Pregnant, lockdown, work from home, fed yp

[Fro93]

Hello

I’m almost 7 weeks, had first part of booking appointment today by phone.

I just feel so fed up, I’m feeling crap (physically) and have absolutely zero motivation to get any work done at the moment. I haven’t been to the office since 17 March 2020 and it’s really taking it’s toll now!

In some ways I know I’m lucky that I can hide the nausea but in other ways I feel so crap, nothing to drive me to get out of bed in the morning and I’m close to under performing (solicitor, have targets for meet).

Think I just need a moan.
Anyone else feeling like this? I feel I should be happy with our news, we’ve been trying for a baby for nearly 2 years and had fertility involvement but all I want to do is cry and have a glass of wine!

You’re not alone. I am four weeks pregnant and feeling much the same. Zero motivation for anything and just want to sleep but have to work. Might be worth finding a decent no alcohol wine to get through these few months

ah congrats on being pregnant after a tough time trying! Think u can defo blame your hormones on feeling like you do! theres defo been times i could murder a glass of prosecco on a friday night haha. couple of weeks further along than you and im not nauseous but feeling exhausted and struggling with work, WFH is a challenge. i feel like im not working at full capacity at the mo. can u speak with your boss or team or anything? i know early days but maybe better to be upfront so u feel less guilt?
i do feel for you having not been to your office for that long, that must be really hard. I have managed to get into mine and can appreciate that the odd day of "normality" is beneficial.
feel free to moan, sorry dont have any words of wisdom - early pregnancy feels like should be an exciting time, but definitely seems more likely to be filled with tiredness, sickness, anxiety and up and down moods! take care of yourself and remember it wont always feel like this :) and life will hopefully become more normal in the next few months x

Feel like I could have written this, only adding daily vomiting to the mix. My mornings are a write off of nausea and vomiting til a golden period between 2 and 6. Then I might throw up again after dinner but might not. Hate not feeling 100% and interested in my job. Really taking its toll at the minute.

Im now 30 weeks, and its just got worse and worse, along with lonliness due to OH working shifts. I have two months left, so really hard to keep motivated at work. I try and get up and walk the dog before work, that helps, and I meet up with a friend every Thursday morning for a pre work walk. Hopefully someone else will comment saying it gets better.
My family live to far away to meet up, we've missed out on the baby shopping with everything bought online. I'm not enjoying pregnancy much. But then he kicks me 🥰

Yup! I'm 32+5 weeks pregnant and really struggling with this lock down more than ever. Probably a mix of being quite far along now, not being able to see friends and feeling like I've not had the chance to celebrate my first pregnancy at all as it's been spent cooped up inside! I'm working from home and all I want to do is nap, totally not motivated at all. I don't think it helps that it's winter time and gloomy outside, maybe it'll be easier with the lighter nights. Not really got much advice other than I feel the same as you.

Thanks ladies for all your support, I’m sorry you are all feeling like this too! But equally glad that it isn’t just me

The nausea is awful, I took cyclizine yesterday and fell asleep head on desk for 45 minutes oops!

The walk on a morning is a good idea I’ll try that. I’ve also told one boss but not the other and was advised to keep quiet until after 12 weeks. I was hoping for a promotion this year but don’t think that will happen now as I can apply in June but will be 25 weeks by then and will have to tell them.

I guess I’m just fed up, and then feel guilty for feeling fed up at what should be a really happy time! Waited so long for this!

If I find a way to break the cycle I’ll let you ladies know. Hope we can get through this together- can’t wait to be feeling kicks too!

Oh bless you.

Am a lawyer too. Low point this summer was having to moot conference call to disappear and throw up, then ring my boss back to ask him to run through what had happened whilst I was away (I just told him, he was understanding). It's a demanding job and when you are fuzzy attention to detail is so hard. It will likely get a lot better and you will at least have nice things in the form of scans, kicks etc. down the line.

Huge congratulations. Be kind to yourself and rest. It will pass.

Ahh congrats @Fro93! I can totally understand this! Lockdown has been really up and down!
I just got my BFP today, and am having to balance looking after DC 1 and 2 with a bit of homeschooling thrown in. I work three days a week and those days are near impossible but I try and make up for it on my days off.
Do what you can - decide on what you just do and just aim for that. Any more is a bonus!!
I’ve just ordered myself a non-alcoholic amaretto liquor! That’ll get me thru!! Haha!

