how does midwife reveal the gender?

[raaga]

Hi,

We would like to host a gender reveal party. We want midwife to tell a third person about the gender so they can arrange the party accordingly. Can we speak to midwife to let third person know about the gender? is it possible? once the scan is complete, can we give a third person number so they can text them directly. Please suggest.

Thanks

Just to add, if it was anything like at my 20wk NHS scan you can see what they are looking at throughout the scan and by the time the sonographer told us the sex it was already rather obvious so just be aware!

No one is shooting the OP down in flames, merely asking her to appreciate that she is attending a medical procedure. Imagine being the poor sonographer who had to break tragic news to the previous patient. Then comes someone with this trivialising request.

Plus the whole gender/sex thing is a relevant thing to consider. The whole 'gender reveal' nonsense is one of the things driving the excessive gendering of children. I had DC in the 1980s when no one knew the sex of their baby in advance. I read a magazine article about a woman who, very unusually, and for a medical reason, had been told her baby's sex. The whole article was about how she was then able to choose a name and decorate the nursery in the 'right' colour. She spoke about how she and her DH were looking forward to doing XYZ with the baby now they knew it's sex. Basically they constructed an entire set of expectations for this poor child who wasnt even born yet on the basis of its sex. Mad, I thought, and yet this is now commonplace. No wonder we have children growing up feeling stifled by what 'a boy' or 'a girl' can supposedly be.

I'd recommend a private scan who will probably be more accommodating 😊 Congratulations

Some of these replies are shocking! Give the girl a break!

Sex, ffs. Not gender

I wonder if the sonographer will be happy to write the predicted gender, such 'non binary' or ' gender fluid' on the envelope? You will have to wait around 18 years to find out if she's right though OP

@StillWeRise

No one is shooting the OP down in flames, merely asking her to appreciate that she is attending a medical procedure. Imagine being the poor sonographer who had to break tragic news to the previous patient. Then comes someone with this trivialising request.

Plus the whole gender/sex thing is a relevant thing to consider. The whole 'gender reveal' nonsense is one of the things driving the excessive gendering of children. I had DC in the 1980s when no one knew the sex of their baby in advance. I read a magazine article about a woman who, very unusually, and for a medical reason, had been told her baby's sex. The whole article was about how she was then able to choose a name and decorate the nursery in the 'right' colour. She spoke about how she and her DH were looking forward to doing XYZ with the baby now they knew it's sex. Basically they constructed an entire set of expectations for this poor child who wasnt even born yet on the basis of its sex. Mad, I thought, and yet this is now commonplace. No wonder we have children growing up feeling stifled by what 'a boy' or 'a girl' can supposedly be.

Oh the poor child 🙄

I'm sure said child was fed and dressed. We don't need to get butt hurt that if it was a girl it had a room painted pink.

Why is this such a thing now?! My DD is dressed in pink and flowers because I like it. If she so happens to not want to wear that when she's older then I'm not going to glue it to her!

not my kind of thing, but this is how, I gather, it works!
That couldn't have sounded any more sneer-ry if you tried!!
😂😂😂

Why is this such a thing now?! My DD is dressed in pink and flowers because I like it.

Nothing wrong with pink or flowers; pink is a lovely colour, flowers are beautiful things. I suppose people will wonder whether you'd dress a DS in pink and flowers, though. If you would, then obviously your reason for dressing your DD this way simply is that you like these things. If not, then you are doing it because you believe some colours and patterns are for girls and some are for boys... and that is what people take issue with, the gender socialisation that starts right from the moment we know the sex of a baby. How harmful you think it is depends on a lot of things; you might not think it is an issue at all, but I am sure you can understand why others would?

You want to host a gender reveal party? good god!

My sonographer was happy to look for gender :) I wanted her to just tell me but you can ask them to write it down on a piece of paper!
It depends on the hospitals policies really :) some won’t tell you, some will! Before your scan just ask what the possibility of it is, if they won’t look then maybe private scan is best option :) good luck!

I had such horrible anxiety about my 20 week scan, finding out boy or girl was a complete afterthought! We got all through the scan (with me asking if everything looked ok about 100 times) and then asked if it was possible to tell the sex. Some people do get bad news at this scan or it identifies medical problems, so not to be taken lightly

You want to host a gender reveal party? confused good god!
What on earth is wrong with you?
Op wasn't asking your permission approval or even your opinion.

@notacooldad here here !!! Dunno how some people can be so spiteful !!!

SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion

You want to host a gender reveal party? good god!

You want to make yourself sound grossly stuck up and vile? Good god!

You will need to go private if you want these kind of "extras", though I'd recommend still attending your NHS anomaly scan as some of the private "sonographers" are not well trained and will not disclose abnormalities, as outed in an article on BBC news recently.

I’ve got a scan next week. I’m not finding out the sex anyway but it does say on my letter that they will not write anything down and will only be told to you verbally and also it’s not 100% accurate.

I think personally if I were you I’d book a private scan for this kind of thing, it is after all a medical appointment and I would think the nhs services are very busy to be phoning or texting your friends in order for them to arrange a party for you.

@SmidgenofaPigeon

Sorry, I actually meant to say sickly, not sucky! You’re not going to be able to host a party in the near future though, are you?

To be fair, it was a pretty accurate auto correct 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sonagrapher won't give out confidential information to anyone other than you. So, no they won't write it on a piece of paper.

It's highly likely that this will potentially be the case for a private scan as well. Its confidential information and for the patient only unless you disclose it yourself.

Of course the sonographer won't agree to this.that's crazy.