gender reveal

[Sdbsouthcoast]

Hey lovely people,so I had a scan today which gave me the gender of the baby sealed in an envelope so it's a surprise for me and my partner even though I know it's early at 16+5 this is likely my only child as it's an IVF pregnancy so it's all a big deal to us and we want to make the most of it

My question is,with this lock down I can't see my family,as they live in London,I am on the south coast. I would love for the gender reveal to be a surprise for both me and partner but also friends and family,but what I would love most is to capture reactions of everyone.. Most don't even know I am pregnant!

Any ideas? What have you lot all done xx

The general vibe is showing one person the note in envelope, getting them to order the blackballoon with the right coloured confetti and me and my partner blowing it up and popping it whilst on zoom or facetime to others,but I'm not sure if you can record on zoom or if anyone has any other ideas anyway

Thanks x

OP knows her friends and family better than us, she's not asking IF she should do one but HOW. Jeez, what are you trying to achieve with comments like 'cringe' how are you hoping OP will feel when reading them? Embarrassed? Ashamed? That she herself is 'cringe worthy'? What's wrong with people. It's about celebrating, why put your two pence in?

Congratulations firstly!

I can not believe the negative comments on this thread!

I'm actually holding a virtual reveal on Zoom today for close family and friends 😊 we posted the sealed envelope to a balloon company who will then make the balloon for us. We are really excited. Also, we will be recording the zoom screen so we can watch peoples reactions back too, hope this helps 😊

You can record on Zoom, some info on it here:
support.zoom.us/hc/en-us/articles/201362473-Local-recording
It will save to your PC and then you can upload it. Might be worth a practice in advance, just in case.
Also to note, if you have a free account the time limit for the meeting is 40 minutes. Good luck! :)

Yes I did think of this actually I thought about doing it with them boomf card that pop out,but they are like £8 a pop but definitely worth looking into the confetti too, thank you x

Thank you, I get what you mean but yes we are a very close bunch of people,not loads and loads of us either,and we are all very sharing in terms of each of our life's kids and families,it all has a family vibe you know, just trying to make the most of it x

Thank you x

Sounds like the route we will go, do you mind telling me what the company is please, at thus moment in time I'm trying to choose someone to show then get them to send to me and I blow it up lol oh the faff! And congrats to you too! X

Congratulations, you could get a friend to pop the balloon in another screen.on zoom so your reaction is recorded too.

Fab thanks for the info,sounds like zoom or Microsoft teams is the way to go,and definitely will do a dry run before,would be my luck for it to mess up xx

Ohh yeah didn't think of that! Thank you x

Could you do a reveal with just yourself and your partner and film it then post everyone a confetti cannon and they can have their own mini reveal too x

Why not wait until baby arrives? That will be the biggest surprise of all.
I know you're excited- but the gender reveal is more important to you than anyone else. Whereas when the baby is born, people are naturally more excited and then you'll get a better reaction.

I don't want to wait till baby arrives because baby might not make it to term,I lost my IVF twins previously, so trying to celebrate the moments I can while I am pregnant,nothing is to say I won't go full term but I guess just trying to make the most of it xx

@Sdbsouthcoast I get what you mean I'm pregnant with an ivf pregnancy. Some people will just never understand🙄we popped the ballon and recorded it. Then FaceTimed everyone and watched their reactions will they were watching the video. You can screen record to watch back. I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Agree with saffire the “gender reveal” is never really very (genuinely) interesting to other people. I wish people would realise this! It’s far more of interest when you hear a friends had a healthy baby as well as then finding out its sex too.

At nearly 17 weeks the likelihood of anything bad happening is tiny OP, I get your anxiety about past losses and I’m really sorry for this x

I think filming a cute little video would be good because it means you can just send it to everyone individually rather than dealing with zoom dropping out or something.
Do a confetti balloon and pop it on camera and then send it to your friends and family.
Much easier logistically!

Sorry so many people have been really catty and nasty to you OP x

@sundowners

Agree with saffire the “gender reveal” is never really very (genuinely) interesting to other people. I wish people would realise this! It’s far more of interest when you hear a friends had a healthy baby as well as then finding out its sex too.

At nearly 17 weeks the likelihood of anything bad happening is tiny OP, I get your anxiety about past losses and I’m really sorry for this x

This should really be prefixed with the words "in my opinion" as it's certainly not fact, it's just one view in a world where we are all allowed to have differing opinions. I wish people would understand that.....

Fuck me, talk about captain bring downs on here!

I think it's an awesome ideas OP!

Sadly a lot of people won't get it,if I knew I could have more I probably wouldn't be bothered making a fuss over to some what seems small, it's all about getting through each day week month bit by bit and that's not just people that have gone through IVF,thank you and good luck with yours xx

This is where we disagree because my friends and family,obviously knowing how I am and what I have been through will be thrilled and just as excited,I get it it's not for everyone x

Filming and sending would be a good option for sure, I could tell them to face time me after so I can see their reactions, thank you x

Yeah they don't know the support I have in terms of friends or family or indeed my friends relationship with fertility etc so to each their own,I wasn't asking if I should or shouldn't it's what I would like to do,just after ideas,thank you for your reply,and response to above person x

Thank you xx

I've never done a big gender reveal with ours, just told people if they asked. I've seen a few with the colour cannons on FB.

With current one we may hold off telling anyone about it until we find out gender, although a lot of private clinics aren't doing gender scans in lockdown so it'd put it back further. We had a mc in July so just hoping all is well at the dating scan in 2.5wk atm.

I know everyone is different but have you thought of just waiting and then finding out the sex of your baby when it arrives? I think that this is a much more special way to find out as a couple first and then let people know. But then i'm old :o