be the second mans, because HCG is usually detectable 12 dpo, so three weeks after sex with your ex, you’d almost definitely be getting a positive...

The positive two weeks after sex with the other man suggests it’s his.

Are you okay?

nicknamehelp · 18/02/2021 17:32

Glad you are following social distancing guidelines

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WhatToDoHmmm · 18/02/2021 17:35

@nicknamehelp I am thanks, I'm allowed a social bubble and you're allowed to change your social bubble as long as you wait x amount of time between the change.

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Bluntness100 · 18/02/2021 18:05

Are you now bubbling with the new guy? It would seem more likely he’s the father, but again it’s irrelevant you can’t know for sure, and you can’t tell either man he is for sure.

What will you do? Tell both or tell one and tell them there needs to be a dna test to rule them in or out?

I’m guessing you want to know which one it is as your child needs to know who is their biological father, and of course the man has the right to know he is to be a parent. Assuming you progress with the pregnancy that is.

SunnySideUp2020 · 18/02/2021 18:17

I would say more likely to be 2nd guy and late ovulation... only a dna test will give an answer though. Not even the dating scan when the dates are so close.

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WhatToDoHmmm · 18/02/2021 18:25

@Bluntness100

I'm not meeting up with anyone else etc..

I'm guna have to bite the bullet and tell them both. Of course I'll be getting a dna test ASAP

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SenoraSurf · 18/02/2021 18:25

The type of test you used to get the first bfp is also relevant (depends how sensitive it is).

I would say it's the ex.

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WhatToDoHmmm · 18/02/2021 18:43

The first 2 tests I took were 'clear response' the second 2 were 'golden time' de sitive for early detection. This showed negative on Saturday but positive today.

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