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Will my son be allowed to come to 12 week scan?

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BerylSilverstone · 09/01/2021 19:24

Hi,
I’m due to have my 12 week scan in a couple of weeks. My husband would like to attend it but we would have no one to look after our son (without breaking lockdown rules). My son is 7, so if my husband was to attend my son would need to come with us.
I don’t mind going on my own, would obviously rather my husband be there but just wondered if anyone knows if a child can accompany you at this time?
Thanks x

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Crazycatlady83 · 09/01/2021 21:41

Our hospital is really strict one person is allowed to accompany (they sent someone’s DP away when I was waiting as they had their son with them). I had to go on my own and DH looked after our DS! There was about 12 mums to be in the waiting room and about half of them were on their own.

ScottishStardust · 09/01/2021 21:56

Our hospital doesn't allow children in, unless it's an absolutely must, even prior to covid! But be prepared your soon and husband may be asked to leave if the sonography can't concentrate.

Also, god forbid it should happen, have you thought about what if everything isn't ok and how you'd feel having your son present? Not wanting to scare you but just thinking out of the box too

Purplethrow · 09/01/2021 22:04

No children are allowed at our local hospital either.

SoonToBeMrs91 · 09/01/2021 22:05

Unfortunately in my trust partners are only allowed for 20 week scan. Noone allowed for the 12 week one. Check with your local trust.

Pittapatta · 09/01/2021 22:09

I hope you have a wonderful scan. But I have had bad news at scans and it is really not the place for children. It is a health check on your baby and your son would be old enough to understand what is being said. Maybe go and save the good news for him when you get home

LadyPenelope68 · 09/01/2021 22:10

No, it’s not allowed and some hospitals still aren’t even allowing partners.

Trumplosttheelection · 09/01/2021 22:18

Absolutely not.

indemMUND · 09/01/2021 22:27

Definitely no kids even way before this. You'd be lucky to have your husband in now.

ForeverBubblegum · 09/01/2021 22:38

Is their anyone who would be happy to go on a long walk with him? Not ideal but the appointments aren't that long, so would be feasible. Your only allowed to meet one person for exercise, so you wouldn't be able to socialise when you drop him off, but if they waited slightly up the street from you, he could walk 20 metres or so by himself while you watch from a distance.

CandyLeBonBon · 09/01/2021 22:42

Why don't you go on your own and FaceTime/live stream so that your husband and son can watch remotely (assuming sonography Tis happy to do that)?

movingonup20 · 09/01/2021 22:54

My dd wasn't allowed long before covid, it's a medical appointment so can't have potential distractions and they unfortunately sometimes have bad news

catfeets · 09/01/2021 22:56

My hospital have always specified that no children are allowed in to scans. In non-Covid times it was limited to 1 adult.

Cyclewidow46 · 09/01/2021 23:32

In the hospital where I work children are not allowed anywhere in the hospital unless they are the patient. Definitely not allowed in for scans.

humhumit · 10/01/2021 09:15

Not usually if NHS, are they letting partners attend with Covid now ?

sunshinecitrus1 · 10/01/2021 09:51

At my local trust, you can either have your partner or children come with you. However you can’t have everyone in so if you have children as well, your partner has to wait outside with them in the car. I think it’s probably best you call your local trust and see what the current rules are in your area as all seem to be a little different. Good luck with your 12 week scan, I am currently waiting for my 12 week scan date letter! Flowers

TooManyDinosaurs1 · 10/01/2021 10:14

I saw someone arrive to an antenatal appointment for a scan with a 7 year old (ish) and they were stopped from entering the building, someone came out to talk to them and the woman agreed to let the security guard watch her son outside sat on a chair whilst she went in for the scan. She was clearly quite far along so I’m assuming the appointment was quite important. I highly doubt a child would be allowed in when they won’t even let father’s into the scans in many parts. My husband hasn’t been to any scans.

I don’t think I’d want a 7 year old in a scan anyway even if it was allowed, if you get bad news how would you handle that with a child present?

RosieGirl27 · 10/01/2021 10:19

No NHS hospitals I know of are letting children in unless they are patients.

Iwantacookie · 10/01/2021 10:25

Sorry to jump on your post op but is no children at scans a recent thing? Ds1 came to my scan with dd 17 years ish ago and he would of been 12 months ish at the time.

THATbasicSNOWFLAKE · 10/01/2021 10:28

I have taken a toddler in pram before (2-3 years ago) however this meant dp had to stay in the waiting room until we knew all was ok

Littlepaws18 · 10/01/2021 10:29

As far as I'm aware partners are allowed to go to the 20 week scan. So I would check with your NHS provider. Band your son won't be-able to go.

thethoughtfox · 10/01/2021 10:42

Don't bring a child if you don't need to. People are, unfortunately, told very difficult things at these scans.

Oneandabean · 10/01/2021 10:58

@Iwantacookie it was strictly no children when I had my first 9 years ago

MimiDaisy11 · 10/01/2021 11:56

My scan letter says no children are allowed - you're best to contact your trust as each have different rules.

Ymlaen · 10/01/2021 12:19

In our Trust (before COVID) children had to wait in the waiting room with an adult. I once saw a child in the waiting room when a woman came out of her scan crying and very upset. The child was very confused and had to be taken out of the hospital.

Please don't take children to scans.

kittenpeak · 10/01/2021 12:40

I think the important question here is who will look after your child when you’re giving birth! They won’t allow a child to the scan. I think they even stopped allowing them to scans before Covid

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