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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 18:16

Hey lovely people,so I had a scan today which gave me the gender of the baby sealed in an envelope so it's a surprise for me and my partner even though I know it's early at 16+5 this is likely my only child as it's an IVF pregnancy so it's all a big deal to us and we want to make the most of it

My question is,with this lock down I can't see my family,as they live in London,I am on the south coast. I would love for the gender reveal to be a surprise for both me and partner but also friends and family,but what I would love most is to capture reactions of everyone.. Most don't even know I am pregnant!

Any ideas? What have you lot all done xx

The general vibe is showing one person the note in envelope, getting them to order the blackballoon with the right coloured confetti and me and my partner blowing it up and popping it whilst on zoom or facetime to others,but I'm not sure if you can record on zoom or if anyone has any other ideas anyway

Thanks x

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Jesskir89 · 22/01/2021 18:42

My friend did one today online but also filmed it and sent it to those who couldn't get online :)

Sheleg · 22/01/2021 18:48

Just text people or call them. Gender (sex, if we're splitting hairs) are really tacky.

notanaturalmum · 22/01/2021 18:52

OP if you are being serious then I think I'm too old for modern life.
I really can't tell if you are joking. Are you joking?Is this a thing?
Do you mind me asking your age?
I genuinely don't know anybody out of all my friends, extended friends who have even done anything close to what you are proposing.

I mean this in the nicest way.

It's a lot of effort.

FWIW I had an IVF pregnancy and spent the majority of it petrified that it wouldn't work out.
I guess I'm envious that you are able to be this excited.
Wishing you all the best xx

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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 18:52

I can film our reactions and send it but I would love to be able to capture other people's reactions, so I can re watch it /play it back etc,don't get me wrong I don't care what sex the baby is,but I want to make the most of it because I'm only going to get to do this once x

Any other ideas? X

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 22/01/2021 18:54

If you can get them to use video and record the call.

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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 18:55

Why would it be a joke, I just want to celebrate every little milestone I can while I have the chance, I lost IVF twins previously too,and this pregnancy so far has had its scares too,trust me still petrified!

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SummerHouse · 22/01/2021 18:55

I wonder if local news would cover it? It's a good news covid related (sort of indirectly in that you can't do this in person) story. Its unlikely but worth an ask. Then everyone could tune in and they could do a live reveal for you. Personally, if I worked in news I would use the red arrows with pink or blue smoke doing a fly by. That would be memorable! We need a nice story like this with a bit of suspense and excitement thrown in. Congratulations on your IVF baby. Flowers

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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 18:55

Thanks for your reply x

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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 18:57

Texting and calling misses the part for me that's important,which is capturing the reactions and being able to watch them back,it's not the end of the world of course,what can I say I don't use social media it's just something I would love to have,thanks for the reply x

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HungryHippo20 · 22/01/2021 18:58

Never really understand why people write such awful comments on these threads. If you don't like the idea of a "reveal" you can just keep scrolling there's no need whatsoever to share your opinion when it's clearly the opposite of the OP. She wants to have one, so be it.....I don't think she asked for opinions on whether she should or shouldn't, she asked for ideas. Each to their own, be a little kinder people!

OP ignore the negative comments, the same type of people always come out on these threads.....hope you find a nice way to share your news! It's a very exciting time 🥰

pistachionuts · 22/01/2021 19:00

I loved seeing other people’s reactions about the pregnancy announcement... but as for the sex nobody really cared that much beyond the baby being all healthy of course, the sex is one or the other and people will have the same reaction either way.

pistachionuts · 22/01/2021 19:01

Not that it’s not a lovely idea to do something for you and your DH to find out together and film it to share with others/keep for yourselves to look back on :)

allieop · 22/01/2021 19:02

You just need to ignore some of the replies you will get on this post, people on here think the word gender is criminal and that reveals are the most stupid things in the world.