OP - same here though I’m 15+3 - struggling with motivation and being in lockdown / not being able to see family and celebrate being of after lots of fertility treatment! You’re not alone!
@Lisyloo725 May I ask what/ where the non alcoholic amaretto is from?!

Same here OP! 24 weeks and I just want May to hurry up! I live near both parents and in laws but haven't seen them since my bump started growing, and I want to show it off! Worried about what to do when baby is here and whether everyone will even be able to see them! Wanted to go for a walk today but it's raining and I feel awful, but really should force myself!

Morning everyone

So I slept a bit better last night, and woke up at about 6, forced myself to get up, wash my hair, make up on, and go for a walk.

Was ready for a conference call this morning (though felt sick throughout) and finally feel a bit more like myself!
Might try get into more of a routine if I can but it is difficult!
@whenwillsantagetvaccinated how are you finding juggling billing/hours with pregnancy fatigue? I think that’s what’s playing on my mind most even though my firm are understanding I think

@TheGlitterFairy I’m so pleased you finally have a BFP after fertility treatment. I agree though it’s hard that we can’t celebrate after such a long journey!!

Maybe I’ll feel better when I’m able to tell people. We’ve got an early scan booked next Friday which will hopefully make me feel more at ease/as if this is actually happening. Have any of you had early or additional scans to try and lift your spirits?

Hi ladies
@TheGlitterFairy
TheAlcoholFreeCo is where I have ordered it from. It’s called
Lyres - AMARETTI/Amaretto, 70cl and has great reviews on non-alcoholics review sites!
Can’t wait to slurp!

@Fro93 well done on this morning!! Proud of ya! 🤩

I'm 17 weeks and while of course I'm happy and excited to be pregnant I agree I'm also so fed up and unmotivated. I'm feeling slightly better now the nausea and pregnancy headaches are easing off but there still feels like an endless stretch of banality ahead. It's so hard not seeing friends and family. I've a couple of friends due very soon and it feels so wrong that I've not seen them at all during pregnancy except for zoom calls! I'm WFH too and am basically doing the bare minimum which is unlike me.

The days that I force myself to properly get ready and go out for a walk or generally keep busy are much better. I'm really hopeful normal shops will open at some point before I'm due so I can have a mooch around to cheer me up at least! I think it's the general lack simulation that's the worst atm.

OP an early scan sounds good, it definitely helped me feel things were more real.

*lack of stimulation

The first trimester is pretty brutal. Just do what you can to get through - if that’s napping / eating all the carbs / doing the bare minimum at work and it does get easier - when you have scans and appointments it begins to feel more real and then your bump is growing too. It’s really rubbish not seeing friends and family as often but tbh you’ll be so knackered and hormonal the next couple of months that it’s best to just look after yourself. That’s how I’ve felt through all this! Xx

@Fro93 glad the walk helped! I didnt put an alarm on this morning and acctually slept till 9, so had to rush to walk the dog and have brekkie before meeting at 9 🙈. Been getting up at 5/6 all week, then a randomly good night sleep comes along, bliss 🙌💆🏼‍♀️

slept till 8 not 9! 🤭

Yep, this is me. I haven't told work yet and we're doing a big push on well-being which I'm finding quite challenging because I'm exhausted and nauseous all of the time. I normally run quite a bit for physical and mental health but I'm struggling to do that at the moment. Looking forward to letting them know in a few weeks when I know they'll be really supportive. I'm waiting until the second trimester (nearly 12 weeks now) to minimise the risk of another MC happening.

Hey @Fro93 sorry you're feeling like this. I'm very similar, I'm 6+4 and have been feeling nauseous since about 4wks then gradually getting worse. The last week I've been wretching/being sick and since Thursday been horrendous. I'm also a lawyer and WFH. Thurs fri basically got nothing done. I'm really behind on my work and now worried I'm going to get fired. It's 11.50am and I've been sick at least 6 times already today. I feel so awful I just want to lie down but I don't know what to do. My bf is begging me to tell work and ask to take holidays or go off sick the rest of the week. But I'm scared they'll find out how behind I am and we're so busy. It's so horrible I just don't know how ill cope with weeks of this 😩

Oh @strangerontheinternet I really feel for you! I haven’t been sick yet through the day fortunately, just feel nauseous all the time

I’ve less than an hour chargeable time down today... but I’ve told one boss and she knows I’m struggling (though I haven’t told my other boss who looks after figures yet...)

You know the ethos of your firm, but my view was they’d find out anyway so better to be upfront, it honestly felt like a weight had been lifted. But I know not all firms are like that

You have a genuine reason for falling behind and it should mean they can put steps in place to help you and give you someone with capacity to assist.

If you were sick 6 times and not pregnant you’d take the day off, so that’s kind of the motto I’d go with. Appreciate though with law it’s very hard to switch off and it’s stressful! What area are you in?

@strangerontheinternet I'm sure you will know more about this than me if you work in law but it is my understanding that you are protected from discrimination due to pregnancy from when you tell your employer about it and that covers pregnancy-related sickness and absence so it might be a good thing to tell them? If you are underperforming because you are sick because of your pregnancy they can't fire you for it if they know the reason. As I say I am not a lawyer so you might know better!

Definitely taking a few days off might help. I had a week of annual leave at 11 weeks and was worried it would be wasted but that was actually the only week I wasn't sick every day. It's amazing the difference made by less pressure, getting up, eating, lying down, and sleeping when you want. Really helped to recharge.

Honestly though if you're being sick that often it sounds like you're having a worse time of it than I did. You might be at risk of dehydration and find yourself forced to take time out. You could also speak to your GP - there are anti-sickness medications that are safe.

Look after yourself!

@Fro93

Hello

I’m almost 7 weeks, had first part of booking appointment today by phone.

I just feel so fed up, I’m feeling crap (physically) and have absolutely zero motivation to get any work done at the moment. I haven’t been to the office since 17 March 2020 and it’s really taking it’s toll now!

In some ways I know I’m lucky that I can hide the nausea but in other ways I feel so crap, nothing to drive me to get out of bed in the morning and I’m close to under performing (solicitor, have targets for meet).

Think I just need a moan.
Anyone else feeling like this? I feel I should be happy with our news, we’ve been trying for a baby for nearly 2 years and had fertility involvement but all I want to do is cry and have a glass of wine!

I'm 6 weeks pregnant and completely understand how you're feeling. Feel free to message me! x

Thanks @Fro93 and @BlueberryPancake21 yeah I think I might tell them early. I have the end of the week booked off this week as I have an early scan so just trying to get through till then. I'm in commercial for a small firm there's only me and my boss in my team and I have no additional support, no admin etc so I'm just swamped 24/7 but my fees aren't even that good cause I have so much admin to get through. I really hate this job/firm/boss and was actually looking to move before and was offered a new job literally days after I found out I was pg but I've turned it down because I don't think I'd even qualify for Maternity allowance based on the gov calculator 🙁 just trying to get through till sept and hope I don't ever have to go back!! So I'm stressed to the max as it is, crying at my desk has been a daily occurrence the 18m I've been there. Really hope the sickness goes away so the next 8 months don't drag. Already considering starting Mat leave as early as I can just to get out. But know I'll regret that once baby is here. Just praying everything goes ok with my early scan and then concentrate on getting to my 12wk scan. It would be so awful to have turned down a job and be throwing up 24/7 then things go wrong 🙁

I feel your pain. I'm 8wks and WFH with first baby and it's really getting me down. The noise levels from my neighbours in the block of flats where I live has become apocalyptic, with constant screaming, tv noises, yelling, nocturnal furniture dragging, drilling and more.
I'm a financial journalist and my job requires a lot of concentration and attention to detail. Last week I made an error in a story that thankfully got corrected quickly but I partly blame it on being so distracted with all the noise. Much as I love my hubby I don't think it's healthy for us to spend so much time WFH together. I feel like both our work stress is bleeding into the flat. I wish we could get some space from each other and see other friends and family members. I guess I'm grateful for not commuting and always being near a toilet if I need a little vom but frankly this sensation of being trapped is intolerable.

Rant over... and congrats on your pregnancy!