I absolutely love gender reveals! I'm 100% going to be having one myself. Being pregnant is something that for a lot of people only happens once, so why not make the most of it and celebrate every way you can! Don't even mention a baby shower you will get called a beggar only doing it for presents 🤣🤣

I'm sorry I can't help with how to record it though I'm a bit useless when it comes to technology, someone could record on their phone maybe if they are on zoom on an iPad?

Whatever you end up doing I hope you have a lovely time ☺️

JiltedJohnsJulie · 22/01/2021 19:02

Why would it be a joke, I just want to celebrate every little milestone I can while I have the chance, I lost IVF twins previously too,and this pregnancy so far has had its scares too,trust me still petrified.

Oh you poor thing, that must have been so awful for both of you.

We've had a couple of gender reveals last year in the wider family, both times they were a surprise for the couple too.

Not sure how they did that though. Hope you find a way.

If I'd gone through what you have and was having my only baby, I'd be enjoying it too.

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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 19:04

Haha that actually made me laugh,it would be nice to let everyone know and it is my sense of humour to be that extra! Why the he'll not right?!
If I could see people I could literally just set up phone and get it like that, in fact I'd love to see my family and just watch their faces but.. COVID! I will certainly keep that one in mind
THANK YOU X

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Changethetoner · 22/01/2021 19:05

You asked what we have done - well we didn't know the sex of the baby until the birth - so once the baby was born and we found out - we told people the baby had been born, the weight, the sex. Nothing fancy with balloons, but it was special, exciting, and we received lots of congratulations messages.

I don't know any families that have done any sort of pre-birth gender-reveal anouncement/reveal. Some couples found out the sex from a scan and did tell people, but not in a huge party type thing. There's only a binary option, male or female, so there's not that much of a surprise either way. I think it's popular in other countries, eg USA, but here in the UK, not so much. At least not in my circle of families/friends. What I mean is, it is not normal, and you are not "missing out" if you omit this. Seriously, it is not a thing.

SummerHouse · 22/01/2021 19:05

Just going back to my local news idea. They could set up video links with family and friends to get reactions.

notanaturalmum · 22/01/2021 19:09

I didn't mean to offend you OP - obvs I'm not up with current trends.

If it's all at the same time, then I would recommend doing a zoom on a computer - max 16 people otherwise grid view will mess up.
Film your monitor using your phone and
announce it with you and your hubby doing the balloon.

I think this will be the least faffy way to do it.

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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 19:10

I don't take anything to heart, just after any little idea,to be honest if I knew I could have more children I probably wouldn't be that fussed about it, again not the end of the world if I can't capture reactions etc,just hard trying to remember everything but obviously doing it during lock down and then the added stress of if the pregnancy is going to go to term... But I'm not the only one and I am incredibly great full to be where I am now, thanks for your response x

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Verysurprised · 22/01/2021 19:10

I don't know about Zoom, but you can record
meetings in Microsoft Teams.
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, lovely that you are wanting to embrace and treasure every moment of it!

Bohemond · 22/01/2021 19:11

Boak

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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 19:12

Agreed me nor family are bothered by the gender aside from family having bets on it lol as long as it's happy and healthy, more just a moment I don't want to forget x

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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 19:14

It would only get shared amongst family and close friends anyway,I'm not on social media,but amongst us all we are really close,after all these years I know they will all be shocked/ excited for the news hence wanting to get their reactions too xx

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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 19:17

Thank you, it's not the end of the world if it doesn't happen, just feels like I want to do it and I'm just going with that at the moment,navigating ideas because of COVID makes it more difficult,but hey ho, let's see what happens,thank you and good luck with yours too xx

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Sdbsouthcoast · 22/01/2021 19:20

Thank you, I don't pretend to be so hard up because I might not be able to do it,it's just something I feel like I have seen can do and can look back on,I know people can't have children and I until a few months ago was that person too, it's been incredibly hard. But here I am trying my best to be positive and make the most of it all,thanks for your reply x

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